Can I really hide my BA?

lou231179 wrote:I generally think most people that aren't close friends wouldn't have the nerve to say anything anyway. I've gone up quite a few sizes and no one has actually asked me outright (my family and friends all know anyway) I catch the odd person glancing but no one has actually asked!

I totally agree with the above............I went from No boobs to 460cc and at 1st hid it well but after a few months I didnt hid them anymore but although I have seen people notice them and their reactions not one person has said anything to my face and some of them are family members from my hubby side so I would think they would have the balls to say something but they dont lol....



I told all my family and only 1 close friend



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Hi Tracy, I'm also keeping things for myself because my dad is over-conservative and fully against surgery and (from experience) my mother is not able to keep a secret. I'm an expert when it comes to hiding lol. I come from a small catholic island where the word spreads quickly and for some people plastic surgery is still a taboo (including my in-laws). Ignorant I know, but anyways...
To start with, I'm getting the surgery abroad. I bought panchos (only EUR 12 from C&A), tunics (bec they are meant to have a wide fit), and a few wide/long scarfs to 'wrap' myself in them.
If my parents notice I'll tell them that I stuffed my bra with silicone paddings, or worst case scenario (if they see me in a bikini) I'll tell them that I had Macrolane because it sounds less dramatic.
I hate lying to my parents and it's not a good example but that's how they are unfortunately. If something goes wrong with the surgery they won't even know and that's very sad. I will definitely miss their support.
I promise myself that I will never be close-minded with my children because I don't want them to hide things from me.
Good luck Tracy, if this is what makes us happy we should go for it no matter what xxx

wow xaxa your post brought a tear to my eye. I am very very close to my mum and dad but I just know that they would forbid me to have un-necessary surgery. It sounds mad to some people as I am 32 so don't need to ask their permission.... But part of the reason Im not telling them is that I don't wanna upset them as I know they would be devastated/very disappointed/so upset etc etc. I do feel guilty as I know I should just be grateful that I have healthy breasts etc etc.... I have my boyfriend for support so I am lucky. When are you having your surgery? xx

OMG you have the same thoughts as me. Sometimes I say to myself "why do I need this when I'm lucky enough to have healthy breasts" and think of all my relatives who died with cancer... but on the other side I know that if I don't get them done, I won't live a happy life. And let's face it, it's not a dangerous or serious surgery after all.
I'm 27 and like you, I still have to ask for my dad's opinion (same for my older sisters who are 37 and 39 both married lol). I have the classical example of a strict dad (the type that wants you to be on time for dinner every day) and he's quite grumpy too. That's why we're very scared of him lol. He's like the father in-law in "meet the fockers". For example, he would never say "well done" if you do something good because he is always expecting something better. When I got my Masters degree I was so happy, but he grumbled "you didn't get a distinction" — what an anti-climax!!! Imagine if I tell him I'm getting a boob job... he will flip!!!

Oh I forgot to answer your question, I'm planning to get my surgery in March 2012 unless I will have to change my plans again. What keeps me from doing it now is that in December we're going for a skiing holiday with my family and I don't think it will be healthy to go skiing 3 months post-op. I usually ski fast and do silly things, so if I'm super careful everyone will notice my 'strange' behaviour.

Oh yeah you are better off waiting hun and enjoy your holiday first. I've had my surgery booked since May, due to holiday committments and I cannot believe it is next Thursday that I am in. Now it is getting closer I am having all kinds of guilty/negative thoughts mainly guilt that I haven't told my parents. Im not backing out now tho.... xx

Hey Tracy and xaxa - I'm 32 as well and my dad just passed away, but my mom is super conservative, etc etc. Anyway, I could't tell her and it scared me so much that if anything happened she wouldn't know and we just lost my dad, but fortunately all was well. I'm sure everything will go well with you girls too!

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ali

alexandra so sorry to hear about your dad, that must be so hard for you. xxx

Thank u so much Tracy. Yea it's really hard, mostly because I'm not married yet, so he won't get to walk me down the aisle or meet his grandkids. He was a bit older than my mum but it was very sudden.

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Tracy, I worried and felt incredibly guilty that my parents didnt know I was having surgery and a general aneasthetic, what if anything happened etc. Thing is the surgery is over in about an hour and you just have to be positive. I was fine. Speaking to my parents on skype since my op has been tricky not being able to mention it!! X

Hi Alexandra I'm sorry to hear about your dad. It is surely not an easy thing to live with our parent's loss. That will only make you a stronger woman. My thoughts are with you

Losing my parents is one of my biggest fears, so I can only imagine your pain . My dad is 65 now and is 10 years older than my mum but he is very fit whereas my mum is very overweight!!! So I think one balances out the other. I am yet to get married and have children and the thought of them not being around for that is terrifying! Thinking of you Alexandra xx

Thank you so much girls, that means so much to me! My mum is 20 years younger than he was so I'll have her for a long while I hope!!!

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ali

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Hey Alexandra



Sorry to hear about your Dad.



My Mum passed away earlier in the year. But luckily my Dad is good and although he doesnt agree, he is supportive and even lent me the money. I wasnt going to tell him as I thought he wouldnt understand but it turned out well for me.



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Hi Claire - so sorry to hear about your mum, it's such a hard time, but it sounds as if your dad is lovely - I hope you have a long time with him!

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ali