Family and ba

Hi how has every ones family taken the news of your ba my mum is supportive my sister is against it but more for jealousy but me and my brother are really close he is ten yrs older than me he is supportive and makes jokes about it but he's my brother and I feel bit uncomfortable talking bout new boobs around him and not shore how it will be after I get my new boobies lol

My family consists of me, my 2 kiddies and my mum. My mum has been supportive of this since the beginning when I felt awful after breastfeeding my last... she cried for me when I eventually showed her and she came to every drs app while pursuing the NHS route and then helped me with consultations and staying with me for 2weeks post op when I then went private (NHS just haven't got the money for it all anymore, even though I qualified).... She's been great, slightly overwhelmed with looking after me and my kiddies and animals for 2 weeks and wants a few days of complete peace now she has gone home haha but she's been brill for me...
glad to hear your mum is supporting you too, it's a shame about your sister, but hopefully she will come round :) xxx

Hey Lacey, only my Hubby and my Mother-in-Law know about me planning my BA, I'm hoping nobody else will notice, or if they do they won't be rude enough to ask lol! 
It's good that you have your Mums support hun. Your brother is probably used to teasing you cause your his 'lil sis , but if it makes you uncomfortable tell him and I'm sure he'll stop   xx

I have my partner to look after me my mother inlaw paid half my cost for my ba she was against it but then when my fella explained it was something I had always wanted and she thought bout it she came round and has been brill I have children as well and 3 pets was it hard your recovery.

Hey ellie all my friends and my family know apart from my dad two of my friends are mums on school yard and they are more excited than me lol they can't wait to see them lol

my recovering actually couldn't have been much better - although my daughter (6yrs) actually caught me anice one on my left one last night as she was over excited and we were messing about a bit...
I have a 9month german shepherd who is HUGE and 2 cats, my 2yr old boy was great - just kept telling him mummy was sore and let him see my incisions and he was brilliant... everytime I get changed now he points at them and says OW! so hes been great, my little girl has been a help and my mum fed and looked after animals and such for a few days, within 4/5 days I was up and about almost normal but struggling with anything too physical as it could pull in my muscle... still does a little now... for example shutting the boot of the var and such, but apart from that im good :) xx

That's brill hun, I envy you 'cause I'm going to be paranoid in the early days about people noticing lol!
I might feel differently after my boobies are done and I could feel confident enough to tell a few more people, we'll see xx

Aww that good glad it went well I have 2 cats and a Shih  tzi my kids are 13 11 9 5 and my youngest is 4 on 10th march 3 days b4 my ba x

Hey babe,

My husband took the news quite bad at first couldn't for the life of him understand why I would need or want one. After a month of explaining he finally came around to the idea and now he's just as excited as me and cant wait, although he says he isn't looking forward to the attention they're going to bring.......That's his mind working overtime! My mum is supportive and can understand completely why I'm getting them done, I've always wanted big boobs, when I was about 7 my mum says she remembers me rolling socks up and sticking them in my crop tops under my vests! She doesn't however know how big I'm going and she thinks I'm having a small implant   

My brother doesn't want me to get one - he can't understand my reasons - he just thinks it's a waste of money. I'm not bothered about him not understanding though as he'll just have to get used to the idea - he also told me not to go big and fake - which I completely am! So overall, yep. I have a pretty good support system! Xx

Boney1992 wrote:
My husband took the news quite bad at first couldn't for the life of him understand why I would need or want one. After a month of explaining he finally came around to the idea and now he's just as excited as me and cant wait, although he says he isn't looking forward to the attention they're going to bring.......That's his mind working overtime! 

Exact same reaction from mine, I had to explain that having nice boobs was not going to turn me into an adulterer     

It's great that we all have support xx

    Hahaha, yep!

Lol boney x

My family were pretty against it to start off with, babe. I told my mum and my sister and at first they were so, so against it. My mum thought of the worst and started thinking a BA would either kill me or I'd end up with boobs the size of Katie Price's! However, after months of being unhappy, my mum and sister started to come around and they agreed to come to a consultation with me. I made sure I did so much research about BAs and the statistics surrounding it and I educated my family on all the pros and cons. My mum actually cried after my first consultation.. She was so upset and was so convinced that it would all end tragically. However, after a long-ish time I managed to persuade her and she reluctantly accepted my decision. I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 20 and that is all because I was too self conscious of my flat chest.. so my mum knew of my insecurities and was desperate for me to find happiness and feel normal. So I guess, in a way, she knew that I did need a BA! :) Within 2 months of convincing my mum I had my BA and now she couldn't be happier with my results! On the day of my op she actually said 'Wow they're not even that big are they?' Haha I was like 'cheers, mum, just what I want to hear straight after having a BA haha!'

My mum, dad and brothers and sisters are so happy for me now! They all say I really suit my boobs as they are a perfect size for my frame! Everytime I wear a padded bra they all go 'Ooooh, boobs!' haha.. And even my dad said on the day of my op 'You look so beautiful.. So feminine now!' Again, I was like 'cheers, so I didn't look feminine before hahaha?'

My friends and other people who know I've had a BA all say I look so much better for having it and actually three of my friends are having BAs now just because I had one. I'm really angry about that because I think it's plain copying and I don't think it's necessary for them to have one as well when they've never wanted one before --But hey ho! :)

Your family will all come around, babe! Especially when they realise how happy this is going to make you and even more so when you have had your BA! :):)
Don't worry! If they love you they will support you and join in on the whole excitement and happiness of it all!

Good luck and take care, honey xxxxx

only my fiance,sister in law and 1 of my nieces know i want a BA i dont plan on telling any1 else x

When I told one of my friends she was shocked but not coz I was having them but she had never had a friend or knew anyone who has had them but as I said to her there is prob mums on our school yard who have them but no one knws my lil lad heard me and my oh talking and he ran up to my 13 yr old who knws I'm having them and shouted mummy's getting big boobies lol he's only 4 and when I did the rice test his eyes nearly popped out his head he makes me laugh

I am glad most my family support it but if they didn't it wouldn't change my mind

Ive told obviously my husband, mother and sister. My husband had been super supportive about the whole thing. He always reminds me that Ive been going on about it for years and years but he never thought I would actually get it done. Secretly I think he's just as excited as me! My mother and sister seem supportive but I don't really think that they understand why I'm having it done. I don't really want anyone else finding out if possible! Mainly because I don't want to be other peoples gossip - I absolutely despise the way some people talk about women who have had boob jobs. They obviously have no understanding about why someone would do this - to them its all about sex or being a bit loose. They would never think it was because someone is terribly unhappy with their body. I don't want to have to justify my reasons when its no ones business.

I do feel quite sad that I'm not going to tell her one of my closest friends - but I just can't be dealing with the hassle. I wear quite heavy padding at the moment lol so hopefully she won't notice the difference. I suppose time will time and if she does notice I'll explain why I didn't tell her at the time. 
Xxx

My friends were great bout it and to be honest I've knw them for only 3 yrs my best friend pass away 2yrs ago we grew up from baby's her birthday was 29th April mine is 28 the our mums was friends so in not shore how she would have felt but anyone who knws you will support you Hun x

I've loved reading all these. Thanks for sharing girls. Xx

I agree, it's great hearing everyone's experiences. I told close family and friends, and everyone has been very lovely and supportive - post BA, my female friends are quite fascinated by them (in a good way!) and my Dad and brothers don't mention it, apart from making a little joke about getting a black eye when running. My husband was a little nervous pre BA, but he thinks they look great!

I feel it's important to only tell the people who you really trust. There are some girls who i thought would gossip/bitch etc so i didn't tell them. However, it's been hilarious wearing a tight dress or showing off my cleavage and seeing their faces...you can almost see them thinking "Where the hell did they come from!!!!!??"  

I have told my hubby, mum, sister and my 3 closest friends. My hubby and 3 closest friends have been really supportive as they know it's not a decision I have rushed into and have been thinking about it for ever!! My sis is supportive but I don't think she 'truly' understands my reasons. My mum was outraged when I told her, she has since phoned and apologised for her reaction, but think she still doesn't approve!!!

At the end of the day, Ii'm doing it for ME and no one else xx

If you don't mind me asking babe how come your mum outraged? Glad she has apologised. Xx

Boney, I don't mind you asking at all!!

My mum and I aren't very close and I hadn't ever talked about my boobs with her before. I have never been happy with them since they grew (or didn't grow!), but have never been able to discuss it with her. I think she was shocked! Also I've been through lots of gynae probs that have needed operations and I think she feels like this is an unnecessary op so I shouldn't have it done!!! She knows she has no chance of changing my mind or talking me out of it though, so got cross instead of supportive. I've gone through my life without my parents support really so nothing knew!! Xx

MissCET wrote:
I feel it's important to only tell the people who you really trust. There are some girls who i thought would gossip/bitch etc so i didn't tell them. However, it's been hilarious wearing a tight dress or showing off my cleavage and seeing their faces...you can almost see them thinking "Where the hell did they come from!!!!!??"  

Brilliant MissCET, love it     xx

B'sboobs wrote:Boney, I don't mind you asking at all!!

My mum and I aren't very close and I hadn't ever talked about my boobs with her before. I have never been happy with them since they grew (or didn't grow!), but have never been able to discuss it with her. I think she was shocked! Also I've been through lots of gynae probs that have needed operations and I think she feels like this is an unnecessary op so I shouldn't have it done!!! She knows she has no chance of changing my mind or talking me out of it though, so got cross instead of supportive. I've gone through my life without my parents support really so nothing knew!! Xx

Aww babe! At least you have the support of your husband and your friends. I don't think people who don't have an issue with their boobs will ever understand fully why we do this. Good for you to keeping hold tight of your decision and not changing your mind. I bet you are so excited. Xx