Were your family ok with u having a BA? HELP!! :-S

OK so this is gonna sound a bit wierd but i am having my BA in august and i havent told my Mum, Dad or my older sister yet!

I love my family to bits but they dont understand the whole breast thing! mainly as my mum and sister have E+ breasts where me and my other sister scrape a B/C so we have always wanted to be bigger.

How on earth do i tell my mum who i am so close to that i am having this done when she is so against it!?

I dropped the idea into conversation a few months back and she snubbed the conversation and that was that. Now its getting closer i really have to do something about it.

Im a mother of 3 and im scared to tell my own mum im having a boob job!

HELP GIRLS!! xx

That's a shame your mum isn't supportive at the moment. Mine was OK, I've been going on about a boob job since I was 15 and never budged on the idea so when I was 20 and started seriously thinking about it, she let me carry on. My dad agreed too and took me for my 1st and 2nd BA.

All you can do really is tell her why you're having it and that you hope she'll be supportive in your decision. Good luck I hope she comes round for you x

Hi doll,
tbh i'm 33 and didn't tell my mum (she's the only one who doesn't know, it seems). I know that seems terrible, but she's SOOOOOOOO against putting anything foreign in your body, she eats all organic, takes no meds, and is in better shape than me!
she also was always about 100 lbs with nice D boobies (until she had me, then they got bigger!)
I've always been flat as a pancake.
But I have been able to hide it and we even went clothes shopping together and she didn't notice (even in the fitting rooms) since I've always worn such enormous padded bras.
Don't feel you have to tell them, I'm not trying to encourage you to be devious, but if you think they won't understand, just do it.

what's that quote "it's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask permission"

Good luck!!!

ali xxxxxx

You are probably right but everyone else in the world does seem to know! I wear padded bra's chicken fillets the lot! everyone always say to me... u dont need one u got boobs! but when the bra comes off the chicken fillets fall on the floor im left with 2 asprins on an ironing board!! lol

My mum is lovely but i a, really stuck between a rock and a hard place! if i tell her i think she will go mad and possibly not talk to me! and if i dont tell her she will feel i betrayed her and not talk to me!! xx

I KNEW my parents wouldn't be supportive Pammie, but I just sat them both down and told them I had something to tell them... I explained I was having a BA, giving as much detail as possible as to why and how my then boobs affected me, they literally pulled every horror story out of the bag to try and stop me, even using emotional blackmail, my mum cried and and begged me not to do it, it was awful and I had that right up to my BA day.

My husband too didn't want me to have a BA, I felt so alone till my husband told me that although he didn't agree with my decision, he would support me in it the whole way and he's been amazing.

I felt terrible that my parents felt so bad about my surgery, we have never discussed it since I've had my op, it's like it never happened and when I needed a re-op I chose not to tell them... I'm a grown women and I decide what 'I' feel is right for my body and although they're my parents, ultimately, it's not really their business, it's mine and I truely respect my mum and dad, but I have choices in life and felt they should have respected mine, but they chose not to and that's OK with me.

I had my BA and that was that sweetie, so just talk to them. If they don't agree they're allowed an opinion, but after the apron strings have been cut, in YOUR life, it's your opinion that matters and do remember that lovey. xx

Thank you so much that has really helped knowing that i am not the only one in this position! My boyfriend doesnt want me to have it done either and tells me daily that i dont need to change!

But at the end of the day its about us and being happy with our body's im not doing this for anyone but myself :) xx

My family weren't really ok with it. They think its just vanity and a waste of money but in the end they have accepted it, grudgingly. They had to, because I said I was going to do it no matter what lol. Only you can know if it will make you happy xxx

Same here, but after 10 years of saying to my folks I want big boobs, they finally came round and are very worried but they know I will never be happy till I get them done lol.

Aww bless that must b adding to the stress and pressure. At least u have ur partners support. Ur parents will come round they always do and especially when there is grandchildren involved! U could always write her a letter if U can't face her. Failing that U could go through with it then tell her when its done that way she will see how happy its made U.

Tough one hun x

I only told my parents about a week or so before my op, I told them as I knew if they found out afterwards they would be upset and disappointed and I felt that as I was a GA it was important they knew.

When I told them they both told me I was being silly, I didn't need bigger boobs and it was a waste of money. I explained to them why I was doing it and that it was for me, my self confidence and for no other reason. I then went back home not discussing it with them any more that evening. The following day I saw them and after they had thought about it they were very supportive and even came to my op with me which was nice. My mum and sister are so envious now they both want BA's themselves!!

All I can say is it probably won't be as bad as you think it'll be when you tell them - but don't expect them to be supportive immediately as they will probably be shocked and worried about you having an op. I'm so glad I did find the courage to tell my parents and I also now don't have to spend my time trying to hide it from them xx

oops - was supposed to read as I was having a GA!

At the end of the day this is YOUR body so it's only YOUR opinion that matters. If you can get the support from your loved ones that's great but if not then there are plenty of women here who understand what you're going through and we are more than happy to hold your 'cyber' hand right the way through!

People don't always understand the things we feel about our bodies if they themselves don't have the same insecurities!

I was worried about telling my own Mum, I went out and did the research, had a consultation, came home and threw a leaflet at her and waited for her reaction. Luckily she was supportive I my case, but I expected her to discourage me.

My best advice is sit your mum down and let her know it isn't up for discussion, she can make it harder if she wants to but it won't change your mind because of it.

We're always here if you need that little extra bit of support X

Hi i was similar to u, was absolutely dreading telling my dad n brother (not so much my mum bcoz shes had one herself) i really thought they would be against it and try to talk me out of it. Turns out i had nothing to worry about as they have both been really supportive, once id explained why im getting one and how much research id done they understood why i was doing it. Like the others have said, as much as its nice when u have that support, its not really relevent if ur sure its what u want hun. At the end of the day its your body and your decision. Noone elses. Xx

Hey hun,

I had my surgery last August - and my mum and dad still don't know!
I'm not gonna tell them - they haven't noticed as I used to wear padding etc.
Going abroad with them both next month and sure they will notice wen i'm in my bikini but doubt they will say anythin - I'll have to cross that bridge wen I cometo it!!! xx

My mom was fine about it and really supportive...I have been talking about it since I was 15 (now 23) so she knows I'm serious and I explained to her back in October that I had begun research, joined here and how I was in the best position both financially, timewise, workwise etc.
When I started booking consultations she came with me to each one and helped me with the final bit of money I needed.
My dad wasn't so keen when I first asked how he felt about it but after explaining that it is something I have always felt strongly about and i'm doing it solely for me and my self-confidence he has now accepted that and wants me to be happy. I'm very much a daddy's girl so i'm sure his idea of boobjob put horrible ideas in his head of men sleezing all over his little girl haha xx

I wish if i could go back in time i wouldnt have told my parents. My mum and dad were never 'against' me having it done, they thought i was silly etc but were understanding about the situation, but i feel i made a big deal out of nothing (it seems now) and nobody would even notice i had it done! and i didnt really wear chicken fillets or anything! for me it was something personal and my parents told other people and that was something i really didnt like, thats why i wish i never told them, but at the same time it would have been very difficult for me not to have said anything at all. what ever decision you make im sure it will be the right one xxx

My dad was supportive but mum was against it. However post op, when my mum saw them, and more importantly saw the change in me regarding my confidence and that, she knew id made the right choice. At the end of the day you just have to do what feels right for you honey x

Thank you all so much for your replies I have decided i am going to tell my mum dad and sister all at the same time on thursday! im really scared of the reaction i will get but i have to be brave and just do it.

I will let you all know how it goes xxx

Good luck hun, I'm sure once they know you're very serious about it and your mind is made they'll be right behind you! xx

Good luck sweetie, hope it goes well.

Just keep thinking about this being a life choice that affects you and your life, not theirs, you're telling them out of respect for them, but the decision has already been made, so in telling them now after making your decision you'd appreciate 'support' rather than 'opinions' gorgeous and hopefully you'll do fine. xx

<3 Thank you. Once this is out of the way i can carry on being nervous about the op not telling my bloody family! lol xxx <3

ok so my partners side dont no but my mum and dad do and they not very happy im just goner turn up one day with i beleive theres goner be alot of upset as its alot of money on my self hopefully they wont notice lol !! but you no what its not them that have to live with what i do!!! its about you just remember that... xxx

Hey girls!! :)

Im having my BA on 4th sept :)

Ive told my parents and my bro, there all fine with it but to be honest i told them it was happening and that was it !! lol

I am with you however Pammie that i am FREAKIN OUT scared!!! lolol

Its the unknown that scares me, just keeping thinking its the same fear as having my first baby and that turned out pretty well lololol (minus the stitches, dont reckin ill have as many with my BA ) lol

It is the fear of the unknown and the fact that I'm not that good at dealing with pain although I have had 3 children! Lol

Our BA dates are pretty close so that's good we can compare stories :)

I just need to tell them not ask for their approval cause its all booked and paid for so there is no going back and I really want this! Xxx

Right slight change of plan me and my other sister are going over to tell them today I needed a bit of support! I'm so nervous I think my mum will go mad! I will let u know how it goes. Xxx