Hiding boobs from parents

yes hun your right that is me but if I have some one saying " do you think I can hide my b.a from my parents who I live with" then also goes into say she is worried if they find out and that they were not impressed with her sister having a b.a who does not live with them its clearly playing on her mind hence why she started the thread....as its is playing on her mind then I suggested rather then try & "hide" it from them why not just tell them to save the worrying about them finding out ....she said maybe she could tell her mum & I think thats a great thing so really dont see the problem

If she decides not to tell them then good for her but I just gave my opinion on it and yes cookie half parents would react like you would & half would be like mine.......again I dont really see a problem with that....im giving my advise and you gave yours, no different babe just we have different opinions oh her situation..........

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Crystal wrote:And I also wouldnt say wanting to help your child or at the very least being told that they are having a major op as being a over powering mother...........but again thats just how I feel

I think there is a huge difference to someone having major surgery for 'health reasons' than there is when opting for 'elective surgery'.

Choosing not to tell your Parents you're having 'elective' surgery is choice, just as the surgery itself is.

and hun I most definatley do not think your a bad parent!, we all Know how fab you are cookie!!! :flowers:

Awww thank you Crystal My daughter thinks so too. lol.

Crystal wrote:im giving my advise and you gave yours, no different babe just we have different opinions oh her situation..........

You gave your opinion implying lies and deceit and that's how 'you' see it from a mothers point of view babe :flowers: . I gave choice with no pressure from a 'woman having a BA and coming to BJSF for support' point of view. Here 'mothers' don't matter, the women coming here for BA support do.

I don't feel it's necessary for us to keep going in circles over this anymore as this is not helping MssAprl9 at all , I'm sure MssAprl9 is perfectly capable of deciding for herself what she feels is the right thing to do for herself in 'her' situation. xx

Thank you cookie and everyone else, you have all been great. I do agree with cookie though, I am 33 years old and should not have to tell my parents anything I don't want them to know about. I may tell my mom eventually I just hope I can hide this from my dad

BTW all you girls BAs look amazing!! :thumbs:

cookie, i just read your posts and just nod along with everything lol. Youre one of the most well balanced, open minded, non judgemental people ive ever come across. Your children are very lucky to have you as their mother.

I also have a great relationship with my mum, but i know many people that dont. There are a lot of really toxic people out there that happen to be mothers or fathers and it would do no good at all to include such people in our decsions

Then if thats the case hun and how you feel and dont feel you should have to tell them then try not to worry about hiding it from them .....

xx

I'll add my two pence worth for what it's worth.....

I think everyone is different xx I think relationships with parents are all individual and uniques and what works for one won't work for another xx

MissA - I think at the age of 33 you are more than capable of making your own mind up and if you don't want to tell your parents I see no problem with that, it's none of their business really xx If you do, I also see no problem with that either xx Best of luck with it and whoever you choose to tell xx

Crystal - I think it's lovely that you and your people are so close and confide in each other, and turn to each other for support xx not everyone is in as open and as forthcoming xx

Cookie - you are incredibly wise, as always My Dad was rather controlling, however being as equally strong minded and controlling I rebelled from a very young age xx Fortunately my Mum was super relaxed and hence I had a, strangely, balanced ying and yang upbringing

I now find that I have to be VERY careful with my boy..........I have a tendency to be very overbearing, overpowering and controlling........and can see that this behaviour is already having an impact on him, poor boy xx I am trying though, every day I have to remind myself that he is his own person and that he is not always going to make the choices that I want him to make xx It's hard for me, being the way I am and given the age he is, however I keep trying as I don't want him to grow up suffocated and de masculine due to my overbearing and controlling behaviour xx

So this thread is a good one you see, we are all different and individuals entitled to make our own decisions, sometimes others will be happy with them sometimes not xx

What counts the most though is that YOU are happy with your decisions xx

Hi Mssaprl9.

Have you spoken to your sister about your BA? Maybe she could shed some light on how your mum might react, and maybe give you a bit more info about how your dad has been since clocking her BA. As the youngest of three, I found my dad used to go mental when my eldest brother did something he disagreed with, was marginally peeved when my other brother did the same thing a few years later and by the time it came to me I think he just shrugged his shoulders, rolled his eyes and gave up.

I didn't tell and they haven't noticed. Good luck whatever you decide x

Mssaprl9 wrote:Thank you cookie and everyone else, you have all been great. I do agree with cookie though, I am 33 years old and should not have to tell my parents anything I don't want them to know about. I may tell my mom eventually I just hope I can hide this from my dad

LOL dads can be funny creatures can't they. xx

abbie wrote:cookie, i just read your posts and just nod along with everything lol. Youre one of the most well balanced, open minded, non judgemental people ive ever come across. Your children are very lucky to have you as their mother.

I think this is possibly one of the nicest things anybody has ever said to me Abbie - Thank you

kay wrote:
Cookie - you are incredibly wise, as always

LOL stoppit you! I just say it like I see it

Kay wrote:So this thread is a good one you see, we are all different and individuals entitled to make our own decisions, sometimes others will be happy with them sometimes not xx

What counts the most though is that YOU are happy with your decisions xx

xxx

I think it would be sad if I didn't get this done because I was afraid of what my parents would think or do. It is my own choice and my happiness, we only live one life so why not do the things that's makes us happy?

And I did speak to my sister about it and she's against it!! She's like " you really wanna go through a surgery"? And I said "wait, you did it"!?? LoL
I dont think my dad was all that upset that she had it done, but she was moved out so there wasn't really much he could do about. If I was moved out this would be no issue what so ever. I will be moving out with my bf soon but I really can't wait six months....hehehehe