Was the decision to have a BA all yours?....

....or were you influenced by partners/friends/family?

Always wanted to do it...but last year my friend randomly did it which made me think what am I waiting for? No one but me made the decision . I wouldnt be getting it done if id told everyone as theyd be quite negative an would make me feel bad. Without anyones (apart from partner) input im doing something purely for me. Plus side james benefits with a more confident boobylious me :)

Mine was definitely all my decision, but I only got the confidence to really start thinking about it when my partner and parents came round to the idea. When I first brought it up at 16, my parents were pretty upset, and it really put me off thinking about doing it because I knew if would cause so much trouble. 

A few years later, seeing how much it was bothering me, my mum came with me to all my NHS consultations, helped me write funding letters, and has now been to all my private consultations, and it's made a world of difference in feeling that it's an okay thing to do! I know she still hates the idea, but she's been so supportive, it's meant that I can really go for it and know that no matter what happens I've got support there. Not sure I could have done it without that support!

I suppose in a way I was influenced by others - bullies and celeb images. They were the culprits that made me lose my self worth, and feel less than a woman. But the decision to go through with the surgery was all mine. I only allowed for my husband to have a say in the matter, it was no one else's choice to make, and even with him it was just that I wanted his honest opinion so I could explain fully the whys. I wanted in, I paid for it, and they're all mine.

Well my family and my longest friends have listened to me bang on about it for nearly 20 years so think there just glad im finally doing it! haha. Made the first phone call to Transform after my son was born at the age of 17 now finally doing it at the age of 34. Ive never been influenced either way by anyone else nor never will! This is 100% all about moi! x

Indirectly I was totally influenced by my mother and sister. They were both blessed with gorgeous big boobs and me....I got NOTHING!  

Indirectly I had some influence from my mother and sister. They were both blessed with gorgeous big boobs and me....I got NOTHING!   

Years of feeling inferior and the name calling really stuck in my head. It never left me. Then when I had cancer and the surgery left me weird shaped boobs and this too influenced my decision. However I sat on it for about 20 years after being sure it was what I wanted. A new business and a young family kept my mind busy and it was put to one side. 

When my family grew and I no longer needed to work it was all my own decision to have a BA. Ironically my mum and sis were fiercely against me having the op. We still don't talk about it. I really was on my own in wanting this. My husband agreed with my family, but being the good man he is, regardless if how he felt he respected that it was something I wanted and has supported me right through my journey. X

Wow youve been through a lot. Think sometimes you just have to listen to what you want in life. Simple as that cos everyone else is doing the same!

I'd say my decision was all mine, but it took me 15+ years to confirm to myself that I was doing for just me, for the right reasons, and to have the confidence to get it done! I've always talked about it, but never thought it was realistically an option. But then after talking it through seriously with close friends and hubby and deciding there will be more kids I started thinking the timing was perfect and I felt settled and comfortable enough to do it. I would say I was influenced by people I knew as when I realised friends of friends had had it done it almost 'normalised' it and made me realise it was a realistic option for me. Hubby has always said I don't need one (bless him, not sure how you can love 2 fried eggs!!) but he understands why I'm doing it and is totally supportive. His 'no more babies' pressie was a vasectomy and mine a boob job ha ha haaaa! Win win!!

*deciding there will be no more kids

I had always wanted mine done from an early age when everyone else seemed to grow them and I didn't... having my daughter and my son made them worse each pregnancy and breastfeeding them both just made them to the stage I couldn't cope with looking at them.
I made the decision myself with the support of my mum and once I had saved and looked into it, it was a case of 2 weeks I had, had my consultations, booked it and then had the op... best decision I ever made.. it's made day to day life normal now instead of a struggle to even put on my clothes in the morning. Confidence has shot up and I've never regretted it once.
Also considered not having any more kids due to the fact of not wanting them to go the way they were before again :( we shall see though. xx

I waited for 8 years until i knew it was totally for me. I had several boyfriends who were cruel about them and I knew I couldn't change myself to make someone happy- just the way my mum brought me up I guess! 
When I went on holiday last year with my bf who absolutely adores me as I am, and I still felt **naughty word**, I knew it was totally for how I felt snout myself. I'm really happy with them but am still waiting for this massive confidence surge everyone talks about. I guess maybe it's just early days or I'm a
Ready confident enough haha xx

Yes but I wanted uneven more having a mum and sister with natural 34f cups and me not able to fill a b cup. Maybe if my mum n sister were flat I wouldn't have felt solvent out of unfeminine? Ah pants now I've got myself thinking maybe the best thing for my daughter would've been to have learnt to accept my flat flaps?t

Yes definitely all my own decision. In fact my husband who I have been with for 16 years said that I didnt need to have it done for him (although he is very pleased with them now!). I also never told anyone apart from one close friend I was getting it done and only told me mum 2 days before. This was because it was my decision and I was doing it just for me. 

Again like others had said I had been thinking about having them done for many years but after the birth of my twin boys my body changed and I put on weight, I then decided to start keeping fit to loose the baby weight and then took up running and since then my boobs just shrunk and shrunk.

The beginning of this year everything fell in to with timings, finances and work so from first consultation to op date was only 6 weeks.

Am now really happy and for me confidence has really improved since having it done, I dont feel like I fade away and have hide in the background any more. Am just waiting for everything to fully settle down as still early days at 9 weeks post op but roll on the next few months as it all hopefully gets better. x

Rachel I was waiting for the confidence surge too which never seemed to happen, I think it's in my 3rd and 4th month I started to feel it.. when you can dress them up and you just see them and feel so much happier and better about it all..  you're still early days. wait until they have become a part of you and you forget about the whole surgery and just have lovely boobies to look at :D xx

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It was definitely all mine. I was always small busted but it never bothered me that much until I had children then they went flat. I just kept putting it off then this year just thought sod it I'm doing it. I know it sounds really selfish but even if my hubby was not happy about it I still would have done it. Nearly 2 week on and I'm getting greedy here's hoping they go bigger when they drop and fluff. Xx

Mine was all my own, my situation would be very similar to Cookies, I had wanted them for years anyway but having a part mastectomy was what really gave me the push. Having pancakes to oddly shapped and uneven pancakes gave me the kick to go get it done and I am happy I did! Everyone was against it but I know my own mind!