upset!!

Last night my mam raked around my room for some reason and confessed she found out about my loan and my plans for BA. I have already spoken to her lots of times about how badly I want it and she even came with me to a consultation last year so she could see for herself how much I want this. She then said she understood, but a few weeks later went back to "you dont need that dont be silly". its SO frustrating. I prefer not to talk about it now because she drives me mad talking to me like a child.
The reason I got the loan in secret was to stop her obsessing and worrying about my finances and the whole thing but now she knows anyway and she's been upset and making me feel like cack.
My dad has no idea about the whole thing because I've never been open with him and i'd never talk to him about it in a million years, but I know he'd hit the roof. He hates 'vanity' and im sure he'd think its vain and selfish. I couldn't ever expect him to understand my feelings on it because he's so stuck in his own opinion I wouldn't be surprised if I got kicked out of the house because of this. It's ridiculous. Last night I just cried myself to sleep. I was SO thrilled to finally get the money to be able to do this and now i'm just stressed to bits!

Aww try not to get too upset mums probably only worried that somthing might go wrong ,im sure she wouldnt kick you out over this! but at the end of the day its your money and your body,its up to you what you do with it,have you any sisters or aunties that you could confide in and maybe get mum on side abit? I really hope she comes round to the idea but please try not to get too upset! xxxx

They care and worry about you. I doubt they will kick you out for it. They are just worried and can't understand. I'm sure they will come around.

Aw hun she is probably just doing what any other mum would do and stress about their kids health and safety, but i doubt she would kick you out over it. Just sit down and have a long chat with her, your obviously old enough to make your own decisions so therefore she should trust u.

thanks :)
I don't think my mam would kick me out at all but I can see it hitting the fan with my dad who is more likely to just erupt lol.
Last night me and my mam finally had a chat. I noticed I hadn't got some letters I was expecting and she had been intercepting my post which has really peed me off. She already knew about things a few days ago so why hang on to my letters?! Anyway I've got them now and I got to tell her a few more things about what's planned. I think having a few days to think about things has helped cause she was really understanding when we spoke.
She now knows about my consultation with the surgeon on the 21st and I think she must realise how serious I am now after years of talking about it.
Hopefully things will be OK. I know at the end of the day my parents main concern will be my wellbeing. I'll keep you all updated!xx

I hope you get things sorted out with your parents !xxx

Good luck hun, Im sure it all work out :-) x