Am I the only one panicking.

HI,

I am currently a 36 a/b ish, mainly due to a bit of weight gain : (. Anyway, after 15 years of wanting breast augmentation, I have finally decided to take the plunge for a 350 cc implant. I've had 2 consultations and am now booked for March the 10th.

The thing is I am not excited ...I am absolutely terrified. I'm so worried I'm goin to freak out on the day, have a panic attack and faint or something when its suddenly dawns that this is really happening and am I insane?!

Everyone else on this site just seems excited. Am I the only terrified one, or am I just looking at all wrong?

Some motivational words form those having it done at a similar time ro those who have already had it done would be really appreciated.

Thanks

Hi there,

It is absolutely completely normal to feel this nervous. I'm having my BA for around the same time as you. I go through stages of feeling excited but then suddenly fear overwhelms me and I constantly question why I am doing it and whether I am crazy to even think about putting myself in a surgeons hand (especially for cosmetic reasons). Fear is normal though. For me the biggest worry comes from having GA and problems that might occur afterwards. When weighing up the risks though, you realise how unlikely these things really are. Your company will provide aftercare too so they'll always be there if needed. Just start to think about how much more confident you'll feel with new breasts and how exciting shopping for new bras will be.

Sorry bit of an essay there! Who have you decided to go with for your op? xx

Hi sweetheart, I think the borderline between fear and excitement is a bit of a grey area and what you are saying is fear could be misconstrued excitement.
Perhaps you could break it down into segments and if it is fear, then we might be able to help - for instance
1. Are you terrified of going into any hospital??
2. Do you fear being cut for the surgery??
3. Do you fear the General Anaesthetic?? if so what is it about the GA which frightens you the most:-
................... a) fear of losing all control?
....................b) fear of not waking up?
....................c)fear of either waking in the middle or not being properly under
4. Fear that after spending all that money you will hate them??
5. Fear of family or friends not understanding why you had to do this??

Do you have a partner (BF/OH) or a very close friend who could go with you and stay with you until your operation? ... and until you come round afterwards?

We are always here to hold cyber hands with you and try and banish those fears which you might have
xx

Apologies for the typo's.

thank you for such a lovely message, thats so supportive. Here's why i think i might be freaking out.

1. - I am terrified of hospitals from a needles and blood and gore perspective

2. Fear of the loss of control in the entire situation form the monent i arirve to the moment i am put 'under'.

3. Scared i wont like them and people aorund me will judge me.

I'm very lucky I have a very kind friend and a lovely boyfriend (who to be honest i think is a bit baffled by all of this) they will be there to drive me home and help out for the first week.

As I'm writing this i've just burst into tears because i;m so stressed out and i dont know how to deal with it. Am I even doing the right thing?

Ok have blown my nose and washed my face, and Carol your right, bra shopping will be fun. I always wanted to wear balconette bras but whenever i tried them on they looked like half empty window boxes : )

But soon, not any more

Sorry I meant Laura re bra shopping.

your both very kind to take the time to chat with me and share some reassuring words

Are you kidding hun, I am so scared and its my second one... You are not alone! When are you getting it done? I am going in on Wed. getting 600cc HP I hope it brings me to a DD! Good luck hun!

Hiya hunnie,

OK, let's talk you through the hospital bit first.
The clinics which these surgeons normally operate from are not at all like the busy, frenetic general hospitals which you might have visited or even been in. Everything is normally calm and quiet and very peaceful. To be honest the only time I saw blood was when they pricked my finger to do a blood sugar level test (I am Type 2 diabetic - so you would not have this happen) and then afterwards when I had drains in to remove any fluids from after the operation - and I only saw these when I had to get up to use the loo and this was quite disconcerting at first as it was like having two puppies attached to leashes which I had to cart round with me - I even took them on walks with me as my clinic recommends that you try and walk round later on in the evening to reduce the chance of an embolism.
Talk to your anaesthetist about your fear of needles (they always come round to chat to you once you have been settled into your room). My anaesthetist was fantastic, very calm and reassuring and if you are afraid of needles they can numb your hand so, provided you don't look, you won't even know there is a needle there. I think everybody will tell you that most, if not all, the anaesthetists, are the most competent to deal with these fears and are extremely well practised at putting people at ease and allaying their patient's fears. I have lost count of the number of ladies on here who went down to the theatre in tears, but were completely put at ease by the anaesthetist's attitude and calm reassurances.
I think the majority of complaints would be that they love them so much, they only wish they had gone bigger LOL. You don't have to tell anybody you don't want to know - but start by buying a larger cup size bra and stuff it with chicken fillets so that acquaintances can get used to seeing you with a bigger chest. I don't know why people have the audacity to think they can 'judge' us, I mean would anybody judge a person for going to get their eyesight corrected by laser surgery - no, of course they wouldn't - it would be congratulations all round and applauding them for their 'bravery'. Having our boobs done is exactly the same - we are merely correcting nature's deficit, and by doing so, making ourselves more confident and making ourselves into fuller human beings.
It is good that you have a lovely boyfriend, but to be honest most men (and some women too) just cannot understand why we need this, how it makes us feel very unfeminine and lacking. You have to be able to love yourself before you can love others.
Only you can answer the question as to whether you are doing the right thing, but as you have been wanting this for what, 15 years now - would you want to go through another 15years, or even a lifetime of sadness and lack of confidence in yourself. I think you know the answer to that, otherwise you would not have come this far down the road already.
But don't worry and wipe away those tears sweetheart, we are all here to help you in any way that we can
Ummmmm - sorry about the length of that, I do get carried away sometimes - what am I like LOL
xx

wow carol thumbs up to your post, ive also been having doubts for some of the reasons you listed and after reading your post i know im not alone in my reasons for wanting this and i have every right to feel happy within my body .

thanks so much xx

ohh btw whats a embolism ??

as im on a day case do i need to worry about this ?

I was so full of nerves and panic the two weeks leading up to my ba that I was making my self sick to my stomach!
Totally normal love!
I assure you that it is all worth it and much easier than we immagine it to be... in fact looking back now to my ba day and recovery days after they were quite enjoyable... on the day I was well taken care of and fussed over before the op, then I woke up with my babies and continued to be fussed over! For the few days after I actually enjoyed not having to do anything and just relax... and I was just thrilled to bits with my boobs.
You will be fine, just focus on the end prize and use this forum to get you though now until then. xx

Sorry, it's a blood clot which can cause complications - very rare and the risks can be reduced by gentle walking when you have come round sufficiently from the GA

brillian advice ladies! i too am very scared about my up coming BA but have been dealing with it by putting it to the back of my mind and not thinking about it until i absolutely have to.

Now I feel very reassured to read there are other ladies feeling scared stiff and worrying about the same things as me :flowers: .

I dont know how to thank you all enough and Carol what a wonderful , wonderful post, thank you. I only wish you were there to hold my hand in real life, your so reassuring. i'm going to stay on this site and have a visit every-time I feel nervous.

Carolyl77 - I too have been trying to deal with it in a similar way, blocking it from my mind but it creeps in. This helps though, if anyone else wants to post up their reassuring story, I would definitely appreciate it.

Thank you all...big big massive cyber hug (don't know how to do the graphic thingy)

sarahdawn31 wrote:I was so full of nerves and panic the two weeks leading up to my ba that I was making my self sick to my stomach!
Totally normal love!

You will be fine, just focus on the end prize and use this forum to get you though now until then. xx

Thanks, its nice to know how i'm feeling is normal. Your totally right about being positive and focussing on the good aspects. I going to start a post with a list of why we did it, what is the most exciting reason.

Its perfectly normal to be scared/frightened/terrified even! Any other operation would leave anybody shaken, girls on here just seem to be excited because of the end result. But when it comes to it, i'm pretty sure everyone is just as frightened as you are now. I know i am! But as carol said, you've been wanting this for such a long time now, it's only an hour compared to all of those years to achieve the body you've always wanted. Your list is a brilliant idea, concentrate on the positives and you'll find yourself getting more and more excited everyday :) xxxx

What a lovely post Carol xxx

I've had two BA's and have my 3rd booked in May and I'm terrified still but also looking forward to it because I've never once regretted doing it in the first place. I hated my body to the point I would bath in the dark and even used to keep a top on whilst having sex :-( so for me there was no option of not having the surgery done. Please please don't worry about people judging you, remind anyone who passes comments that a) they wear makeup b) they may have had 2 years of brace work on their teeth c) they get their hair styled....so you see we are all just trying to make the best of ourselves to enable us to lives our lives as confident woman. Of course you'll get those that will think we should be happy with what God gave us, but God obviously missed me off the booby list so I'm just rectifying his error.

You will be fine and you're only regret will be wishing you've done it 15 years ago xxxxxx :console:

Some great advice there (as usual) from the girls, not much I can add to it really, other than to say I too was really nervous but it's definately worth it in the end hunnie. x

You are certainly not the only one panicing hunni, I was a mess before my ba, it was the support from the girls on here that got me through mine.

Carol has written a fabulous post to reassure you, there's nothing I can think off to add to it. Just know that here at BJSF we will all be thinking of you and wishing you well. Take care hunni. xxx

Hi there. I too am very scared. My BA is March 8th. I am scared that I will be one of the unlucky ones with complcations and deformed boobs. I am having tea drop shaped gummy bear cohesive gel in either a 360 or 375 done over the muscle.( I also watched a surgery online. Somethings are better left unseen!!) I was told at the clinic that most women are nervous and scared an that complications are rare. I hope they are right!

Wow, all of these posts are so honest and helpful. Carol - you are soo amazing and words cannot express how grateful I am that you are on this site!!

Thank you elle

elleblondie wrote:Wow, all of these posts are so honest and helpful. Carol - you are soo amazing and words cannot express how grateful I am that you are on this site!!

I second that motion. I couldnt put a price on the advice you've all given. Thank you

Finally worked out how to do the emotion things, lol :boobchick:

Yeah, they're fun aren't they - and really help with online chat when you can't see the other person's face.
How are you feeling now sweetheart, hopefully you're a little bit more relaxed about it now. I was so upset for you last night.
xx

Wow, Carol hun that post was awesome!!

You can tick me off for sections 3,4 and 5 of your fears list though!! I think it's totally normally to feel some fear. I try to be excited, and then I try not to think about it. It's the not waking up part that gets me. I can handle anything else, but with two little children at home I just can't bear thinking about it.

I know the chances are absolutely minimal. I wouldn't be doing it if they weren't. They must have girls who feel like us coming in every single day though. They're experts and part of their job is making us feel reassured. I just can't wait for it to be over so I know that I'm ok lol!!

LL
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