I feel so selfish.... :-(

Well, for as long as i can remember I've not been happy about my boobs. As I've got older I've had two children and breastfed them both, I'm still feeding my last. (she'll be 2 in April) Its something I feel quite strongly about. I struggled to concieve my first and felt so blessed when it finally happened that I felt I'd do anything that would benefit them. My first was only weaned because I was pregnant and my milk dried up, I swore that this time I'd let her decide to wean and not force it on her. The thing is I've been researching boob jobs for about 12mths now and and really desperate to get it done (actually while my breast are full of milk they're actually not that bad) I've chosed my surgeon (James Mcdiarmid) but I think realistically I've only got till the end of the year because James is pursueing other things and I'm not sure I could afford it at "Wood estate" I'm nervous about stopping feeding, the state of my breasts without milk are terrible and going 6mths without feeding and living with my boobs like that is going to be bad too. I need to leave it that length of time for my milk supply to settle down so i can have the surgery.

I have so much turmoil going on about this but i just want my boobs fixed but I don't want to have to sacrifice my feeding relationship for it. I know that I would probably have weaned her about now anyway, its embarrassing when she gets upset when we're out and she starts pulling at my top to have a feed, my husband isnt that supportive of extended breastfeeding. even my Dr suggested it was time to stop (even though the WHO recommends it) i just worry that I'll regret stopping just to get something that I want and not thinking wholy of my daughters feelings....

i'm not really sure why i've posted this, i guess i just wanted to get my feelings out... Thanks for reading if you've got this far through my muddled post, well done.
Lou.

Awww hunni, I breast fed both of my children too (although only for six months each) and you just can't explain that bond between mother and child can you...

You've done great in giving your daughter the best start possible so you have nothing at all to regret hun, infact, seeing your daughter gain independance will reap it's own rewards and as this is your second child, you'll know that special bond will never leave you and you can replace the time you spent together feeding doing lots of other things together.....

It's not wrong to want something for yourself Lou... A happy mother is the mother happy in herself - Do what makes you happy hunni. xxx

Aww bless ya. I understand totally how you feel!

I have just booked my BA for next month having had my boobies ruined by breastfeeding two babies too.

You've done a really great job feeding them for such a long time and no doubt they will have benefited enormously. It's a very special thing to feed a baby and no one else shares the same close relationship. I still have a wonderful relationship with my little girl who is 18 months old, she loves to have a cuddle and is always by my side. Your daughter will not suffer if you decide to stop, she doesn't need to milk anymore and your bond will continue in other ways. Don't feel like you are being selfish, you have given everything of yourself now for a long time so it's fine to think about YOU. I found it hard to give up breast feeding my second as I knew it would be my last but I don't regret it now.

Cookie is exactly right saying the a happy mother is the mother happy in herself. If it will make you happy then it will make the rest of the family happy too.

Good luck whatever you decide xxx

I just wanted to post to say i understand the guilt of finishing feeding as i had the same wth my 2. However i think the stopping is much easier than you think, just takes a lot of distraction and in a few days they have forgotten. Try buying a new special beaker or a big girls present for your little one.

Also well done for lasting this long! You have given your daughter the best possible start in life. I tried to give my son a healthy diet after feeding and vitamins too (liquid form) to help continue his health and keep the bugs at bay!

Try to see your new boobs as a reward for all your hard work. Mine after feeding too feel so empty now. I hate the feeling without a padded bra and realised that unless i have breast implants im always going to feel miserable. It wasnt until i realised it was affecting my family life as i didnt want to take them swimming, holidays etc that i realised that me spending the money on my boobs would actually benefit my whole family.

hope this helps a little. xx

Thank you all, i feel silly really because I think I would be thinking and stopping feeding now anyway. I'm not sure she would ever selfwean! I just want to fast forward 6 mths until I've actually had them done. You have gone along way to ease my guilt though. Thankyou.
Lou.

You have done something so special for your daughter I wish Id managed to keep it up for as long as you its such a special bond and it will always be there you have given her the best start in life and beyond , you have nothing to feel selfish about I'm sure you have put alot of things on hold whilst feeding and now its time to look after yourself and A happy mummy = happy baby !!!!!!!! she will do fine with weaning it all takes time hope your partner will support you and your daughter through this and I look forward to reading your booby journey xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi and welcome.

What you have done/are doing is one of the most amazing gifts you can give a child. I stopped breastfeeding my daughter in November at 19mths, she kinda self weaned as we were down to one feed a day. DON'T listen to anyone that is negative about extended breastfeeding, they just simply don't know what they are talking about.

My daugher has now swapped mauling at my boobs for pulling out my chicken fillets!! so I can't wait to get mine done! I can only imagine her face when she see's the size of them!

You need to give your boobs time to get back to normal after feeding before you get them done so do allow a few months, then just go for it, you really deserve it.

Oh I could have written your post!! I weaned my youngest in early Jan, she was nearly one. I have bf all of my four and loved every single second of it, wish I could have fed for longer but my milk goes really quick when the don't need to feed really frequently.
I weaned her because I had got back on the 'boob job' obsession and also I was going away for a weekend in late Feb with some friends. I hated doing it, she was the easiest thing to wean, as soon as she realised how much milk she'd get from a bottle as opposed to me there was no competition really!!
But seh went from co-sleeping to being in her cot at that time too to stop her having a crafty suck in the night!! And I hated the separation!! Couldn't wait for her to wake at about 4am and bring her in. And just last week her cot moved from the side of my bed to the end of it and again I was in bits for a few days. I, and she are both fine now, well she always was - it was me!!

Guess that as a mum to do something for you is hard enough but to stop doing something for your child because of something you want to do is a one we really struggle with. But like the other ladies have said, you hve gone above and beyond already. YOu have a healthy beautiful little girl who YOU have nurtured and provided the best for for a huge amount of time.

ANd my guess is if you do stop bf'ing then she will not eally take much persuading!

On the other thing about leaving 6 mths post weaning to get a BA, I would from direct experience, say this is WELL worth doing. I was told 3 mths by Transform but James McDiarmid ( who I will prob go with, weird eh?) said 6 mths. And even since I saw J McD on the 15th Feb my boobs have changed hugely ( or not hugely!!). I can now see my nipples point upwards not straight ahead and when not slouching I can see my inframammary crease. And from my home measurements my nipple to sternal notch is 22 and 23 cm not 23 and 24 cm, so I am prob not going to need a lift at all, which is great!! And I am only just coming up to the 12 weeks Transform stipulated...who knows what the next three months will bring regarding change, maybe even the placement will end up needing alteration i.e from overs to unders.
It is a really hard wait though!! Especially when you have bigger boobs now and hey disappear!!

But it's only six months and you'll be an old hand on here by then and will enjoy them all the more when you get them.
Anticipation is the best part almost!!

Good Luck when you decide / start to wean xx