A little rant! Am I being selfish?

I jus thought I'd have a little rant on here ladies cos I don't no eat else to do!!

I never thought the whole ba experience wud b so stressful, I thought it wud b like buyin a shiny new car (honestly) but it's not!! The consultation went...... Well I've already wrote about that n EVA since my emotions have been up n down. I don't think my friends or partner are helpin though, my partner doesn't even no the date I'm gettin it done cos e says he doesn't want to no cos he's so against it, my friends r ok, most of them, but the two that were meant to b comin wit me have both made there excuses n backed out!! Today I was sat in traffic n the thought of wat will b happenin to me whilst I'm havin the op jus petrified me, n I was ony sittin in traffic, wat the hell am I gonna b like on the day?? Will I back out n say screw the money?? Even though I've had to take out a loan for this op that I can't really afford!! Am I bein too selfish as my daughter is only 1 n won't understand why she's bein packed off to her nany's for three days n her nana for 2?? Oh dear, I jus don't no wat to think no more,

rant ova!! M xxxx

Big hugs hun. Thankfully my boyfriend was fab. ALthough he said he didn't care if I didn't get it done he knew what it meant to me!. Try not to worry too much about your little one. She won't remember that she stayed with her grandparents for a week. And she will probably be spoilt rotten!!!

awww heres a hug for u!
how horrible to feel like ur doing it alone, but hun, were all here for u on breast buddies!!! my boyf wasnt exactly jumping for joy, but was supportive as it was my choice. Ive said this to another girl who was having probs with her OH being against it, its prob that he feels threatened. Have a word with him, he is prob thinking that when u hav ur lovely big boobs, guys r gona b drooling all over u and hitting on u, and he may even think u will want sumone 'better'
Just imagine it in reverse, if he had an op to make him super buff and ripped, what wud u think? Im not saying this is why he is so against it, but tell him its ur body, ur choice and ur doing it to be more confident, and that u wud appreciate his support, and reasure him that u still love him and it wont change who u r, just make u more confident.
Your daughter will loveher mini holiday!! i used to love being carted ff to my grandparents and hav fond memories of going to the park and playing 'shop with them in the kitchen. So try not to worry about that.
Its time to treat yourself, i cant really affrd my loan, but i can say its the best thing ive ever done!
Now, ring ur company and see if they can arrange transport to get u to and from hospital, and check your messages on breast buddies on the way there....you willl haver words of support from all of us!!!
That comforted me the most, when i checked breast buddies and saw good luck messages...i felt i wasnt doing it alone!

big hug for you!! xx

Sweetheart c'mere

Trust me, so much of what you're feeling so many of us have felt also....

Money guilt? Absolutely! It comes with the mum teritory! I think us mums are programmed to feel guilt should we want somethign for ourselves babe! Your daughter isn't going to lose out, she's going to gain a happier mummy and that's going to benefit her babe, so put that guilt away hun, you have a lifetime to give to your daughter, taking 2 weeks for yourself isn't selfish.

GA worry? Oh yeah! been there, done that, balled all the way to theatre and woke up AGAIN thinking 'ya daft bint' haha, really babe, it's nothing, it's like blinking! Closed eyes, no boobs! open eyes - BOOBS!

Uncaring partner? Join the club LOL. My husband was sick to the back teeth of hearing about boobs, but when I most needed him and I made it clear to him, he was there for me and your man will probably surprise you after your op babe when he realises this is all very real. Often our men care for us so much that they switch off so as not having to deal with the person they love being taken into someone elses care... all very macho but it's only 'cos they love us hunni, you'll see that post-op babe although I know how tense things can get, I wanted to crack my husband something rotten on the way to the hospital he irritated me so much LOL... but it all comes good.

It's gonna be just fine lovely, you wont be lonely in the hospital as you wont have time hun, from the moment you arrive it's nurse, doc, anaethetist and theatre! Takee some mags to keep you busy and your phone to call anybody should you want to, lots of people go the hospital alone, my hubby came with me but with going straight to theatre and then out for the count after I never really saw him anyway!

Just focus on your new boobs hun... think about the reasons you want them...

Are they worth it?.... You bet your backside they are! xx

keep your chin up sweetie all will be fab in the end xx

Aaahhh thanku so much guys, u don't realise how much that has meant to me!!
I some times feel I'm bein a bit of a wierdo cos I'm on this site every nite lookin at posts n stories, but it's the only way to feel like I'm some were ppl understand!! Ur all sooooo lovely on this site it's amazing really n we all have some thing in common which is great!! This forum is underrated, it's totally brill , I love it n all u lovely ppl in it!! Thanku for bein only a message away :-) xxxxx

aww hun, its only normal you have mixed emotions its just what being human is all about and its how our crazy bodies and minds work .. your daughter will love it my 3 (6,3 and 1) are with my sisters/my nan/mum for 2 weeks although they will pop into see me at home and ill prob end up having them back before the 2 weeks as i will miss them but i know there gunna love it and i know your little girl will to and plus she wont remember when she is older .. no way are you being selfish hun why shouldnt u treat yourself to something they way i look at it is in 6 years i have spent every penny on my children i rarely have anything for me majority is what my friends or family hae bought me for birthdays xmas etc .. so now its time to buy myself something for a change chin up hunnie :) xxxx

Hi hun,

all the feelings and frustrations are very normal but believe me it will all be worth it. As said above you littlen will be spoilt rotten and will prob enjot spending time with nanny. You go for it hun and just think of the end results, it will keep you going. You will be fine, you will get through the GA and think what was I worrying about when you wake up and i'm sure your oh will be thinking afterwards too.

Good Luck sweetie xx

Thanks girls xxxx