Am I being selfish ??

Hey ladies wondered on your thoughts ..... I have had 2 babies and been constantly pregnant and/or breastfeeding for 4+ years, as you can imagian my boobs are in a state so have decided to look into getting an uplift or uplift & ba. However a few people have made comments asking how i can afford it etc and its started to make me think am i just being totally selfish spending all this money on myself ??? Im gonna pay for my op on a credit card with 0% interest and my kids will not be going without anything because of it but but is it just too much money to spend on me ??? I really hate whats happened to my boobs but should i just put up with it ??? Has anyone else had this experiance or had other people make them feel this way ??? Any feedback would be fab thanks ladies x

I was exactly the same 9 years of emotional hell I have been back and forth with that in my head,even now and my op is Sunday. My daughter is 9 and get all she needs and more,but what she really needs is a
Mum who can take her to the beach,go swimming and also a
Mum who won't project her own body issues onto her daughter,so do u know what this 3k I'm spending is going to open a whole new world to
Me and my daughter. Screw everyone else babe u know how ur house and finances run. If u can be a happier mummy then do it. Xx

Hiya babes....

know exactually how you feel i have breast fed all 5 of mine...and had a BA recently but i did it for me....i love and nurture my children they don't go without nothing...i felt that i was being selfish but for a good reason..if that makes sense.. i have allways lived my life putting my children and others first (which rightly so i should)..but this time i just wanted a lil something for me...

people have only ever asked why i would want it it done...but i always replied i wanna feel womenly again....and if they asked how i can afford it...i would reply that my husband and i have worked very hard for me to be able to achieve this....(plus BMI card helped lol)...

Hope this helps a bit huni....Its your life not there's...

Well said fifi76 I have worked every new year for 9 years and done all overtime I can when the kids are with their dad for mine,I pay my taxes,pay my bills and my kids are fed,have a roof over their head and do all they want to do. Live and let live that's what I say,who cares what anyone else thinks as long as the people under your roof are happy u can sleep easy at night x

Your absolutely not being selfish.... What so because you've had kids you have no right to treat yourself. Go for it hun you deserve it after having 2 babies. The only people that matter is you and your family. Anyone roses opinions probably boil down to jealousy because that can't afford to get theirs done. You know what you can and cant afford and you dont need to justify you actions to anyone xx

Anyone roses opinions probably boil down to jealousy





here here.....defo jelous

You are not being selfish at all...as the others have said, just because you've had children doesn't mean your needs don't matter anymore. If you can afford it and you know that this is what you want then there shouldn't be a problem. The people who are winding you up aren't worth a second thought, they should be concentrating on their own lives rather than interfering with yours.

Thanks soooo much for all your replies ladies its made me feel much better :) was proper beating myself up I think your prob right and some of them maybe jealous i just want to be a happy mummy and at the moment my boobs are making me feel so self concious and misrable your all right sod what anyone else thinks Im gonna book some consulations :) x

Yay you go girl (in an American accent)
Keep us update with everything xx

Sparkle32 wrote:Thanks soooo much for all your replies ladies its made me feel much better :) was proper beating myself up I think your prob right and some of them maybe jealous i just want to be a happy mummy and at the moment my boobs are making me feel so self concious and misrable your all right sod what anyone else thinks Im gonna book some consulations :) x

Good for you hun...this is about YOU and only YOU....Happy mummy makes Happy family too...with big huge bazooca's....lol xx

I went through the whole guilt / remorse thing as have a family as well xx I think it's normal xx

In the end though I decided that I was worth it hahaha

Seriously though, it's your life / money / happiness too

Growing up I would have much preferred a happy Mother than an expensive meal on the table. Make the most of everything you have and if there is a chance for you to feel better about yourself then go for it! Life is too short, if your children are well looked after and their well-being won't be compromised at all then look after yourself... after all you may be a Mother but you are still important! So don't take your happiness for granted!

Full support from me! x

GO FOR IT BABE!! all i can say is that its YOUR body and YOUR money that you've worked hard for... why not treat yourself! EVERYONE deserves to be happy with their bodies and if this is what you wanna do then DO IT :)
X

I totally agree with everything the girls have said on here Hun, go for it you are not being selfish at all. I was in the same dilemma as you I have 5 kids my eldest 18 who I had at 15 and my youngest is 3. I have wanted a BA since I was 18 and due to paranoia about something going wrong and not having the money I never did it. Although I still don't have the money I like you are going to have put mine on a credit card and I did question weather I should be spending all this money on myself, but at the end of the day I always put my hubby and kids first if I spend £20 on something I need I feel guilty, but I thought sod it my kids don't go without I never treat myself and this is something I've wanted for so long and if I don't do it now, never will! And that's the way you should look at it Hun, I also have a few jealous friends in fact I had such a horrid time yesterday after my BA ( which you can read about on here ) and then today had a friend tell me they don't look much different! Which didn't help my feelings but as my hubby said its just jealousy and now I've had it done so is she! So sod the so called friends Hun you will get the support from the people that really matter. Good luck hunni go for it and keep us updated xx