Did you regret telling people before/after your BA

Looking for your experience and advice on this!

I tend to be someone who's a bit of an over-sharer and often regret opening my mouth about personal stuff, which obviously you can't take back. I've kept all this BA stuff secret (except with my partner obviously) but I sort of feel like having some people to "share" the experience/etc with would be good. This forum is keeping me sane on that front! I'm just so excited!

My current plan is to tell my best friend on the day of or day after surgery. She's not judgemental but she's quite conservative/protected. I don't think she'd try to talk me out of it (I'm very stubborn anyway!) but I still feel reluctant to share for some reason.

My family are a different matter and I'll tell them when I'm recovered or if they notice - my parents are big worriers and would worry themselves sick about me! They live in a different city so shouldn't be a problem.

Does anyone have any experience/advice here? Did you regret telling friends? Or regret not telling people sooner?

My only advice would be to think long and hard about the friends you tell. Unfortunately I told one of my friends who no longer is a close friend and she decided to tell practically our whole town!

This time only my mum and boyfriend know. Not even my dad as he wouldn't be happy me spending all this money again!

I haven't kept it a huge secret, but not many people know. My family do (my mum is helping with the kids while I recover), and so do a couple of my closest friends and one of DH's family members who had a BA about 3 years ago. 
I think DH's team at work mostly know (they're pretty much all women) as he's taking time off to look after the kids immediately after. I rarely see these women so I'm not really bothered. 
I don't think it'll be noticeable as I wear very padded bras at the moment.

Mine was never a secret, everyone who knows me closely knew it was something I always wanted. People at work don't know bar a handful, but only because it came up in conversation and I was like, well I had one and none of you noticed! I do regret bothering to tell my mom, but that's another story for another day!

People gossip. But people are also so wrapped up in themselves. You'd be surprised how many girls can't believe people don't see it afterwards. But then you remember how much padding you were wearing, and you're just trying to look how you feel you should, and not going Jordan. Tell as many or as few people as you are comfortable with. Remember it's your body, your choice.

I'm the same as you - I am not a gossip in terms of giving away other peoples secrets but anything to do with me - a problem shared is a problem halved is my motto - I like to share!! 

I have only told my DH and 2 close friends who live local to me.  I haven't told my best friends I went to uni with - I just don't feel comfortable telling them but they know me so well (there are 5 of us now spread around the country that are very close friends, but only see each other twice a year) and so the next spa weekend we go on in April I'll surprise them with my big baps!  I don't mind them knowing AFTER its done.  It's just I told them on the last annual spa weekend we went on that I'd had botox and oh - the drama!  Anyone would have thought I'd gone in for a full facelift - the controversy!!!!  So I can only imagine the stir my boob job will cause.  I'm secretly looking forward to it in a perverse kind of way!!

I am definitely not telling my mum or dad or inlaws or any family.  I just don't feel it is the kind of thing they would approve of.

I did have one too many glasses of prosecco at the pub recently and decided to tell a few of the mums from school - big mistake as its probably spread like wildfire but to be honest I don't really mind what they think! As long as my relatives don't find out.  I can't bear the thought of the in-laws judging!

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I only told one fiend and my fiancé.

I called my mum once I had come round and she took it well as she doesn't agree with surgery that "is inflicted on one selve). That's her wording and not mine. She ran down to the hospital and sat with me for the next 4-5 hours and was a rock. I was falling in and out of sleep and she helped me do my lunch.

I don't think I will tell anyone else as its not there business unless I am in pain and I need to tell them a reason.

I only told my parents, boyfriend, two housemates and a best friend. That's it! I've had a few comments from ladies at work 'your boobs are looking bigger!' which I've just brushed off as a padded bra and no one has suspected! 
It's no one else's business but yours, so its up to you who you decide to tell. I found it hardest in the early days because it's such a huge thing and you just want to talk about it with everyone, but as time goes on you get so used to them you just forget they're not real anyway!

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Only told a few friends, those I knew who would be happy for me, some of my family as have young children and needed help post op. Didn't regret telling anyone. Xx

I only told 3 close friends and haven't told my family !... I don't regret it... I'm quite a private person and wouldn't want everyone knowing xx

I told my close family but although I don't regret telling them, I didn't like getting a get well card addressed to Jordan!!! People automatically presume your going to come out looking like Lola Ferrari. That's the bit I found annoying. But niw I don't really care what people think. Xx

Thanks ladies, these have all been really helpful.

I think I'm going to keep it under wraps until the day of the surgery to tell my best friend. And definitely going to keep it from the family unless they notice - my parents have enough health problems of their own to worry about without worrying about me!