That defining moment...

Was/is there a defining moment that made you think 'I'm gonna do it!!!!!! I'm gonna have my BA!?' Or was there a slow gradual build up to you making your decision?

I had absolutely no boobs at all as you can see below



I'd finished Breast feeding and had had gone through a lumpectomy on both breasts and my boobs were a mess but I was so up to to my eyes in kids and work that nothing seemed to matter at that time. I didn't have time to scratch my bum, let alone think about my boobs! Lol.... As work got more established and the kids weren't as dependent it gave me a bit of time to reflect on my own life. I'd kinda got lost in being the best wife and mother I thought I could be and found myself very much defined by those words - 'wife' and 'mum' and one day I woke up and thought where am I?.... The me before all that happened? I started looking after myself again again. Getting my hair done...buying nice make-up and clothes but the clothes were always carefully chosen so as not to draw attention to my boobs and one day I was literally in a changing room huffing and puffing adjusting clothes to disguise my boobs and I just thought that's it! I'm getting my boobs done.

I went back into work that day an told hubby my decision. He was shocked and I don't think he thought I was serious at first till I called a clinic and arranged an appointment to see a surgeon. Although I'd hated my boobs for most of my adult life, the decision to change really was in an instant... How 'bout you?

i wanted one for ages anyway and had already started looking into but on a night out once a random guy looked at me and said "you've got no tits have you" this was when i was wearing my XX padded bra n all!! i wouldnt say it was a defining moment but whenever i had doubts that comment would always stick in my mind and push me forwards x

Great story cookie and great topic, this will be interesting!

For me it was a gradual thing... Ive always disliked my body because I've never been skinny skinny, always curvy but NO boobs to go with it so I hated my body, in 2009 I think it was I decided no more and lost three stone (I still feel about half a stone over my ideal) .. A BA was always an idea but only that..

In 2012 after hating my tuberous breasts I decided I wanted to feel confident about myself! I have a long term boyfriend and realised I was so self conscious and not confident at all I started to look into a BA and had a consultation... I got very excited but I have very bad anxiety and I am a worrier so I couldn't go ahead after finding out the risks etc...

A year later nothing had changed, my confidence hadn't improved at all (got worse if anything) and after being on the forum I decided 'what ifs' couldn't hold me back anymore... I had 4 consultations and booked up with mr M and what he has done for me is perfect!!

I am sooooooooo happy! I know it's a lifelong commitment and a lot of money but I feel amazing and in proportion which is what I've always wanted :) 100% best thing I've done for myself xx

I wanted mine for a little while, wasn't constantly thinking of it. But final straw a year ago when I was bridesmaid and had a beautiful dress, my sister in law tried hers on and has big boobs and I thought it looked so flattering on her. Nice and curvy........ My other sis in law, who's getting married has lovely figure too. ( Jessica rabbit) just beautiful. And I stood in mine. This beautiful dress looking no different then it did on the hanger..... Then I started to seriously think and started my research.............. Told hubby and he said I was mad, lovely the way I am...... Usual stuff. But my mind was made up......  I was sick of wearing padding and O.M.G bras........
That was it for me....... 3 days now...........
Glad I found this forum and your advice cookie has been amazing. All the girls on here are a huge support..........x

I loved my natural 32ff boobs that I'd always said, if anything happened to them after pregnancy etc to make me not like them then I'd get 1 done. Then after my son, they'd lost a lot of their 'firmness' (if that's a word!) then after I'd had my daughter & stopped breast feeding they shrunk A LOT - I literally have chest muscle, a dip, then boob. But the only people I knew who'd had boob jobs were in their forties. So I thought you had to have a lot of money to get 1 done. Then I noticed a few people I knew about my age were having them done, so I messages this 1 girl asking about it. & I was like, that is it - if they can do it, so can I. So I told my bf, he was pretty shocked as I hadn't told him how much I hated my boobs & thought I was being a bit silly. But I explained it to him & he was/is very supportive x

Bizzyboobs wrote:
Glad I found this forum and your advice cookie has been amazing. All the girls on here are a huge support..........x

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It was a gradual thing for me.  I have never had big boobs, probably a B cup pre children, I am tall and slim.  They were in proportion to my body.

After breastfeeding and the subsequent diet to loose my pregnancy fat my boobs went to nothing, just little flaps of skin.

My husband has always supported me and has encouraged me to have implants if I wanted them.

I nearly had implants a few years ago but backed out when I wasn't happy with my surgeon.

The reason I decided to have another consultation was because I was interested in finding out about a fat transfer enlargement.  Unfortunately my body fat was too low, however I decided to go ahead with implants after all.

All I can say is I wish I had them done years ago, I love, love, love them!

hmm for me because my asymmetry started when i was 12, i never even thought about boob jobs - didnt even know about them really lol.. but then finally at 17 when i saw my doctor about my uneven boobs and she referred me to a surgeon.. THATS the moment when i thought YUS i really want my boobs done because i got told i could have them done :)

Aww I love reading all these! 
I've always had no boobs. As a size 6, half Asian petite girlie it was always in my genetic make up even though all my sisters have big knockers. after Breastfeeding, they weren't just small they were saggy too. I started sleeping with a bra on and wouldn't let anyone see me naked. I went to see my GP as it was emotionally draining me. She said there wasn't much hope on the nhs and my best bet was private. The defining moment was when 2 of my best friends had BAs in the space of 4 months. I felt grotesquely unfeminine in front of them and thought, sod it, I'm going for it! I love my new curvy body and I'm so glad I did it!

For me it has always been in the back of my mind that I didn't really have boobs and I'd joke with my friends. Them recently I realised I'd gradually put on about a stone in weight that I wanted to lose...so I got to work and managed to shed the pounds. Then I remember standing in front of the mirror and looking at my boobs...I felt like crying, they had disappeared to nothing. I felt like a child. Then I seriously started thinking about. I was lying in bed talking to my boyfriend one Sunday morning and just said...I think I'm gonna get my boobs done. He just said ..go for it. Then I went and told my mum, she said the same...go for it. So I did!! Sometimes I still can't believe I actually did 'go for it' but so happy I did! This forum definitely gave me the confidence to go through with it. So thank you to everyone on here :-) xx

I was lucky and had good boobs especially for my small frame. I am 5ft - just - and size 6/8 I clothes.  I was always very comfortable in my own skin and never felt self conscious being naked in front of my husband. 

We now have 3 lovely children, but I did throw myself at motherhood and had them in 2007, 2009 and 2011 so didn't really given my body a break in the last 6 years from pregnancy and feeding. 

September last year I finally got back to my pre pregnancy weight...HOWEVER.....I was minus my boobs as they once were, and now looked like I belonged to an African tribe!! !! I found myself turning my back from my husband at night and wearing a vest top in bed as I hated my boobs so much. My tops looked horrible as they were no longer filled with boobs 

So..... We had a lovely meal for my 40th birthday and a friend sat beside me who had a boob job 4 years ago. She said it was the best thing she ever diand she looks great.  I spoke to my husband the next day and said I would love one to restore some self confidence. He said he loved me as I was, but if I wanted one and it would make me more confident in my skin again, then go for it. 

Here I am..... So pleased I have done it and so proud of my boobs again. I even give my husband a sneaky flash of them from time to time when the kids arent looking which makes him smile..... 

Xxxxx

Love reading all your stories, what a good topic cookie.

I've always been thin, size 8 mostly but I had a decent pair on me - I would go out without a bra in 'boobie' tops when I was younger, then I had my son 3 years ago and after breast feeding they looked a bit sad and droopy and nothing a good bra couldn't hide. The rest of me looked like it did before pregnancy. Then I had my daughter and breasted her and got back to my pre pregnancy weight really quickly. I was a size 8/10 with 38E boobs! Then I stopped breast feeding....oh my dear god did they shrivel up and die! They suddenly went smaller than they were before but it was all skin. Hardly any tissue left.

My defining moment was when I wore my old ann summers 2 cup sizes bigger bra and realised there was a big gap in the bra as there wAs nothing to push up anymore and it looked awful - even in a thick sweatshirt. I started crying and my husband said he would do whatever it took to make me happy about myself again.

Again, I am so so pleased I found this forum, everyone is so nice and helpful in this massive minefield. I would be a worrying mess if it wasn't for this site. Xxx

I've always wanted them done since about 14. Everyone had boobs growing and mine just weren't. Used to get called ironing board the lot. Hated it! Researched since 14 and constantly looked at pictures of boob jobs etc and ins and outs. I knew as soon as I was 18 I'd have a consultation. 
2 days after 18th I had my first consultation and I knew I had to get the money for one. Was going to get a loan but my dad said if I wanted a couple f months he would lend it to me what I needed and he did! 

Always had a curvy body. Big bum thighs and hips but no boobs just felt like I had a boys chest and I always felt fatter too cause I looked down and It was my stomach there not boobs although size 10 is biggest I've ever been. Now I feel proportionate and so happy with my body and finally feel how I felt I should have looked and I feel slim!! Love it xx

LOVE this topic and reading all your stories girls!

for me, i never developed and always wore an A cup with a back size too big which was padded so i could pretend. really i was a AA though.

i always used to say, from the age of 16, if i had that kind of money, the first thing i would do with it is get my boobs done. my mum just always said i was ridiculous.

then fast forward to the beginning of this year, 10 years later, after a longterm relationship where yes it always bothered me but it was never really something i addressed, and then i found myself single and in a zumba class.

i just looked at myself in my gym kit (the only time when i didnt wear a padded bra, but a non padded sports bra, for what it was worth, but it was easier to wash). i was just so flat, and it bugged me! in that zumba class, when i looked in the mirror again, i thought about my savings and bank balance and realised, hang on- now i actually DO have the money!

so i went home, and started researching and the process started from there! that was in january, then i went to consultations, booked in april and had my op in june!

like some of the others here i was soo soo grateful for the support on this site, especially as i didn't have any support from friends or family. anyone i told was shocked and against it really, apart from my cousin, but she doesn't live close by and i didnt want to bore her with all the details either!

once i was VERY close to backing out but the girls on here were just absolutely fab.

one of the best things i've ever done and every day i'm so happy that i got them done!

id always wanted my boobs done,ever since being a teenager and them not developing at all I as always upset and sad that mine hadn't grown! I was a bit unsure when to get it done...do I do it after kids? just before I get married? but what made think im getting it done NOW is going on a city break in amterdam, I went with my boyfriend,id been on holiday with him before and he took a sneaky pic of me topless and when I saw how my flat I was it made me feel sick. then in Amsterdam I saw all these ladies with boobs and I thought f*k it,im gonna get it done as soon as I can! I wasn't going to wait,i wanted to be happy !  I think I got them done at the rite time,it had really got me down,i used to work in a supermarket and all I used to look at was ladies boobs...I was obsessed but even when I had booked my b.a it had got me so low I nearly cried on the check out when I saw a woman in a lowcut top with big bazonkas I thought it wasn't fair she had them and I had nothing at all :( .

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I'd wanted them since I was 15, but I was very much in the mind set that I wanted to do this on my own steam. Then one day, I was looking in the mirror and was just sick of a 14yr old boys body looking back at me. Started researching and went to a couple of consultations. This was Dec '11. Then for some reason it got pushed to the back of my mind for a year. I think the final push came at the beginning of this year, I'd just been through the ringer at work and was at the F it point. I was at a party and talking to an ex (who was very much aware that i wanted it done) and that was the first time I said it out loud - yeh, Im definately having it done this year. So I booked my consultation (Id already picked my surgeon from the last time), and bam, done. 2nd June 2013. 4months on the only thing I regret is not doing it sooner!

I've always wanted it done since I was 17, I've always said "I'd have them done", having a pear shape body with hardly any boobs I really wanted one just to be in proportion with the rest of my body! but my ex was dead against me having it done, yes a man said no don't do it! Putting doubt in my mind! But since being with my supportive boyfriend I had the confidence to book a consultation and with the consultant agreeing that he can understand why I want it! I was like hell yeh I'm gonna do this! So glad I did!!!! Should have done it years ago!!!!

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I was always happy with my boobs, they were always a nice shape and size and I felt confident. After my baby girl was born in 2010 they didn't look too bad, but after having my baby boy in 2012 and finishing breastfeeding for the second time my boobs shrunk beyond recognition and i was left with deflated empty breasts.
I instantly decided I can't live the rest of my life hating my boobs.

Not long now! X

I was always a full B.... so not big but pert and happy looking....   I had my 1st son in 2006... I gained a HUGE 5 stone....needless to say after I lost weight and a little Breast feeding (only2wks) ...My boobs were like a couple of empty socks.

I spoke to GP who said  it was too early to do anything, I may like more children etc first??? Hmmmmmm.

Ok so another son in 2011. Boobs worse, stretch marks etc.....

I had thought of it again from time to time.

The defining moment has to be though......
Going bra shopping........ CRYING my little heart out in the middle of M&S as all the bras ....even the 2 sizes bigger looked awful on me, I felt ashamed of my boobs, so daren't get measured..... I loved all the pretty bras I couldn't wear and was jealous overhearing girls and their friends and mums chatting about how lush their boobs looked etc.

I just cried, then my hubby came in and found me crying staring at the bras, all alone....and said everything will be ok, we will get a BA sorted


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For me it's been the fact that I've never actually had a relationship with anyone because I've been far too conscious of my breasts. I have no boobs and I'm so so self conscious! I'm having a BA in 14 days and i can honestly say it will change my life for the better. I won't just gain two new beautiful boobs but i will gain the confidence i need to live my life! I'm 20 now and i feel it's time to start dating and enjoying life! So excited! Great stories by the way everyone!xxx

Hi girls , thought I'd respond to this post as its very apt for me right now! Iv gone through so much thought trailing with whether I want to have implants. Went for consultations, decided on who, size date....that was, it turns out..the easy part for me :) once I had decided I then got the massive jitters and convinced myself that actually I don't want it done. If I'm really honest the biggest reason is just that I'm scared. I just kept thinking once I'm booked I'm going to live on edge until the op and send my self crazy with nerves. So iv cancelled everything and decided il put it to rest for now. See if I can live with what I've got and come back to it down the line. Making the decision feels like a weight has been lifted but in a strange way I'm feeling quite down.  So girls I'm still waiting for my defining moment, or a stage where I think right I just can't put up with my boobs any longer. I'm hoping then the need will outweigh my fear xxx