Ups and downs of being flat chested

At the moment being so flat chested just makes me feel like a young boy and im having a very bad sad day already. Why is it I can feel so good and then wake up feeling like i've had a bucket full of saddness pumped into my veins?
My best friend knows how I feel about my chest but she will still insist on coming over with her DD almost hanging out (And i mean almost nipple flashing) while I have this overwhelming anxioty burning through my belly.Feeling so jealous when my fiancee talks to her you can see how uncomfortable he is (not knowing where to look) I hate the fact I have obviously made him feel like this!
I feel so meak and less of a woman when im around other women knowing that the little lumps i have are tripple padding and if i make a wrong move the world is gonna know this! I would love to get through the next few months without the constant anxiety and jealousy and feeling like a 13 year old boy.If I go to the drs they want to give me tablets which I dont want and if I try and explain I just sound like a dramatic attention seeker. My appetite is almost at a 0 and my weight is again on a downward slope and my motivation at the gym is slowly going.What can I do to pick myself up again? I know the opp will solve all this but its not happening yet !!! x

Morning hun,



Sorry to hear ur feeling so down at the moment, i totally understand how you feel as i was exactly the same i just had nipples and ribs which i hated and like you just felt so unfeminine. There are some ways to get u through the dark times, try to look forward to the impending op and focus on that and the positives that surround it rather than dwell on all the things that make you feel bad.



Im sure you have not made ur boyf feel awkward all men and women feel awkward when massssivvee boobs are in fron of them.



I found it helped me to talk about my boobs alot and also what i was planning to do, it made it seem less of an issue if everybody knew and bleieve me i told everybody lol.



You also need to try and be eating well hun as u have to be in good healthy shape to have have ur op.



hope some of this helps hun, but we are all diff and need diff things



take care and keep posting



x

sorry to hear you're not having a great day hun. I think we can all sympathise with feeling insecure and unattractive because of our boobs... But rachemsi is right, you do need to make sure you keep eating and stay healthy, so you're all ready for your op when the time comes!!

Cheer up! We're all here for you, we understand and care xx

Hi peggysue, I'm sorry to hear. I know exactly how you feel because I also have to wait for 7 months until the operation. Right now it's the hardest time of the year because everyone is running around in their bikinis and all we have to do is wait for our turn. But look at the bright side of things, you are on the right track saving money and you have plenty of time to research and make up your mind about shape, sizes etc. Also, we are lucky to have found this forum to share our thoughts. If your "best" friend knows that you are suffering, I think it's a bit disrespectful from her to tease you like that, especially if she's aware that you are jealous. But don't worry, in a few months you will not only have your DD, but also plenty of new underwear and self-confidence. It will revive your relationship also. Don't worry too much about your fiance, even us women would look at a DD, let alone a man! Did you have your consultation already, because that will make you feel a step closer to the operation? With regard to the bra, did you ever try the "after eden" padded bras? They are worth every penny. Instead of stuffing your bra, you should try wearing two bras on top of eachother. Come on peggysue don't give up now!!! There could be worse things in life

Peggysue,



I'm sooo glad you had the courage to write that post. A lot of what you have said could have been written by me.



For the majority of my life I was overweight, until I had gastric band surgery 2 1/2 years ago. I did so much research into the surgery beforehand and believed I would lose about 30% of my excess body weight. I thought that if I got to about 15 stone and stayed that weight for the rest of my life, I'd be over the moon.



Anyhow, the band exceeded my expectations and I lost 9 stone. I now look exceptionally slim for my height and am currently trying to put on about half a stone before my BA, uplift and Tummy tuck in 10 days as I'm looking slightly too thin.



The reason I felt the need to respond to your message was because even though I can shop in any shop and I look sooo much better in my clothes, in many ways, my self-esteem and confidence is not as good as it was when I was big.



I split up with my partner of six years about 18 months ago and got with someone else about a year ago. He is a good looking guy who was single for years before he got with me and is therefore used to being able to look at the ladies as he pleases.



As a result, I am always eyeing up other women and looking at their bodies and it really pains me when I see my boyfriend looking too. I keep thinking he's wanting to trade me in for a better model! So, I too have insecurities and jealousy, which I hate myself for. I haven't mentioned it to him, as it's my issue not his.



As I have no chest, I feel boyish like you and when I was big, I felt masculine, because even then I had very little in the way of boobs.



I'm hoping I'll start to feel a bit more confident and a bit sexier and I'm hoping that my boyfriend might start to appreciate me a bit more, but then again, maybe that's my perception of our relationship because I feel so down about myself.



Anyhow, I know I've rambled on quite a bit now, but what I do want you to be prepared for is that the surgery might not solve all your confidence problems. Some of these may be more deep rooted and may require more of a conscious psychological effort to deal with than just getting a boob job. I know that I'm still going to have things that need working on with my head and have already got plans to visit my GP and see a counsellor after my op.



Sorry if I'm off the mark, but so much of what you said echoed with my thoughts.



Wishing you all the best,

Miss Flump x x x

All your comments have made my day And it helps to know that others are thinking pretty much the same as me. I will try and eat better and pick myself up. Miss flump oh how were alike I have lost about 6 stone and also felt more confident back then.But the aftermath of lots of weight loss is not pretty (Boobs and tummy for me)And bf sounds similar story.

Xaxa I have had a consultation and have another in sept same surgeon different hospital group ...made my day they will do it for £300 cheaper

Rachemsi I also have told the world and his brother it just spills out my mouth LOL
Hopefully it will all go forward at xmas and finally life can start to move onto the next hurdle...whatever that will be LOL .

Take care lovely ladies and thanks so much

I'm glad you feel better, keep it up!!! Oh and by the way, you will have boobies before me so lucky you

xaxa I have been waiting for so long ...Bring on our boobie days xx

Sorry to hear you've been feeling so down hunni :( I guess this is a good place to vent as we all know exactly how you're feeling!

Is there a reason why you're waiting until you have the full amount for your surgery? I know that's obviously the sensible way to do it, but I didn't have the full amount for mine - I paid £1100 deposit and paid the rest over 12 months interest free... so haven't had to worry about paying for more than I've borrowed with rediculous apr's. Anyway, I'm just throwing that suggestion in there - I pay around £230 per month and for me that's been manageable... last payment due next month :D :D :D

Mx

oh hun, imso gla dto hear your feeling better!
I used to have a friend that couldnt stand guys not fancying her. She was tall and blonde and slim with decent sized boobs....luckily, i had bigger boobs...and an identical twin su=ister so it didnt work!! HA ha
bute evn now when i see her, she looks me up and down to make sure i dont look a: thinner then her and b: prettier then her.
Its pathetic. As it goes, im not too friendly with her anymore.
This friend of yours, is she an attention stealer?? if so, i would have a word with her, esp if you still wanto be friends with her. Maybe she doesnt even realsie sh is doing it> I love my boobs so much i usually have tthm popping out, i dont do it to make other guys look at me, but at the same time if i was in her situation, and your boyf didnt know where to look, i would cover them up with my arms, or a cardie until im out the door.
Not long for you sweetie, i promise it will fly by! Read this thread everytime you have a **naughty word** day.
xxxx

Hi peggysue

Gosh your post took me back. I used to feel like i was literally raging and screaming inside when my bf would look at other women's boobs, and if i was in a situaiton where there was small group of us and a reallly big pair of boobs were there I usually got so wound up i had to leave, and would usually go home and cry. i understand breast jealousy, I truly truly do!!

Honey, do you really have to wait? As someone else said, there is always credit. I got all of mine on credit, and a year and three months later have paid off three quarters of the cost.

Mates who flaunt themselves...hmmmm.. I think it just shows they may say they understand, but they really don't. I wouldn;t flaunt my boobs in front of a mate who i knew hated hers. It's just a bit selfish!! Don't tell her tho - get your revenge when you have a beautiful high firm pair - she'll suddenly start admitting hers are saggy and she's fed up of them!!!

Good luck with the saving and the op! :) It is SOOOOOOOOO worth it,

Hi girls unfortunately its impossible for me to get any sort of credit as I went through bankrupsy and lost my house and business just doing lots of things from baking cakes to cleaning friends houses it all goes in a pot and I feel so proud that im doing it by myself xxx

And so you should, honey!



Well done you for having the determination to get there! It will be worth it in the end as you'll be one step closer to feeling good about yourself. x x x

Thanks miss flump (loving the picture by the way)xx