Telling people.....

So how did you post BA girls go about telling people you were having the op? Or didn't you tell anyone?!

I plan on 'outing' myself to friends and family as soon as it's booked (partner and best friend already know!) and then once it's done I won't be able to shut up about them or hide the fact that my ironing-board chest suddenly has shape so the whole world is going to hear about it!! LOL The in-laws will be shocked and disapprove of course, but I'm used to that, they've disapproved of me since day 1!

I absolutely cannot wait! In fact, I'm seriously thinking of throwing a boob party to celebrate their arrival

haha i love the sound of a boob party, you could even get one of those novelty pair of boobs cakes

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I told the gossips in work so I didn't have to worry about telling anyone there, and I told my friends after a few drinks lol.

omg i love th idea of a boob party!!! lol. i told a few friends n all my family aprt from my grandparents....i lost a couple of friends over it, with thm bitching to ppl i barely knew n telling thm my business!! oh well...u live n learn x

I don't know why some people you tell find it so hard to take in. My initial reaction with a lot of friends has been shock,then amusement, then actually great support. I've had loads of girlfriends wanting to come round just to have a little peek and wanting to touch them, lol! I was also surprised at how a couple of them had been considering to themselves but not wanted to tell anyone.

Hi, I'm finding this hard too. My op is booked and paid for and its this friday coming, but so far only my BF knows, my mum and dad who I live with only think i'm having the rhinoplasty

I went to a PS yrs ago for BA and my mum came so It wont be a total shock.
I just cant be bothered talking about it with them because it's still embarrassing for me and dont want any views about why i shouldn't have it done etc.

I am also in between jobs, I am starting my new job in mid july/August and I plan to be in that job for a while so it's really a now or never kind of thing.
I've always put it off while in other jobs as everyone knows you and knows what you look like, so going on 'holiday' for a few weeks and coming back with big boobs was a little off putting.
PPL love to gossip and I didn't want to have to tell work colleagues, who I dont really care about, what i've had done.
In my new job i'll be starting after the Rhino and BA, people wont know any different and wont be gossiping about it which is such a relief!

I have not told any friends either, my Best friend is in singapore teaching so she will find out when she comes back, again I have told her that i'm having my nose done but boobs was a bit too much. Dont want her trying to tell me I dont need it when I have already made up my mind and have wanted it since school, 10 or more yrs.

What I will add is that my BoyFriend has told some of his mates and his parents

To be honest it has psd me off a little, but at the end of the day I hang about with these guys all the time as we have all been friends for yrs, my BF was a really close mate before we got together and it's not been malicious gossip. They will all know anyway once they see me afterwards!
He has told me who he has told as well and has been honest about why. He needs to talk about it with ppl cus he is worried. I would confide in my friends if it was the other way around and he was facing major surgery, as I would be very worried for him and not wanting him to change himself because I love the way he is.

On the other hand if it was a mate who i'd told in confidence going around the whole circle of friends and beyond telling everyone available to listen I wouldn't be happy at all and would be thinking about whether I can trust this friend again???

I'll be telling most close mates once its over with and I'm healing, I'll feel better about it then I think. x

I wasn't really planning on tellin anyone other than family but asked a couple of friends who'd had a BA for advice and then thought that it's more than likely going to get out! I go to the gym quite a lot so I knew that my gym friend would wonder why I was avoidin all the classes haha so I told her today! We were talkin about my bday and I said that i'd already had my bday present of my fiance - money towards a boob job! I've no doubt at all that she'll tell everyone even though I asked her not to. I would have liked to have kept it quiet but i don't think it's possible. Will start tellin other close friends as I see them xx

Wow.... I want a boob party.

I have told the world about my boobs....... some people are very private about this however I'm like you and fully celebrate Pinky and Perky, Yes I have named them ha ha ha.

If I could have used a loud hailer then I would, I just love them.

Good luck hun

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LOL Pinky and Perky! Get out the megaphones!! Boobie cupcakes are on me! Yep, I'm very much a 'don't care what you think' person nowadays and am too old for silly judgemental people or gossip mongerers. I know full well that as soon as a couple of the Mums in the playground realise what I've had done many of them will be delighted to have a new topic to b***h about. But I think what the hell, go for it if you've got nothing better to do with your lives than talk about my boobies, fine! I'll just make sure I give the boobs a good squeeze when they're looking ;)

emrile - sounds like you've timed your op perfectly then, honey. No gossiping colleagues to worry about and time for you to get used to your boobs and adjust to life with them before feeling the need to share with anyone else what you've had done. I totally respect that and understand why you feel you want to keep it to yourself. Not everyone is comfortable with other people talking about such an intimate operation! If I had this done a few years ago I would have been feeling incredibly shy, I'm only confident about it now because in recent years I've been through so many potentially embarrassing situations that I've stopped worrying or caring what other people think. But I do remember what it is like to care very much and I hope that your boyfriend and friends who do know about your op respect your decision to keep it private. Best of luck with your BA, not long now! xx

Im not telling anyone apart from my boyfriend. My family wouldn't approve. I know I'll end up telling some of my friends so just hope it doesn't get out!
Wish i could have a boob party tho, sounds fab! lol x

I've told a fair few people (apart from in-laws!) but a bit worried about people noticing and being judgemental afterwards. I guess I had better develop a thick skin between now and then! x

I amd efinitely going to have boob party!!!! That will be brilliant lol.

i have also told the world and his wife, really not bothered about what people think and strangely the people I thought would be judgemental have turned out to be extremely supportive and no one has tried to talk me out of it. My mum, sister and brother are very supportive but my dad is grumpy about it but that's his problem and he'll have to get over it, I'm sure my step mum will be supportive too.

As for my BF, bless him I think he is very concious of not saying either way as he has said that he doesn't mind if I do or don't have it done, pretty certain he will prefer the end result though lol, we have been together for 2 1/2 years but friends for 14 and when we got together I was 4st heavier so I know he will be fine whatever xx

My hubby is exactly the same. Very non-commital either way. Don't think he wants to admit he likes bigger boobs as he thinks I will take offence. Quite sweet really! x

I think my hubby (we're not married but have been together 10 years) will just be pleased he's allowed to see me naked again! Once I'm all healed of course, let's not get too carried away! He knows how much this means to me, I've been going on about it since we met (poor bloke).

I'm not telling my in-laws. Not because I care what they think, but because they are so self righteous and judgemental it makes me ill. They can just gawp at my chest and deal with it or talk about me behind my back as they do anyway. Yuck, horrible people! No boob party invites to them!

rachyg1 - I reckon the joy you will feel after having it done will provide you with the thick skin - let them judge away, you'll be the one grinning from ear to ear!!!