Re: Boyfriend

by kittenswithoutmittens 8th March 2011, 11:54 pm

I agree very well said HighMaintenance, I wish everyone was as thoughtful as you.

iampeteite, I just read you profile, I am Canadian too! But I live in the UK. Nice to meet you! xx

by sarahdawn31 11th March 2011, 5:09 am

Another Canadian here, I am from Vancouver but currently am living in Australia... but I miss home!

by iampetite 11th March 2011, 10:32 am

Thanks for the support guys !
Great to know there are Canadian here! I'm from Vancouver too!

by kittenswithoutmittens 13th March 2011, 12:59 pm

I miss home too!! Wish I could go back more. Have you been back since your operation Sarah Dawn? I think Canadians are a bit more conservative about their cleavage, haha, I guess it is the cold weather. But I wonder how people will react when I go home for a visit. Really, I am hoping they won't notice too much, or won't be able to say what is different. But you never know, last time I went back people had no problem commenting that I lost weight. We shall see. How is it arranging your BA in Vancouver iampetite?
xx

by iampetite 13th March 2011, 3:34 pm

Hey kittenswithoutmittens,

Arranging the BA was quite simple although I had to wait a year for the surgeon that I wanted. Im so excited it's only a little over a week away!

by candycain 13th March 2011, 3:39 pm

Wow. I did not realize there was so many other Canadains on here.

by yettiricey 14th March 2011, 10:52 am

iampetite, are you very excited hun??? xxxx

How's your boyfriend dealing with it at the moment? Is there any improvement on his support for you? I'm so excited for you x :cheerlead:

by iampetite 15th March 2011, 12:10 am

Hey yettiricey,

Thanks for your concern!

I'm am super excited!
My boyfriend still doesn't want me to have it. We still argue alot about it. Nothing really has change. What I'm waiting for is to hope that it will work out afterwards.

I just wish he could be there supporting me and taking care of me. I also read that most of you gals experience depression after too. So it really sucks that he will not be there for me. (He always has been and can calm me down so first. Just wish he would do the same for me next week). I'm sure he will be there, but I don't want him to be I rather deal with it myself instead of having someone more depressed than me while I'm healing.

by yettiricey 15th March 2011, 10:18 am

It's sad hun, do you have any good friends or family that can come spend some time with you. I think it's the GA in your system that makes you feel down and that soon passes. The joy of having boobs for the first time outways anything else you will experience.

I hope your boyfriend supports you hun, but remember we're all here for you xxxx Hug

by kittenswithoutmittens 15th March 2011, 10:17 pm

I am sorry to hear he doesn't see it your way yet. Maybe after it is done it won't seem like such a big deal, just some enhancement. I wish I could talk some sense into him though! Haha.
Seriously though a year ago I felt like I could never have a BA, like there is something wrong with wanting to change your body. But I couldn't let the idea go, and now I feel like I have just over thought the whole thing, it is an improvement, and one that will make you feel better about yourself, like going to the gym or a haircut (I know I know it is real surgery and a bigger deal than that). But 9/10 people would change something about themselves if they could, you are just motivated enough to do it.
Sorry that was a bit of a rant. But good luck IamPetite :good: . I am excited for you.

by iampetite 17th March 2011, 8:58 pm

Thanks! kittenswithoutmittens! I wish you are able to talk some sense into him too!

When is ur op date?

by kittenswithoutmittens 17th March 2011, 9:31 pm

I dont have one yet unfortunately, I was really hoping to book for the long weekend, but everyone else already thought of that before me, so I have to have a think about when I could do it realistically. Also the quote I got is much more than I expected, especially after seeing what others paid. Maybe I will ask about this haggle business, really not good at it though. Do you think its cheaper in Canada? I think with the exchange rate it would cost about 7800 canadian.

by iampetite 17th March 2011, 9:52 pm

No it's not cheaper in Canada, when I see you guys rates I wish I could have them too!!!

I'm paying $8500 cad for mine. It's a lot more than you guys :(
I'm not sure why though.

by kittenswithoutmittens 17th March 2011, 10:13 pm

Hmm that is more, I think it is like everything in Canada, the rates are less competitive, like the phone companies, there are only three major providers so they can get away with charging more. That is just my guess.
Well if you didn't already have it booked, I would say come on over! You can stay at my place hahaha. Well I live kinda far from town though. Anyways, good luck!!

by hazleyez2201 23rd March 2011, 4:05 pm

wow, he seems jealous and controlling. For one, boys come and go.. Do the surgery for you, not him. 230 cc is not a big implant. I put mine off for two years and the whole time i regretted not doing it sooner.

by **COOKIE** 23rd March 2011, 7:27 pm

My husband was against me having my surgery and begged me not to go through with it, even on the day of my actual surgery, he stopped the car outside the clinic and told me he didn't care about losing all of our money, he just didn't want me to go through with the surgery.

My husband though, although he didn't want me have the surgery respects my decisions and although it wasn't want HE wanted for me, he supported me, 'I' mean more to him to him than HIS insecurities over MY boobs - the last ditch attempt at the clinic has been the last time he's been negative about my boobs, since then all has been OK - We went through another insecurity phase for a while when my hubby didn't appreciate the male attention, but that soon settled too when he realise 'I' didn't appreciate it either, my boob job was for 'ME' to fix me as a person - Your boyfriend may need a bit of reassurance that although your boobs may change YOU wont.

If he loves you - all will be just fine gorgeous Boyfriend - Page 3 571992

by lindylou22 24th March 2011, 6:04 pm

Iampetite hun, how is he feeling about it all now that you're a few days post op? Has he been supportive at all?

LL
x

by yettiricey 24th March 2011, 6:42 pm

yes iampetite how ya doing?????? xxxxxx

by iampetite 24th March 2011, 10:56 pm

Hey guys, thanks for asking.

I didn't see him the day of but he came over the next day even after I told him not to because I didn't want him to see me all bandaged up with stitches. But he ensured me he wouldn't make any comments or faces about them and just wanted to take care of me. So he did, thank god he did because yesterday was the hardest for me. It was time for me to take of my tensor bandage and the doctor said I can shower so I was ready until I saw what my boobs looked like. there were dried blood and stitches and they were a lot bigger than what I expected and on top of all the meds I wanted to throw up.

But he was there and insisted that I show him and he was complimenting them and making me feel so good and saying that they are swollen right now and they will not look as big later. He was being so supportive. He than helped me wash my hair and dried me etc. I know that he loves me and he wants to take care of me.

He went to work today and I could feel that he is still sad and disappointed that I went through with it. But I know he is trying his best right now to take care of me and not show any signs of that while I'm recovering.

He secretly took 3 days off of work to take care of me. He didn't even tell me he did. So I appreciate it alot.

Sorry I've been rambling. I hope it make sense, i'm not a good typer right now haha.

by lisalisa 24th March 2011, 11:03 pm

Iampetite, I'm so happy for you that your bf is trying, am Im sure once everything settles down and he sees that you are the same person he feel in love with but more confident about your self he'll understand.

My bf didn't want me to go through with ti either because he said it was uneccesary in his eyes but he's been so lovely since i had the operation a couple of days ago, he didn't let me do anything. It's a really nice feeling and he even said it wasn't as big as he thought it would be

by **COOKIE** 24th March 2011, 11:05 pm

Sounds like you have yourself a keeper there sweetness, you're both gonna be OK Boyfriend - Page 3 571992

x

by Janedevotedmummy:) 25th March 2011, 8:31 am

Just been looking at this topic!
Hope you're feeling okay now iampetite?
So pleased you're bf is now making a nice effort to help you. I'm sure overtime he will come to accept them and probably even love them, as he loves you! xxx

by yettiricey 25th March 2011, 8:42 am

Oh bless his heart hun and bless yours. Your boobs will settle and they are swollen and hard now so nothing like they will be in time. Your boyfriend loves you and he has proven that now. Love is unconditional and I think once your boobs have settled he will love them as much as you will. Each day now gets easier and easier Hug

by kittenswithoutmittens 27th March 2011, 7:35 pm

I am so glad he was there for you, sounds like a real sweetie. This just shows he was really just worried about you the whole time. AND good for you for sticking to your decision even though it was hard. :good:
I hope you feel better, and the GA sick
goes away soon.

by titanic_girl 29th March 2011, 3:44 pm

iampetite wrote:I've been having a really big issue with my boyfriend. He highly disagrees with plastic surgery and certainly not on me. I have been bringing this topic up for about a year now and we even went on a 3 month break because of it. So he said he'll suck it up and try to deal with it. But he's so embarrassed for me that he said he wouldn't even want to go out with me in front of his friends and parents.

I have explained to him so many times that this is for me only and I'm only getting them 230 CC and i'm currently an A. It won't be a big difference on me because I usually wear padded bras anyways.

So I'm currently 2 weeks away from my surgery date. I'm so close!!
We had a huge fight this morning. He said that he is dispensable. Because I rather choose to have BA than to be with him. He doesn't understand why he thinks that I would rather choose to "get more attention", which is not why I'm doing it. He made me feel so horrible that it seems like I'm making myself more attractive and not caring about what his feelings and values are = our relationship in the future. Now if anything I think that our life would be better (in bed) plus I would have the confidence that I always wanted about my body.

He said he is willing to do anything so I don't have to get a BA. I sat there the whole morning without saying a word.... and agreed to him that I won't do it..

Now I'm so sad. I've been waiting all this time to get a BA. I've waited for the best surgeon in my area, which was about a year. I've booked time off from work.

And I told him I'm not doing it anymore......

Has anyone had this problem before? Did you choose BA over your BF vice versa? If you did get a BA and you bf disapproved, how was your relationship after?

I need so advice. I know this issue has hurt him a lot and I finally agreed with him to not do it. But now I'm sad.

He is being so selfish. He should want you to be happy with your body and if that's by getting a BA, so be it. My boyfriend wasn't keen on the idea of me getting one and I still haven't but he wouldn't stop me or finish me because of it.

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