What made you want your boob job?

aurora - that dancing will be brilliant for your figure when you up to it again too.

I would find it hard (no pun intended) if DF had been watching porn when I wasnt there - we do watch it together and thats great but the thought of him doing it without me makes me feel .... not sure what word to use here ..... angry/confused/insecure/jealous oh and angry some more.

Im probably wrong to feel that way I know.

I sort of like the sound of him revving his engine so to speak before I got involved though .... that could be good - loooooove a bit of serious passion and rough stuff. x

Kat4 wrote:

I would find it hard (no pun intended) if DF had been watching porn when I wasnt there - we do watch it together and thats great but the thought of him doing it without me makes me feel .... not sure what word to use here ..... angry/confused/insecure/jealous oh and angry some more.

Im probably wrong to feel that way I know.

you aren't wrong to feel that way...... its perfectly normal and VERY common.... you want intimacy to be between you and your man only.... no one else. Nothing wrong with that. I've taken it a step too far though, can't even watch porn with him!! But i am a bit of an emotional mess, lol xxx

awww amy. Do you still feel that way even after your ba? about not watchin any with him? I used to get worked up if I saw someone in a film that had gorgeous breasts but these days I dont - I comment more on them than I ever did but more in a positive way.

Ive a new one to trouble my little cabbage brain with now - slim women, with perfectly flat stomachs my new inner torture - why the f*ck do we torment ourselves so ??

hi hun, i have got a lot better after my surgery, i'm also on medication to help with my anxiety which works well, but it does still bother me, i get very frustrated with myself but its slowly improving. I can't watch bare breasts in films either, but rather than having a crying fit and smoking 10 fags, i tell my hubby i feel rubbish, he gives me the 'reassuring chat' and i can then rationalise it.

Us women eh? Kat from what i've seen, there is nothing wrong with ur tummy at all, you look like you have a cracking figure. Theres no reason for ur man to look at anyone else, he has real, beautiful woman sat right next to him......

i really should try to take my own advice sometimes

xxxx

Kat4 - how old are you hun, if you don't mind me asking? Admittedly I only have your chest to go by but I wouldn't put you at needing to be 20 years younger to be able to dance.......... I am 33 though most people seem to assume I am in my mid 20s

It does bug me that he watches it without me but I would rather he watches it "secretly" then ravages me than not.
I do actually quite like watching porn but he thinks I would like watching the porn he likes cos I am insecure about my boobies and it is big boob porn cos that is his thing.
For now this way works so I suspect it will carry on til I am ready to see what he watches.
He seems to be getting more excited now I am so close to the op. I told him about us all discussing t*t w**ks and I think he keeps remembering this when i mention the op as he gets that silly grin that they get and his eyes glaze slight, lol, bless him.

Aurora1979 wrote:I do actually quite like watching porn but he thinks I would like watching the porn he likes cos I am insecure about my boobies and it is big boob porn cos that is his thing.

That should read "but he thinks I wouldn't like watching...."

i think you're handling the porn thing really well aurora, it is nice he waits till you get home.... shows that what he REALLY wants is YOU. In 9 days time you will have big bouncing beautiful boobs, this will help how you feel about it a lot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks hun, I am just trying to keep all my insecurities in check and once I have my boobies and then my flat stomach back (almost there but have to stop training for a bit post op) then I know I look the best I can and that should help a lot with everything

It is nice he waits and I think that is the reason I can handle it.

Good for you girl. Most guys don't wait!!! You've got a goodun :thumbs: xxx

Apparently so It is our two year anniversary in April, can't wait.

Kat4 wrote:I would find it hard (no pun intended) if DF had been watching porn when I wasnt there - we do watch it together and thats great but the thought of him doing it without me makes me feel .... not sure what word to use here ..... angry/confused/insecure/jealous oh and angry some more.

Im probably wrong to feel that way I know

I dont think you are wrong to feel that way.. Im just glad im not the only one who feels CRAZY jealous, and very angry, if i know he has been watching porn!!!

It ok having a w*nk when its my time of the month or im not up for it..but when im freely available and he can't be bothered to come to bed..now THATS a different story!!

Love your new avi Kat!! xx

momojack - I agree completely - that makes me really angry if I am available (especially as I have a much higher sex drive than him) and he sneaks off as that detracts from us time.

But if I am out and get jumped on when I get home that is ok cos it adds to us time.

Thats amazing that he waits for you! Most men dont!

Just coming home to find a completely deleted internet browsing history or getting up in the morning and finding the TV turned down to 0 volume!! Makes me angry coz he is trying to be sneaky.. (and failing!!!) x

AMYD!!!! Love the new avi!!!!
And you too Kat!! I've wanted that bra for agesssss but couldnt bare to buy a C bra!!! In time I will have it!!!


Us women will never understand how men think, if we were gay then we wouldnt get women either. I find it annoying how things affect me, like him looking at other women etc etc... but I find the more I think about it the more it bothers me. Amy D like you said, we all need to take our own advise, We all no exactly how it is, out men luv us and their with us for a reason. We all just need to chill out relax and be happy. Were the biggest critics of ourselves. All this is SOOOO much easier said than done. I just block out anything that annoys me if im being stupid or talk to him about it if something is an issue. End of the day, I look at other women as much as if not more than him so I shouldnt just assume 'he must want sex with them' because I dont?
ok all that probably makes no sense... going to stop typing and ranting now...

xxx

I'm in the crazy jealous club haha wish I could control it but sometimes I just can't!x

Jealousy is SO hard to ignore, its just all consuming sometimes..even tho you know your man will not run off with any woman he sees, you still shout and rant (and throw things!!) and then feel like a complete idiot later when you have calmed down!! x

Sounds like me! Especially after being pregnant and feeling fat and saggy, now being pregnant again and feeling fat to be honest I wouldn't change any of it for the world but it will be nice to get my body back and seriously concentrate on getting back to how I used to be. After having my first I knew I wanted them close together so could never really get motivated to lose weight properly because I just knew it would end up being a waste of time. I've always been really confident with my figure and slim so when my flat stomach didn't bounce back immediatley or even after a few months, I was gutted. Everyone told me I would 'bounce back' so I convinced my self I would too. Needless to say I'm not going to be so naive this time haha x

momojack wrote:Jealousy is SO hard to ignore, its just all consuming sometimes..even tho you know your man will not run off with any woman he sees, you still shout and rant (and throw things!!) and then feel like a complete idiot later when you have calmed down!! x

OH I've been there before! Only a few times. Few hundred that is X x x

OMGI cant believe how many of us girls are effected by porn and glamour!

At one point I thought I was the only one who felt this way.Its taken a hell of alot of time for my s to realise how much it hurt me when he was watching porn

makes you feel very unloved and discustingly unattractive when your in another room and they think you dont know

Our sex life as gone sky high since it all stopped and we talked he admitted after a heart to heart one day that its an addiction and was very hard to stop.

xx

When feeling bad about yourself nothing makes it worse than that. It basically confirms (in your mind) someone else is better. Me and OH had this argument just after I had LO about porn, he didn't get it! Men aye! x

Men really dont get it, and my OH usually gived the excuse of "im a man, blokes look at porn" so im supposed to accept this as normal! He knows it annoys me so tries to be more sneaky about it, its doesnt work..just too obvious!

I feel the same about the mens mags..my OH doesnt buy them luckily, as i cant even look at all those scantily clad ladies with big boobs on the magazine rack at Tesco! xx

I'm the same momojack. MY husband used to try and hide it too, he also said the same thing about 'men watch porn' thing. But now he really knows how depressed I got, he stopped watching it. I went and got counselling and he sat in on it. It only then hit him what effect the porn etc had had on me. I totally trust that he doesn't watch it anymore, it took us many years to get to The point we're at now... Lots of tears, rows, talking and reassurance. x x x x

If OH came home with a lads mag I would smack him in the face with it. Don't think he still watches porn... he doesn't get a chance!x

I really can't believe how much porn and lads mags affect everyone, I think if they only understood and realised they wouldnt do it, being men though they rarely realise things until its too late. I think there's a fine line, I dont mind my bf watching porn with me or when Im not there but if he snook off into another room to watch it secretly I'd go NUTS!

Steph I am the same. I have no problem if I am watching it with him or not around but if he was watching it when he could be with me we would have an issue.

I used to be completely anti-porn until I sat down and analysed why I felt like that and turns out it's cos I actually find (some of) it quite a turn on..... so hopefully I should be even more comfortable with it once I am looking my best with my new boobs.