I told my mum and dad today!

Hi Girls

As some of you know I was so scared about telling my mum and dad (especially my dad who I fear a bit) about my decision to have a boob job this year, currently looking at March/April.
Today I went to see them to pick up some xmas presents and decided before I went I was going to tell them what with xmas and the new year now out of the way.

I was so so nervous and a bit shaky but was determined I was not going to cry! So I said "I'm going to have some time off in March because I'm having an operation on my boobs" and they were like to have what done and I said to make them a bit more fuller and bigger and they just looked at eachother in silence across the room!
They basically asked me questions about it, the actual thought processes around why I want it done rather than what the op actually entails. They both dont approve and I said that I knew that would be the case. They both said it is my decision though which I thought was good.

My mum said if I have the money to spend on that then why dont I spend it on the house my OH and I have been renovating over the last 2 years! I was like its not really the same thing and the house will get done eventually, starting this week actually!
My dad its a shame that even intelligent girls like me get influenced by the media and think that I need something doing or changing when I dont. He wants me to park the idea for now and then come back to it in 6 - 12 months and if I still want it then to do it then.

Sorry for the essay and would love to hear your thoughts!
I am waiting for my PS to answer some outstanding questions I have and then I think I am still going to book it for March/April. I feel like its a weight off my mind but am still a bit worried because I know they arent completely happy with it, obviously I knew that would be the case mind you!
Lots of love
Grace
xxx

Hi hun, my mum said the same thing, 'wait until 6 months and see if you still want it' to which i replied 'no way' as i've wanted boobs for 10 years now so 6 months isnt going to change anything!
I never told my dad about my BA as there was no need as he lives far away plus it would be too awkward. I would just do what you feel is right x

I've been saying I wanted my boobs done since I was 16/17 started out as abit of a joke but when I got to 21 I knew it was deffinatly something I wanted and didnt want to wait years for. I had my ba last year in july (at 23) and I honestly think its one of the best things I have ever done!

When I first use to talk about it my mum would tell me not to be so silly and I never really mentioned it to my dad until I was booking it but I'm sure my mum would have said something.

If it is something you have been thinking about for a long time and you know its what you really want then I dont think waiting another 6months will make any difference to you at all hun. People kept saying to me wait and see if your body changes blahhh blahh.... but I knew at 23 my natual boobs werent gonna change so waiting would not have helped me in any way.

Is you OH suppotive of you having a ba? If so then I would say go for it. xx

well one hun, see t wasnt a sba as you thought, eh.
My mum, OH and few of my friends didnt want me to have it done, but the more i talked about it the more my mum realised i was serious, i think my mum had visions of me ending up like Jordan, which i def dont look like ive ha mine done.

whe they realise your not gunna budge they ll support you, my OH and mum didnt want me to do it, but at end of the day they were with me and helped me after .
all the best xxx

Hi, my mum and dad were completely against the idea of having elective surgery especially as I had never mentioned it before. Only didn't mention it because there wasn't any point before it was something that I was actually going to do. They did come round to the idea once they realised I was serious and nothing they could say would change my mind. After the operation they both visited me in hospital and my mum said they looked nice the other day! Good luck and do it for yourself. I barely spoke to my parents in the month before because I was fed up of hearing the same things!

Thanks for all your supportive girls
Its so good knowing that all of you are on here.
I am actually even more excited about my BA since I posted earlier!
Lots of love
G
xxx

hey grace ive just read your post.
i only told my mum as she is so easy going and we are more like best mates than mother and daughter, but i never dared tell my dad as i knew he would give me so much ear ache over it, he is very old fashioned i remeber when i wanted a perm when i was 14 he didnt agree with that!! lol
instead the day of my opp just as i was going down to theatre my mum told my dad! i spoke to him over the phone after my surgery he was abit miffed he was the last to know but understood the reasons why we never told him, he said "as long as your ok and happy thats all that matters...but i would have gave you some sh!t if i had known before" lol xx

Well done for telling them, it's a really hard thing to do.

I think we all fear our parents disapproval.

x

I have told my mum and when I did she wasn't impressed and was saying how people these days have surgery too easily and what would I want doing after the boobs (she thinks once I have surgery i'll start picking other bits I don't like) but that's rediculous as just going for the boobs terrifies me! She even said to me she hopes I have wrote a will as she thinks i'll die! I know she's worried but she doesn't need to say that to me! I haven't told my dad I feel like I want to because some friends etc know but I just feel weird talking about boobs to him but he see's me a lot so he'll know something has happened once it's done if i'm in pain, etc.
Have you booked anything yet? I'm getting mine done next week so excited but really nervous xx

Claireyfairey wrote:I have told my mum and when I did she wasn't impressed and was saying how people these days have surgery too easily and what would I want doing after the boobs (she thinks once I have surgery i'll start picking other bits I don't like) but that's rediculous as just going for the boobs terrifies me! She even said to me she hopes I have wrote a will as she thinks i'll die! I know she's worried but she doesn't need to say that to me! I haven't told my dad I feel like I want to because some friends etc know but I just feel weird talking about boobs to him but he see's me a lot so he'll know something has happened once it's done if i'm in pain, etc.
Have you booked anything yet? I'm getting mine done next week so excited but really nervous xx

I havent booked anything yet lovely as need a third opinion as 2 surgeons have advised different placements (I have posted about this already this week as it has freaked me out!) Once I have a third opinion I will be able to book I think, basically I wanna have overs and not unders and my original surgeon who I was going to go with has now said unders to me and its completely thrown me as another surgeon said overs without a doubt!
Good luck for your op cant wait to hear all about it!
Grace
xxx

Good on you for getting it out in the open! I know how hard it is telling parents. Mine were not happy about it one bit to say the least.

My dad didn't speak to me on my operation day and neither the day after. Never asked how I got on or anything. But it wasn't until he saw how hurt I was that he was being so cold that he was better with me.

Now it's like i've never been through with it and I'm glad. They will warm to the idea. X

Yeah Grace I noticed your other post after I wrote that :) hopefully you'll get sorted soon :) i'm getting scared now, hopefully the snow will stop coz I have to fly from the Isle of Man to Liverpool for mine xx