Question for those with a partner... Or without

Did they have any say in the results of your BA? Or if you don't have a partner would you have let them have a say?

Did/would their opinion matter?



For me personally, the decision to have my BA was ultimately mine. My husband didn't want me to have a BA and as is seemingly the trend for most men who love their ladies, my husband loved me just the way I was and didn't want me to change...

But it was a change to my breasts I NEEDED and after discussing it with him, he said that although he didn't agree with elective surgery, he would support me because he respected how 'I' felt.

He went with me to all consultations and in every one has had some input and we came to agreement - my surgeon, my husband and myself as to what would be right for me.

If I didn't have his full support, I'm not sure I could have had the surgery to be honest. Part of my reasoning for having a BA was to give me more confidence to bare my body in front of my husband without hiding my breasts, so what he thought really mattered to me. Although I ultimately had my BA 'for me' the thought of pleasing my husband too was very important to me and he wouldn't be happy - I wouldn't be happy and I have no doubt in my mind about that. My husband opinion matter 'to me' as much as my own.

How about you girls... Did you include your man in your decision? Or for those who are single, if you were in a relationship, would your partner matter? Xx

The decision was mine also! I had explained why I wanted it done and he supported me. He said he loves me way I am etc but I needed this for me!
I nearly booked, and didn't go ahead... A year later I hadn't stopped thinking about it so I knew for me I had to do this! And it's been the best decision I've made!

If he had told me he didn't want me to have it then I would have gone through the concerns but as I was doing it for me, it was going to happen either way! He was worried but after talking it through, he supported me and along with my family I was well looked after so I'm very lucky :)

Xx

well when met Peter we were always very open with each other so I told hm about my eating disorder and my body imaging problems and that I had been seeing my gp about it and that also one day I would love my boobs done he ust have been like YES!!! as hes very much a boob man lol

So after about a year of seeing him I went for a few consultations and just felt it was the right time for me and just aswell cause just after that we found out on the day we got the keys to our newly purchased house that we were pregnant with little Ellie pie

Fast forward to Jan 2012 last year when I was trying on wedding dresses and I just felt beautiful in them but there wasnt much shaping up top so I paod to have padding added to my dress for our wedding in the June coming, on holidays I would never go in a bikini top always a vest top as I just did not fell confident and in the bedroom boobs were a no go area and I always felt he never found me totally attractive as he was a boob man lol anyway he reassured me I was being silly and over time i got some confidence aroun dhim (my ex had been not nice for years saying i wasnt the bset looking girl around etc etc)

We kinda had a chit chat giggle one night aroung the sept, no oct we had been on honeymoon and back and he said do you want boobs for your xmas and I was like yeah ok how good would that be, totally not thinking anything of it

So then one night I think mid Nov he showed me some paperwork and he had arranged consultations etc for me to go see some surgeons/clinics, i went alone as I just felt it was for "me" all he asked was I dont be silly and go to big and not be happy then once I had decided on the surgeon etc he called and paid in full for me cause he knew I wouldnt lol

This past year in my lowest of lows with my probs leading up to my reop he really was so understanding and just listened or understood that I came on here a fair bit as you girls just know it all, then when I decided to travel for surgey he supported to me in that too as you all prob read recently

So yeah although this journey had been for "me" he had been very much included in it and i for sure feel in the bedroom it has brought us closer than we maybe were before, Im much more confident (at times) with my body now and now they are halfway to sorted im doing good

Good post Cookie!! xx

My Fiancee was in the loop from the very start but if he had tried to *forbid* me from having the op I would have ignored that and gone ahead anyway. I was lucky in that he was very supportive from the start, whilst he didn;t want me to have surgery he wanted me to be happy and now he loves them which is a bonus haha x

Tink, your hubby cares for you so much! How lovely xx

It hadn't ever crossed my mind until after having children and weight loss.
My husband has been 100% supportive all the way.
He just says "not toooo big, hehe, i think most men would say this to their wives/gfriends ....only as he can't stand the thought of other fellas having a good look at them!

We are fortunate that we can afford to have this done at the moment, I don't think he'd be quite so approving if i had to seek finance for it   

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Tink - Love your story, how supportive and lovely your Peter sounds. So glad you've had your reop so you can enjoy now  


At first Stephen was like you don't need it doing, I can't seem to understand why you'd spend all the money for something you already have. I could understand if you didn't have boobs but you do, bla bla. I basically told Ste that I would be having a ‘boob job’ because I wanted my boobs to look a certain way, a look I couldn't achieve without having a BA. Anyway he soon got over it, and has been the BEST ever. He said he'd pay for it(didn't accept as I want me to own them   ) he's come with me to all my consultations, helps me doing the rice test everyday  just everything. 

I think initially he was worried about other men and how it would bring attention to me, he said ‘you're going to leave for someone younger and muscular’ obviously not the case and he's been reassured. 

I just want this for me, I'm 21 and in a few years I will not want this look I want - so whilst I'm young I'm going for it otherwise I'll regret not doing it! Xx

I always wanted mine done and it has been on the agenda since I was about 17 (I was 23 when I had it done) I was never very confident with that part of my body, but I got with my fiencee at 18 and we were together nearly 6 years, he knew it was something I wanted but always said I didn't need it and he loved my boobs. We decided buying a house and getting married was a bigger priority and it was for both of us at the time, and I would get it done after children which we planned to have in the next year or 2. But things changed and we split up in January this year, after lots of thinking I decided I still wasn't confident, I had lost weight and the idea of getting undressed in front of anyone new scared the **naughty word** out of me... So I went to some consultations and booked in. It was something I had to do for myself after what I had been through, yes I got stick from people saying I did it to get him back but they never knew it was always on the cards. I wish now I hadn't let him talk me out of it for so long...... The best thing I ever did!!! 
And the look of his face when he saw me a few months after was priceless!!! 
Xx