Day 5 Post op - Midgiebites

Hi ladies!  Hope you are all having a lovely weekend.  

Sorry I haven't been around much the last 2 days, been feeling very sorry for myself.  Friday (day 3 post op) i went and got my hair blow dried at the hairdressers and it totally wiped me out.  I felt terrible and thought I was going to pass out, so the hour it took to get to the salon, get hair washed and dried and get home resulted in me going to bed and sleeping for 4 hours (so my hair looked like a birds nest again - I am sweating like nothing on earth when sleeping?!  Think its the thigh high ted stockings).  I decided to stop taking dihydracodeine and ibuprofen as maybe they were making me feel so ill.  Not in a lot of pain, just uncomfortable and SO tight, struggle to take a proper breath in.  Think I uploaded day 3 pics to picturetrail.
Yesterday (day 4 post op) I got up and a was a bit sore.  Checked the goods out in the mirror and the swelling in the right breast has gone down a bit, however, the bruising has now come out.  I can see the bruising under my tegaderm dressing to the wound incisions - worse on the right side also my ribs on my right side are black and blue?! Felt stiff and stuck to paracetamol all day, went a run in the car with hubby and kids - was a bit uncomfortable but bearable.  Hubby struggling a bit having to look after the little ones (now he knows what i deal with day in day out lol).  Came home, slept for 2 hours, had chinese for dinner, managed to hang up a load of washing and put another load on, then went back to bed.  No pictures yesterday.
Today (day 5 post op) I am just up and had breakfast, feeling good to be honest, no painkillers yet.  Not had my bath yet this morning, but will do some pics after that.  Had paracetamol during the night because I was quite uncomfortable.  Really struggling to sleep propped up, getting sore and uncomfortable, also experiencing "morning boob" and pain in the tops of my arms when I move during the night? Hubby away to the golf this morning (so he was in a better mood).  My littlest baby is away to his grannies house as I still dont feel able to pick him up or carry him.  My little girl is 3 and a 1/2 so she has stayed with me.  Going to have a girly morning - paint her nails and dress her up  missing being a proper mummy.  Have my appointment on Wed to get my dressings changed

Think thats everything, sorry for the long post, just wanted to update everyone.  If I've forgot anything I'll add it in. xxx

hiya huni, its good to read your post to know im not the only one feeliny v uncomfortable and like im going to faint when doing too much amd feeling bit sorry for myself lol, I also have been sick a few times after goin up and down stairs too not sure if thats normal? 

I totally no what you mean about the kids its so sad not being able to do propa mummy things with them my little girl is 10 months an d is gunna be with daddy and nanny most of the week,    
Omg im with u on the morning boob its a killer!! Want to have a shower today I had my ba friday n feel really dirty they said wait till sunday, do you take everything off? Probs a silly question lol xx
Im going in o  thursday to see surgon hopefully everythings healing like it should for both of us! Xxx

Hoping you feel even better today and each day is better than the last :) in no time I'm sure you'll be able to resume your mummy duties  xx

Thanks Emily :flowers:  July tomorrow, your BA will be here before we know it!!  So exciting xxx

Zoe, you being sick is probably your bodies way of telling you to slow down a bit.  I've not actually been sick, but not been far from it at times.  Do you have a bath rather than a shower?  I am allowed to shower but prefer to bath because I get a bit light headed standing in the heat.  I have a bath (waist height) and wash all bottom half, then sponge wash the top half.  Went to hairdresser to wash and dry hair because I don't think I could hold my arms over my head to wash and dry.  I am glad you have some help with your little princess, you don't realise how much we take everything for granted until we can't do it xxx

Ohhhh hun, you couldn't have chosen a worse day to get your hair done! Day 3 is generally the worst day. Its the day when the most of your swelling kicks in and you just feel like you said... Pretty rubbish really  

The discomfort in your arms whist sleeping, can be resolved with a pillow placed under each one to help support them babe. A pillow under your knees too is also going to help take some of that pressure off your back and a rolled towel in the small of your back helps too. 

If you're sleeping 'sat up' hun, then there's no need. Lower yourself down so that just your head and shoulders are raised higher then your chest. This is all that's necessary babe.

As hard as it is watching hubby with the kids, you just have to close your eyes to it and leave him to get on with it babe. He WILL manage, but if you help him. He'll come to EXPECT that help and before you know it you'll be doing it all all. That's just how guys are.

Whilst you're in so much discomfort - STUFF THE WASHING! If it needs doing your hubby can do it hun. You're in no fit state right now to be doing ANYTHING except taking gentle walks to help build your strength back up.

Honestly babe, if you do too much, you risk putting your recovery all the way back... Or worst, you could result in a complication that requires surgical intervention and I'm sure  your hubby wouldn't want that for you would he babe, so he does really need to be there for you ALL the time whilst you have small children around you. 

Stopping the heavy meds will help you feel loads better and more like yourself babe. Don't worry about taking a bath or anything until you feel you're able to and definitely don't do that whilst you're on your on your own hun.

Its nice you're having a girly day with your daughter babe, but if at any point you don't feel able to cope PLEASE don't think anything of calling your husband home hun. Not just for your sake, but for your daughters too babe.

Sorry if that sounds dramatic, but its really not babes...you have just had major surgery sweetheart and really shouldn't be left on your own with small children so soon.

Really hoping you feel better soon

HUGS 

Thanks cookie - I might just let him read your post :-)

I am definitely going to use all your tips for bedtime tonight - it's been the worst part!  xxx

Can I have a wee peek at your pics? would love to see Tamuir's work!
The 1st week is the worst after BA once you get through that you will be amazed at how much better you feel each day after, don't think you quite realise how little you can sometimes do post op especially with unders as just about every upper body movement involves using your pecs.Rest when your body tells you and it wont be long before your back to your old self again except with a cracking pair of new boobs that is...lol X

I hope you do let hubby read babe. Its not so much you that needs help right now its HIS children. YOU need rest and you can't do that with small demanding children around you. That's not fair to you and its not fair to his children.

Having 'major surgery' really takes its toll on your body and you need time to recover. At the very least for a week! But even after that you won't be doing much. You won't be hoovering, ironing or or anything else that's going to put stress on your upper body for 6 weeks.

You certainly aren't going to be able to lift your smaller baby for at least 2 weeks and even then you'll have to see how YOU feel.

Even though this is elective surgery, this is major surgery and things can and do go wrong!

I should do a sticky for people helping mums so they know just how much help mums need.... Maybe I will.

But if you're reading this Mr Midgiebites, please put your children first. They need you there to take care of them whilst your wife takes the rest wife needs.   Xx

Sorry your not having a great time at the minute , it's defiently hard when children are involved I miss my little man but after him being here for 6 hours yesterday I know it's difficult ,

Morning boob I get that in the morning sometimes also if I am laying to flat as I've slid down I can't get up as causes to much pain so have to call for help lol xx

HI Midgiebites. How are you feeling today? Just reading a bit more of your recovery story. Did you manage to get some rest? xx

Cookies advice is great, I'm not a mum but I've read many women's story's on here feeling very guilty but your recovery is so important! Really hope your starting to feel better now some more time has past :) x

Aww huni.  X I know how hard it is being a mummy and having a BA! My older ones were great after surgery but my youngest was almost 2 and he just didn't understand. I told him mummy's boobies are ouchy, and he left them alone but he still wanted all the usual cuddles and carries and I just couldn't do it. I wasn't picking him up until week 5, I just couldn't manage it x I would definatly let you hubby read this, he has to understand that it is major surgery. And he helped make the children he can help look after them. After all he's gonna want a share of them boobies lol xx I hope you feel better soon xx

Hi everyone, sorry I am just getting back to you all just now.  Cookie a sticky would be really helpful (i personally would have benefitted from it!) xxx

Already done gorgeous   Xx

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