my story

so i arrived at Glasgow hospital about 6.40 yesterday morning and got taken to my room which was shared with 3 other woman. i got told my partner could stay till 8 then would have to leave and come back at night as i had never been in hospital before i got a bit upset and started crying so the ward manager said he could stay till i went into surgery but we would have to sit in the waiting room after 8. i then got measured for my stockings, the nurse came and went through some questions took my blood pressure and temperature. then the anesthetist came and saw me. i then went down to the waiting room where we sat till 2 until i had to go and get changed into my stockings and gown. i then went back to the waiting room untill about 3-half 3 then i got taken down the stairs to the room before u get your GA. It was here i got upset and decided i couldn't go through with it. Dr Hart came and seen me and said i didn't seem in the right state to get it and i could try again in a few months. He said next time we could di it differently like i could get taken alot earlier and also get a tablet when i first go in to calm me down. he also said because he didn't have time to come and speak to me before surgery might have affected me aswell.

I'm so gutted for you adele x definatly ask for a pre med next time! Do you have another appointment to see your surgeon? X

Aw adele hun I'm sorry it didn't happen yesterday but seeing your surgeon again and pre meds will help a lot. Everything happens for a reason, i'm sure your time will come soon. xx

babe, sorry to hear this, when the time is right for you you'll know xx hope you're okay xx

You've been incredibly brave writing your story Adele, I know just going back over the situation must have upset you again greatly, but please sweetheart... Stay positive

Your surgeon has hopefully given you the reassurance that if you choose to go though with this, things will be VERY different and you nerves and fears will be taken great care of on the day.

We're here if you'd like to talk it through, or just chat about anything Adele and we're all very much thinking if you. Xx

I'm glad that you have a chance to go ahead with your BA if you want to in the near future and steps will be made to ensure you have a much better experience xxx

Big hugs lovely. xx

So sorry to hear hun. Im so glad ur surgeon is offering u another date for surgery if u want it :-) i would advise u to ask for the earliest time hun.. I was first on the list and so glad i was.. I had no time for worries. If u are scared of the GA my mum was allowed to stand with me until i was asleep then had to leave.. Might be worth asking if ur partner could stay with u too! If u have anu questions please feel free to mail me.. I appreciate the nerves u are going through! xxx

I got it done in glasgow through the nhs with prof Hart and they wouldnt allow him to come down they said I was lucky he got to stay till 3 and next time he wont be allowed to stay after 8 xx

Thats not nice! :( next time at least you have a rough idea of what to expect hun. Trust me when i say it all seems so much worse than it is.. Honestly! You will be fine :) xxx

Oh adele I've only just seen thism im so sorry you couldnt go through with it. By sound of it you didn't have the best of care from nursing staff at the GRI.Hope your ok an get another date soon x

Hi Adele, sorry to hear you couldn't go through with it, but like the other girls have said at least now you know what to expect next time if you decide it's right for you. Xx

Aw I so sorry to hear this Adele, it's not very nice having to be on your own for all that time while you wait. I was first in at my clinic so didn't really have the time to worry, maybe this is something u can request?
Keep positive and hopefully this will prepare u so u know what to expect next time. Xx

Awww Adele if you weren't ready then it's good you could say so let's hope you can choose another date that you would feel happier to go through with it. It is a hard decision not one to be taken lightly and well done you for saying so and for being able to update us on it. Good luck sweetie xx

Ah am sorry to read this Adele, thanks for sharing your story, I hope you are doing ok hun. Maybe the surgeon/hospital will be able to give you a bit more care and support next time, especially now that they know how nervous you were. Good luck sweetie with whatever you choose to do. xxx