Help - jitters sorry for rant

Hi girls
I'm sat here really quite nervous and been quite teary this morning. Have been really snappy at my OH when it's probably not warranted. I got so much to do before I go round the house before Monday and he's fecked off on his motorbike despite being out on it all afternoon yest and staying at a mates night before.
I know he will be doing a lot while I'm recovering but it almost feels like he's 'doing me a Favour' next week looking after our little one so he should do everything he wants now.
I have mostly been fine up to now haven't been worried about op at all but now it's 2 days away and feel like I'm in a panic. I weren't worried about anything going wrong but now am frightened about it.
I may be tetchy as im giving up smoking too so maybe I'm being too stroppy with OH but honestly he has wound me up so much this morning might go and find something to bash him with while I can still use my arms xx

Hey,
im pre-ba as you know but just wanted to offer a bit of support.
Its so normal to be nervous, everyone is but you have to remember that everyone of the girls on this site says they loved their day and would enjoy having it all over again! It will be over so fast and then your have the boobs youve always wanted! I nearly booked last year but wasn't able to sleep, i was so stressed about it and i knew it wasnt the right time. Now a year on (although i go through moments of complete panic haha) i feel so much more confident and i know this is what i want to do.
About the OH, very annoying! Its been said on here before that were the ones having the BA but yet it seems like they are with all the worrying and organising we do! Im not sure what to suggest but if i was me in your shoes i would sit down with him and tell him that i need more support from him, that im really nervous and it would be nice if he spend some more time with me? Liked the last comment about bashing him while you could still use your arms haha, this was my other suggestion ;)
Good luck any way and im sure the other girls will have some advice too!
Try to stay calm, your enjoy your BA day im sure :) xx

Go punch a pillow and call it hubby babe! Haha

Seriously alli. The emotions you're going through are all VERY normal.

Nerves have kicked in and now your minds running on overtime thinking about all the things that could happen and even the slightest thing can send you off on one right now.

Your hubby maybe feels he's best out the way whilst you're feeling like this and sweetie... Maybe it's best he is. I know if you're anything like me, little one and all I always got things done far quicker when he wasn't around messing things up behind me.

You're going to be fine babe. take 10 minutes to make yourself a cuppa and have a little read through some of the surgery stories here. They always helped to settle my nerves and bring back some of the excitement reading how happy everyone is after waking.

Everything WILL fall into place Alli. But when you feel your anger bubbling its time to take time out for a minute hun and give yourself a breather

You'll be OK and we're here ANYTIME you need us. Xx

it's perfectly normal to be nervous Hun. You will be absolutely fine, just keep focusing on the end result. As for your OH as cookie said he probably just wants to be out of your way, men can't cope with emotion and he is probably nervous himself about Monday xx

Thanks Jennifer, I'm sure I will enjoy it, I have been waiting 2 years for it so I know sure and it's just a last minute panic, I just wish he would be more supportive he doesn't seem to think about the emotional side where u worry and panic he is just like well ur getting what u want what u moaning about???
Obv just understand women yet lol xx

thanks Cookie and Princess - your probably right he is better out the way. I will go sit in the garden with a cuppa I think, it's a nice day for it :-) I think I was expecting to feel more excited so then u start feeling guilty espesh when u spend so much on yourself :-/ xx

Awwww hun

I kinda went through a similar thing. Had a few mini arguments with OH before the op and I gave up smoking aswell and it was tough ( I haven't thought about a cigarette since I came out of hospital, which is great).

I think they go through a change and mix of emotions aswell as us. OH joined the gym and went for a sunbed. I think he felt a bit left out with me talking about boobies all the time.

He'll come round though.

Don't be nervous. Cookie is right have a look through some surgery stories and look forward to BA xxx

Yer i know! like the other girls have said , maybe you would prefer for him to be out but i personally would rather him to be with me for a bit to take me out and whatnot to take my mind of things. However if hes not good at that sort of thing etc then it might be a good thing hes keeping busy :)
Is the weather nice in devon? here in kent, its horrible! no weather for a cuppa in the garden :( xx

I'm pre ba but thought I'd chip in anyway, sorry to hear you don't feel as supported as you should. I think taking time out for yourself is needed, after doing everything you have to to, have a relaxing bath, put a face mask on and a hair treatment, have a cuppa and watch some of your own choice of tv, or read a book. You're bound to be feeling a mix of emotions, its normal, but just keep reassuring yourself that soon it'll all be done and things will get back to normal,xxx

Hi alipops66 i am the same day as you getting a bit nervous now but I think I am lucky I am working tonight so don't have much time to myself to get to worked up about it although i do have moments

hey chick,I have moments too, I think it's perfectly normal to feel the way you have been with your nerves. its such a big thing to do!!
just focus on how amazing you'll feed once you've looked down after and seen your new additions
I'm sure once you've both had some time apart today everything will be fine:) and work should help u focus on something else tonight
xx

Hi I'm a week away and feel exactly the same had my pre op today and the nurse said oh see you next week ... I smiled but felt sick to the stomach ... I'm so scared and to top it all off have a cold to boot! I think you spend so much time preparing and then suddenly you look up and the date is here! I keep panicking and feel sick so your not alone, I'm just enjoying sleeping on my tummy as I think this is probably my last week for a while xxx

alipops66 wrote:thanks Cookie and Princess - your probably right he is better out the way. I will go sit in the garden with a cuppa I think, it's a nice day for it :-) I think I was expecting to feel more excited so then u start feeling guilty espesh when u spend so much on yourself :-/ xx

I can sympathize with that. When I booked my date in for the first few hours I felt awful. I would have thought I would have been bouncing off the walls but I felt guilty and all of a sudden really nervous and like I couldn't go through with it but I think that's just the realization that its finally going to happen. You will be fine Hun

Ahhh bless you'll be okay x

it's just men, they don't get it

Thank u everyone for your comments. Well id like to say I feel better butits 1am and hubby is out on the **naughty word** tonight and still not back. He is gonna be written off Tomo I bet when I wanted us all to have a family day out tomorrow but that won't happen. Forget my BA looks like I just wanna moan about my hubby - grrrr!!!
No honestly thank u all for ur messages, I am reading the stories now and am feeling good :-) did anyone take pics to hospital for ur surgeon? Iv never shown pics of what I want just thought it would be own but more fuller??
Xx

Many girls have taken pics with them Ali.... Its never to late to get that 100% reassurance.


If hubby is out the game today babe don't it let get you down. Remember, this surgery is for you, so if need be, you and the kids go do something lovely. Is going to be you out the game for a couple of days after tomorrow so I'm sure you'll appreciate this time time together all the more.

Don't let anyone spoil this for you hun xx

Hey - had a much better day today Cookie, hubby has been doing his own thing but had a lovely evening on our own and talked about our concerns - I didn't realize he was quite so worried bless him xxx

I'm glad you've both been able to sort out your differences hun. Now you can just happily focus on tomorrow and the happy booby future you're both going have xx