Telling a friend a gud idea or not?

Hi girls just lookin for advice on the above I don't want anyone to know I've had a boob job as I think if u tell one person they wil tell one more and so on and then wen I'm walkin down the street everyone is lookin at my boobs( because if I hear sum one has had a boob job that I know that's wat if do;look at her boobs lol ! )

So I don't want anyone to know yet I'm absolutely dyin to tell my best friend cos I tell her everything and really dyin to talk to somebody face to face about it (even tho talkin to u girls is fantastic )so wat go u think I shud do...do u think u can really trust a girl to keep it zipped ??xx

You need to do whatever you feel is best for you Hun x have you not told anyone at all? You will need help for at least the first week or so, so you must tell someone. And the hospital will insist on you having someone with you all the time for the first 24-48 hours after discharge x

I've told my fiancé and my mum but they are sick listening to me talk bout boobies that's why tempted to tell my friend because she wud b interested but I dunno tanx for advice Hun x

I told my parents, sister, husband and best friend. That's all. She told her husband which I am fine about as don't expect her to keep things from him plus we go on holiday together so he'd notice. I trust her not to tell anyone and I really needed to have someone to share my excitement with. Poor girl got bombarded with texts etc but it helped me with nerves etc

If you can trust her then I'd recommend having a girlfriend to talk to.

So you will be looked after, that's good x well i personally couldn't keep my mouth shut lol x I wanted a BA for as long as I can remember so I had to tell someone. X

Depends what kind of person they are and what position they are. My best friend hasn't been brilliant about mine, she's quite honest anyway but I do think telling me they were small wasn't for my benefit and more to do with how crap she feels about hers from dieting.... X

Thanks girls I just told her I cudnt keep it from her she's Ben amazing she swore she wudnt tell anyone and she told me I'm doin the rite thing she said if mine turn out gud she'll prob have a boob job too lol relieved now as was dying to share this experience wit my Bestie xx

Littlewellies ur friend is just jealous u look absolutely stunning in ur avi no wonder she is x

I told my best friend, as far as I'm aware she didnt disclose it to anyone, but the circle we mix in haven't directly asked me but have sort of hinted at knowing. Now whether that came from by friend or not, I don't suppose I'll ever know but in my opinion if you don't want something repeated, you simply don't say it.

I'm happy for you that you trusted your friend and feel happier for telling her fried eggs.

Littlewellies - I wouldn't want a friend like that watching my back that's for sure babe! What a nasty thing for her to say after all you've gone through. Xx

Thanks cookie the only person I was worried she'd tell was her other half but she told me she wudnt even tell him because she thinks its such a private and personal thing I do trust her we've Ben friends since we were 4 but I wudnt tell any of the rest of the girls as even tho I trust them I don't trust them as much as her

Cookie maybe ur friend didn't tell anyone but ur friends hav noticed ur boobs look bigger so that's why their hinting because if she really told them she wud a said not to hint incase it wud get her in trouble so been that they are hinting I think they are just speculating and jealous cos their boobs don't look as great xx

I just told my sister, mum and BF at first but eventually I told everyone!! Its just the way I am and people were getting suspicious as to why I was gonna be off work and away from the gym and I am a terrible liar so it was easier to be honest! If you really want to keep it private but trust your friend I would tell her as it does help to chat to someone about it but do beware that sometimes people that you think would understand can get a touch of the green eyed monster and can say or do things that upset you... not saying your friend will do this but everyone reacts differently.

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Littlewellies - I wouldn't want a friend like that watching my back that's for sure babe! What a nasty thing for her to say after all you've gone through. Xx

she also said to someone i used to work with, whilst talking about my BA in the office, that if she had boobs like mine she would have a boob job as well...... needless to say i was pretty effed off about that, but telling me they were small and didnt look like a D cup was the last time i spoke to her lol xx

wow littlewellies, that just sounds like pure jealousy to me!! what a rubbish friend...

friedeggs, i'm glad you told your friend and are happier for it, i'm sure its a relief being able to talk it through with someone who knows you personally.

for me personally, i mentioned it to my sisters (one of my sisters will also be the one looking after me post op), my cousins who have been great, and to a couple of close friends, and they were all okay with it.

i don't want to tell more people in advance, but am quite happy for my other friends to know, or if they notice i will just be open about it x

Friedeggs - its possible like I said. I have my suspicions though and the friend who had been my friend since we're kids (I'm 44 now) later showed herself not to be the friend I thought she was (for different reasons)

Its funny how we think we can know people and it takes one thing to realise you never really knew them at all.

I'm not saying this at all of your friend babe. Xxx

Littlewellies - I'm not at all surprised. Infact I'm shocked you didn't throw one of those little wellies of yours right up her backside as she walked out the door! Lol. Xxx

i told my best friend, but like littewellies, she hasn't been brilliant with it but again i think it's because she has serious issues with herself... i've barely spoken to her about it really and she didn't text me good luck on the day when my other 2 friends i'd told both did.

glad you feel better for telling your friend hun x

newboobz, that's sad to read, you'd really hope that people can stand over their own issues and be a friend when needed, even if its just a good luck txt!

On the flip side ppl I didn't expect to be have been amazing! :) xx

Hey there friedeggs, I have a few friends with whom I'm close and I've told them, partly because a few of them want it done themselves and partly because they would have noticed. I'm the jokey type and did joke at their expense, plus ive breast fed in front of most of them.I suspect a couple might say something but I'd asked them not to. So if I find out they did even though I asked not to I'd know how to deal with it, wouldn't have been able to 'deal' with it if I hadn't spoken to them and they were discussing it out of curiosity.(if that makes sense).
All of them have been very supportive and helped out, tho one did say to me when I showed how excited I was and joking about my new boobies, like telling her, hey, I've got boobs! She said you know there's nothing like the natural thing, but I've laughed it off as she has the cup size I had previously ( which amazingly since my op have gone up a size and are nice and perky) that's what I'm told lol. I just put it down to jealousy,which unfortunately is normal between women and we just have to decide whether its malicious or not. In most cases it's a coping mechanism that's helps some deal with their own insecurities. Sorry I rambled on, not sure if it makes sense xx

angie, can't believe your friend said that!

i hope you ladies all know to just ignore comments like this - they're just jealous as we all know.. x

I know!!
Jealousy is a nasty thing, but unfortunately some people can't help themselves. But hey, if someone is jealous they must think ur better than them eh? So I take it as a compliment, is that strange?? Lol

thats a great way to think about it!! x

Crickey - some women are awful. Littlewellies with people like that you will never win. IF they were not saying that they would say they were too big. Mine are still small. Had them yesterday!! I've only had 240s (the smaller of my 2 choices, the other a 260). My surgeon's advice. I am happy with a C cup which is what I think they will turn out to be. I think yours look amazing! Jealousy is awful but I expect its something everyone who has a BA will experience.
You can't beat having a proper friend in the loop though. I took my best mate along and she was just wonderful to have. I then told ALL my other close girls the day before, as they will clearly know eventually anyway. I then just explained that I didn't tell the whole group earlier as I wanted it to be totally my decision without anyone else's opinions. They understood and were lovely. I think there may be one who will say things like yours did, but I don't care. She has really big natural boobs and to be honest I think she is jealous mine will be all pert and perfect.
Sometimes its not bad to see who your real friends are either and thin out the others. Life is too short x

I've only told my 3 closest friends, I trust them not to tell anyone.

I know what you mean though, someone at work told literally everyone and regretted it afterwards.

X

i have mentioned my desire to have my boobs done to a couple of friends and although initially i felt i could trust them with knowing, theres always that niggling doubt that they might tell just one person - i.e. their mum or boyfriend - and then it would spiral from there. i'm happy just telling my parents now to be honest coz my mum will be looking after me after the op and as for work ive already said im taking two weeks off october time to have me time and go on a few mini breaks in the UK (not entirely a lie - i have to travel to cheltenham from wales for surgery lol) which is ideal as i dont need to come back with a tan lol! xx

Thanks lovelies for all ur advice it's crazy how sum girls get wit jealousy but at the end of the day u do find out who ur real friends are n situations like this! I'm just bac from a very negative consult where the surgeon asked me "hav u thought about havin kids and u no wen u do u wil need to change ur implant and can u really afford this"as I said is like to hav kids n 3/4 yrs time!he also said teardrops almost always rotate so didn't want to go wit these he was suggesting rounds! Don't think ill b goin wit him as he was negative negative negative xx