I feel bad when telling people about BA

Hi, i have been feeling very positive towards having a BA, i told my sister, who i can talk to very easily and she was very supportive. My husband told his parents today because we needed them to look after our children when i have it done, as i will be staying overnight. They are fine about it (at least to my face they are), but i get this feeling that i'm doing something sleezy??? I feel wrong having it done? I don't know why i feel like this. Has anyone felt like this? :oops:

oh yes my bfriends mum kept trying talk me out of it she honestly was worried sick i was coming home after ba with huge porn boobs she made it sound very sleazy for me also my dad made me feel like that to my mum was great and so was my fella but i do know what u mean its not wrong to have it done for me it has rocked my confidence so much and made me a much more content with my body person if it can bring sum joy and happiness into to your life then i cant see nothing wrong with it
xx

Maby they are just worried about the complications as you have children. My husband told my inlaws a few weeks back and they were aprehensive/said i didnt need it (what do they know they only ever see me in gel bras) but mainly just concerned about complications and the financial implications, as we have 2 children children to think about. Im sure they think im being selfish because of the kids but I dont really care! - I think I deserve to be selfish after giving my body up for pregnancy,( i had a terrible pregnancy and felt sick the whole time) im doing something for me and its something they will have to deal with, stay strong honey dont let them make you feel anything other then exited.

Thing is, i really do want a BA, i just feel its wrong somehow?? His parents haven't said anything nasty to me and his mum has been supportive, i just feel weird with people knowing. I guess its because i am a shy person and hate having the 'spotlight' on me at any time, so i guess i'm a bit out of my comfort zone.

Sounds like youre just overthinking the whole thing. So many people get it done these days its far more accepted then it was a few years ago. Whats making you feel that its wrong hun?

The out laws are from a different generation don't forget.

PS is probably as alien to them as outdoor loos are too us! They might think that BA's are just for ladies in the glossys, if you know what I mean :)

I didn't want anyone to know though, not a soul, my OH told his parents and my step daughter I was bit upset with him as I hadn't even told my own parents!

Can't explain why, maybe I just didn't want that to be the first thing people thought when they saw me or maybe I didn't want people to know that my old boobs bothered me that much, hmmmm, one to ponder.......

Anyway, what's wrong with wanting to stay looking good? Absolutely Nothing x

Thanks ladies. I don't know what's making me feel its wrong. I think by telling people, i'm telling them that i'm insecure in myself and admitting that makes me feel a bit low. I don't want people to judge me, just accept me and like me. I don't want to feel like people are laughing at me behind my back because i've told them about my BA. Its such a personal thing, yet its also something you can't hide once your boobs are noticable.

I will probably be ok tomorrow. I've got a rotten cold at the mo and feel c**p, doesn't help. Thanks for your support x

I would think many of the girls feel the same or similar. I most certainly did and most probaly still do! but, the confidence and the feeling of being complete outweighs those feelings. Personally I only told my daughter and closest friend who were both supportive in my decision. I dithered for at least 25years with the same feelings.

I do not want anyone to know, I undertook my journey on my own and I loved it. I recall the P.S. and medical team asking me who was collecting me in the morning?
I said noone as noone knows. They said well good for you ....I said I was too embaressed to tell my two sons (early twenties) and Mum etc. as they just would not understand. They thought I was right to choose to inform them or not.. they said if they ask just tell them it is a new pill.. we laughed and they remembered my age!!! and, the fact my female bits have long gone...so we decided if anyone asks I was just going to say the swelling boobs are down to H.R.T.... So if anyone asks I will have that tip at the ready. It truly is the best thing I have ever done, it does not tie in with what I thought I would ever do... But, if I get a few years of feeling good about me I feel sooooo lucky. Sometimes you have to just do what is right for you xx

Aww sorry to hear like your feeling like this, i understand completely how you are feeling. This is something that you are doing to make you happy hun, and you shouldnt feel guilty, like you have said you have wanted this done for so long and nobody should make you feel guilty about doing something that makes you happy!! I hate it when people assume that just because your having a BA that your going end up with humungus porno boobies, although there is nothing wrong with this, people should respect the fact that a lot of women are unhappy with their bodies and try to understand that by having a BA can boost their confidence and make them feel more like a woman. If you truly love and care for someone you should respect their wishes (within reason lol) Chin up hun and look forward to gettin your new boobs, time to do this for you and make you happy

Big hugs
Dani
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wantsomeboobs wrote: If you truly love and care for someone you should respect their wishes (within reason lol) Chin up hun and look forward to gettin your new boobs, time to do this for you and make you happy

Big hugs
Dani
xxxxx

Thanks Dani, i think i had a bit of a reality check yesterday. Its one thing thinking about having a BA, but when you start telling people it suddenly becomes real and i think it just hit home yesterday,- combined with a horrible cold, i just felt low last night.

Had a good nights sleep and feel more level headed today. You are right, if family truly love and care for me, then they shouldn't turn their back on me, so hopefully i have nothing to fear. I know in X amount of years time, if one of my daughters came to me and said they were thinking of having surgery, my response would be, I will be there to hold your hand and look after you.

Thanks everyone for your support, i'm still going to go ahead with my BA, think i had a bit of a wobble last night.

Hey honey I know how you feel, i felt the same at first. I think its as you say something about drawing attention to your insecurity about your breasts and people knowing something very personal about you. But you know as many of the girls here have said, this is something for you, you dont have to justify yourself to anyone. As long as you are happy with your decision that is all that matters. And i found out you can never please anybody all the time, people will always like to push their opinions on you. Stay focused on what you want and good luck. x