Two questions... sex and babies!

Hey, couple of questions that have been on my mind recently!

SEX! My sex life has always been good, been with my b/f just over 3 years and yeah, we don't have sex as much as we did but usually 2/3 times a week before the op. Just can't seem to get back in the swing of it...had close time together ONCE since my BA :( I want to but my other half doesn't seem as interested! At first yeah I understand why he wouldn't; to scared of hurting me etc but now I feel fine to have sex but we aren't... I don't know if talking about not having sex doesn't help. Anyone found this after the BA?

BABIES! I have never wanted kids but my b/f mentioned children last week, a convo I dread as I have always felt I haven't wanted them. It has got me thinking though... what affect does being pregnant have on our boobs? would sagging be worse after pregnancy due to the weight of the implant? Not that I wanna have kids and ruin my brand new boobs just curious!

Thanks everyone

Z xx

Hi hun

I think its normal for the non sex thing (well I hope it is lol) Its only been once for me too but my hubby is dying for it lol I just worried he might grab my new assets while in the swing of things and i end up passing out ;-) LOL

The babies thing, well I have 2 little boys (aged 4 & 5) and I breast fed both of them till they were 6 months old and YES it affected my natural boobs BIG TIME thats why I needed the BA . I dont want want anymore children and I would worry my implants would droop??? I dont know for sure though.

Hope your healing well though xx

The lack of sex after a BA is very normal lovely and it's generally down to one or the other being scared of hurting the newbies...

Zoie, you're very early still in your recovery and although you feel great, your boyfriend has just watched you go through major surgery and its hard to watch that of someone you love and care for. It does take time to regain confidence, but you can help...

My husband was the same Zoie, so I would take my husbands hands and guide him to my boobs with my hands over his and gently squeeze, showing him what was ok and that I wouldn't break. Things do get better when 'they' regain confidence, or yourself if the situation were reversed. Xx

Just to add about having babies after implants:

We've had ladies here who have had babies and fund their breasts haven't been affected at all. But... That's not the same for everyone.

Any sagging will be determined by your own skins elasticity as well how good you care for you boobs (moisturising and support).

There's really no way of knowing either how pregnancy will affect the look of your boobs until you actually go through it either xx

Hi hunny, first the sex thing, it's me that's gone off it! I can't speak to much though as I have other factors inc an 8 1/2 month old baby so still haven't regained it back from then!

In my option though sweet, I would always talk you your Boyf about any problems sex wise, he may be scared to hurt you. At least if you have a chat with him he can tell you how's he's actually feeling and vice versa.

Second,y babies.. I can help with that one. I had my first ba over 5 yrs ago after I had my 2 boys didn't plan on anymore! Met my husband though and we had a daughter. My implants took me to a D. Up and when I fell pregnant they grew! A lot! An I loved it they Also felt and more natural and had more jiggle to the, which I also loved.
After birth I didn't breast feed (personal choice nothing to do with implants) my milk came and went quickly and they 'shrank' back to the D. Cup obviously the implant can never get smAller so you will always have the implant size of that makes sense.
And after having gorgeous BIG boobie I wanted tHat back. As my skin and muscle had stretched I was told I could go significantly bigger, which I did! :heehee:

So for me my implants didn't sag as they were under muscle too which helps. But it was the fact I wanted the big full look back and pump up the volume back up! X

Thanks MrsB, I can imagine your pregnnt boobs would have been amazing! lol! I wonder how big they would look if you got pregant after your 800cc's, lol!

I do want to have sex that's the annoying thing and he says he does too but just not happening. When I do try and talk about it he just moans at me saying it's not an issue and I am making it one which I don't agree with. He's always been a bit funny with sex though and talking about it, makes out I make it worse buy making it an issue then that puts him off! Think best bet is to just stop talking about it and get on with it, lol! Makes me worry he doesn't like me anymore, even though he says he does.

That's good to hear about the booby thing...Like you say Cookie everyone is different. It's weird, never ever thought of having kids at all never been particulary maternal... and I'm still not, just worries me he's thinking about it. I knew it would happen at some point. No doubt we will just split up over it at some point...ever the optomist, lol! Weird, didn't think you could breastfeed after implants, learn something new everyday!

Thanks for your imput ladies xx

800cc + pregnancy = !!! xx