For you, men or attention?

I was just wondering... what was the main reason behind you wanting a BA? Like it says in the title:

Was it for you? was this this something you did for your own self esteem?

Was it for your man? Was this something you chose to do because you wanted to impress your guy?

Or was this because you like the attention men might give to boobies and wanted a bit of this for yourself?

For me, my boobs had indents in them after a lumpectomy to remove a tumour from each breast. I was only 23 with one child already, I had my daughter the year later and the effects of having breast fed 2 children as well as the trauma my boobs had gone through left me hating my boobs.

It took me 17 years to get my boobs. I just couldn't have afforded them when the kids were young, but once finances were better I really didn't care what anyone else's thoughts were, I wanted a BA to help me feel better about me and having a BA achieved that for me. My hubby 'loved me how I was' and was against me having surgery to change myself, but I haven't changed myself at all. In my opinion I've 'enhanced myself' I'm still me, only better haha! Having my boobs done was the best present I ever gave myself and I feel so much better about myself as a whole now. It's amazing how much happier I am. I'm so glad I had them done.

OOOO very interesting question! i think i m mostly doing it for me as i feel like a boy lol and its so hard to get tops/bikinis/bras that fit, but also i am young and shallow so am secretly looking forward to hopefully a bit more attention from men lol xxx

Great topic cookie!

I'd say it was a combination of all 3 for me really.

For me - My Mum was very blessed in the boobie department and I always wondered when mine were going to come...it was at 16 I started to realise I may not have her "gift". I've always worn heavily padded bras and never wore bikinis.

For men - my ex-boyfriend made me feel terrible about my body He was very into the big chested american porn stars, and made no secret of it either. He not-so-subtley emailed me a link to a cosmetic surgeon on his birthday...the cheek! From then on the size of my boobs (of lack of) always played on my mind.
My current boyfriend also likes big boobies but never pressured me into getting a BA. It's just something that I was thinking about in the background and he wasn't exactly against the idea!

For attention - I work as a camgirl online to pay my way through uni, so having bigger boobs definitely increases the money I make

for myself, i felt crap about myself and hated all clothes as felt awful with no boobs, felt jealous and not normal so i needed it to give me some self esteem xx

For ME...hands down!! It's not how others see you, but how you see yourself!! And once YOU are happy that's all that matters!!

Definitely 100% for me. It's a bonus that my bf will be happier, and I believe that will mainly be because I am happier and we just eradicated a hang-up.

I would really dislike strangers staring at my boobs and think I would cover up if I noticed men start talking to my chest. But Ive always done alright in that department without boobs, so I suppose it's easy for me to say.

Although, maybe I should change my 100% for me to 60%; as I think once I got to the point where my dislike of them was going to affect my family life and activities and fun (ie swimming, playing in the sea etc) it pushed me to finally make my decision.

I think for me it's a bit of all 3.

I've been wanting to get them done for as long as I can remember. Not having any cleavage or not being able to fit into tops/dresses/bikinis did not help my self-esteem.

Hubby loves me the way I am, but I'm sure he wouldn't mind me having bigger knockers! He knows how I feel about my lack of boobs so he's very supportive of me going for the op.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think most women enjoy getting attention from men. It's a natural feeling.

Bottom line, it boils down to making myself feel better about myself.

definatly for myself. id split with my childrens dad 6 yrs ago now and was not a god relashionship (ive since meet my wonderful husband though!) i was never blessed in the boob department anyway and after having children they dissappeared even more an i was left looking like my 13 yr old brother! i was so flat it was littlry just nipple no boob whatsoever! needless to say my cofidence was severly knocked by a violent relashionship anyway and i was extremley unhappy with my boobs or lack of the only bras i would fit into were gel ones to give me a shape of boob under my tees! anyhow around a year later my dad very kindly paid for me to have them done as it was the confidence boost i needed. i can honeslty say after my children ... its the best thing ive ever done. it helped me in so many ways i cant even begin to say...

i remained single for 4 yrs after my split so 3yrs on my own with my new boobs so it wasnt for any man id had them done! and 2 yrs ago i met my husband! hes not bothered by boob size and is more of a leg man! lol... im having my boobs done again purely for myself again, we had a daughter 7 months ago and i loved when they grew even bigger and when they 'shrunk' back to my normal D I wasnt impressed! so have opted to go bigger purely for myself and wanting bigger boobs, i suppose ive given into boob greed after 5 yrs of having my D's!

:) x

I love your avatar mrsball!

thank you :) x

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think most women enjoy getting attention from men. It's a natural feeling.

I can't talk for 'most women' but for myself, no, I don't like male attention at all. I like hubbys attention but from other men I really hate it. xx

100% for myself. I hated having to constantly adjust my clothes because of them, couldnt wear certain clothes, my confidence in my body is bad and I wanted to improve that.

Can definatley say I havent had my breasts corrected to attract attention. I paid a lot of money for me, no one else.

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100% for me xxx

I wanted a boob job for years as i wasn't happy, i spent £300 on herbal tablets which were a waste of money. My bf at the time said he didn't want me to have them but then i met my current bf and it was this that made me get them done as I felt I had to to keep him interested as he said he liked big boobs.
I have to say the only attention I get are from undesirables and therefore unwanted attention!

By waiting until I was 24 this was definitely for me, had I of gone in when I was 18 it would have been for what other people thought of me and my insecurities around that.

In waiting I feel like I gave myself a chance to appreciate my flaws and work around them, develop some sort of self worth that wasn't justified based on the size of my boobs. I'd been bullied A LOT at school over them and was incredibly uncomfortable but sort of got used to it in some ways. I wasn't happy with my boobs but I didn't feel like they should ever be the most important thing I had to offer.

I've been single a long time (since 2010, I should probably start worrying lol). But in that time I had a chance to reflect on what I wanted out of life and I decided I couldn't spend the rest of my days hung up on having no boobs (no matter what I told myself about them not being important).

I've since had guys who showed me no attention prior come crawling to get me and I'm by no means interested. I do like the attention though you only have to look at my instagram to see that I'm afraid. But in person I hate people leering at my boobs and it's quite a revolting feeling when somebody is talking to your chest... So yes I like the attention but only through the comfort of a phone app LOL.x

Mine are correction, so definately for myself, for my confidence,

and its about time I do something for myself, I have struggled through being a single mum, worked hard and now I just want to put a bikini on and go swimming with my son, without everyone looking at my odd shaped boobs, especially from breast feeding too long which didnt help them either.
xxx

Mine are def for me though I figure my husband of 7 years will also enjoy them! For me it never bothered me having small boobs until after having my 3 kids. I was already 31 when I had my first baby and when breast feeding went up to d cup which seemed huge at the time lol! Now age 37 and just two weeks post op I am v happily wearing a dd cup which doesn't look big on my frame and already looks very natural. Am happy that I can wear bikinis now without feeling boyish. I think for me a boyish figure suited my lifestyle until I married with kids but now in my late 30s it's nice to look curvy and feminine x

Mine are definatley for me. My husband is fully supportive but has made it clear that he isn't bothered either way (although I'm sure he'll like them when they are here!) he just say's when he sees my stretch marks and little boobies it makes him proud as I gave him his boys! aww bless him

I won't change the way I dress, or my personality too much other than I know it will make me a little more confident! xxx

For me 100%.

I never felt as good as other people, like I wasn't a proper woman. My BA has made me feel so much more confident in myself. They are the boobs I was always meant to have xx

*Alice* wrote:in that time I had a chance to reflect on what I wanted out of life and I decided I couldn't spend the rest of my days hung up on having no boobs (no matter what I told myself about them not being important)

Very well put Alice! I wasn't prepared to carry on feeling down about something that could actually be changed xx

for me!!! :) , although i smile at the attention i get now lol :) i was an A and got bullied horrificly ex's use to chuck it in my face as they knew it hurt me the most , pre ba i only had 2 bras as i cried my eyes out and time i went shopping i have a large jlo bum and looked out of proportion i hated wearing bikinis - my mum took me to wonder bra and the shop assistant was HORRID mum explained that i was getting bullied and was looking for a good push up bra after trying on about 10 i was a state crying my eyes out when the shop assistant said ' well its not our bras your actually need something there to push up' shes the thing that tipped me over the edge my fiancee proposed last year and i always knew i wanted a strappless dress and didnt want to look like a 'boy in drag' Best thing iv ever done! love my new babies!

' well its not our bras your actually
need something there to push up' shes the thing that tipped me over the
edge

What a b*tch!! Grrrr that made me angry.

my fiancee proposed last year [snip] i always knew i wanted a
strappless dress Best thing
iv ever done! love my new babies!

awww have you had the big day yet? worn your dream dress?

I know my mum went crazy at her it really hurt :( lets just say since having these babys i have not worn a wonderbra and never will lol i would rather spend my money in somewhere happy to help before i had big boobs!
we get married in 1 year 11 months :) 14th june 2014 we had alot of saving to do hence the long engagement :) iv tried on a few dresses its lovely to feel womenly :)

Awww sooooo cute that you're counting down the months, your big day will be here before you know it. xx

I had them done for me, 100%. I've always wanted them done ever since I never developed any. My best friends were gel bras and chicken fillets but I can't say I was sorry to say good bye to them. As for men I dont think I get any extra attention due to my chest size, although if I do I dont notice it. I have the occasional fancy dress party where I kind of like a very low cut top or dress and they are very much on display, but I dont really do it for the attention, I do it because I remember aways looking at those outfits and wishing I could fill a dress like that, but alas I never could. I just love being in proportion, that was my goal and I've achieved it.