Reassurance needed please!

So I have been happy with my boobies and taking each day as it comes, I was prepared for them to look odd for awhile.

Only last night there was a bit of a spark with me and a bloke and we had a bit of a fumble nothing more.

I guess its still early days and if things progress with him I would be so scared of him seeing my boobs, they are still really firm and I don't know if this will ever change and the scars are bright red and obvious.

So I feel back to square one where before the op I didn't want anyone to see my boobs.

I got measured the other day and felt like I needed to point out they were fake just in case they thought they were horrible. It was a special night out so decided to get a better bra – Fit into a 32D but they still seem quite high so I guess they may drop into a C cup.

Ahhh anyone else felt like this / had this problem ….....

Because the dilemma is that I work with him and I would really have to tell him that I'd had them done, then being scared in case he told people ….

Don't get my wrong I myself am pleased with my boobs as I know what they looked like before, I guess I am scared about other peoples opinion on them – as I can see they are really fake looking and as I said still really firm!

And I still have my nipple correction Op to be done.

Sorry getting worried! Hope you are all well!

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You're boobs are still VERY new babe and will still be a little high, this is all normal... it took mine 3 months to gain some kind of normality for my boobs they were all over the place LOL They didn't soften up fully till about 6 months and then again at 12 months when they felt so soft that unless you give 'em a good squidge lol you wouldn't be able to tell they were fake.

It's hard post-BA I know after my first BA I thought the 6 week recovery period was the entire healing time of our boobs and that's it, that by 6 weeks my boobs should have the result I payed for... In actual fact, for the overall result, I had to wait 8-12 months for that. xx

Your scars will lighten hun and your boobs will get softer xx like Cookie says it can take up to a year to see the overall final result xx

Thanks cookie & Kay,

I was a bit worried because my surgeon said when I saw her last they should start to soften in the next couple weeks! (that has now passed)

The tops are a little softer but I had no breast tissue at the bottom - so not sure if this will get soft .......

Maybe I can keep them hidden for awhile lol....... (TMI coming up! lol) I've not had sex for ages and just feel like I am lacking confidence in my body in general.

Expect after all this worrying nothing more will happen!

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You could try massaging them hun xx that can help soften them xx :thumbs:

It can be a long boobie journney when they are healing, I was very concious of my scars for quite a while, then one dropped more than the other and looked bigger than the other and I just felt a bit of a freak. But they do get better. I doubt very much that they will shrink into a C cup most people will either stay the same size or find they go up a cup size or more when they soften and drop

thevisionoflife wrote:Thanks cookie & Kay,

I was a bit worried because my surgeon said when I saw her last they should start to soften in the next couple weeks! (that has now passed)

The tops are a little softer but I had no breast tissue at the bottom - so not sure if this will get soft .......

Maybe I can keep them hidden for awhile lol....... (TMI coming up! lol) I've not had sex for ages and just feel like I am lacking confidence in my body in general.

Expect after all this worrying nothing more will happen!

x

They may 'start' to soften soon babe, that's not to say they'll be soft though.

I had a lot of my breast tissue removed from my left breast after my re-op babe, maybe it might help you to know that my right breast is no softer than the left, they're bothe the same...

We aren't warned at all about the lengthy process our BAs take, but you have quite a way to go yet sweetie, don't worry though, what you have now, is not what you'll have as the months go by and they continue to change and soften babe, xx

Thank Cookie,

Think I will take things slow, will let me get in a few more weeks recovery in!

because mine were tubular and small I guess its going to be very hard for them not to be spotted as fake, but that is the choice I made!

I am so happy I don't even need to have padded bras on any more, I guess its the worry of being outed as a fake as their are so many stereotypes of girls with fake boobies - one I think us girls have all proved wrong!!

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Absolutely hun!

When you find someone who cares for you they will look beyond any surgery you may have had, any stereotypical labels the ignorant may have and they'll just think you're the best thing since sliced bread hun!

You really are goona treat these new boobs like your own and so will anyone who cares for you too xx

mine really started to soften up at 4 weeks. it will happen...and if u love ur boobs then forget what others may think. also, im sure he wud b.thrilled to hear u hav fake boobs! i think every guy secretlyy wants to feel a pai! he he.xx

Hiya hunnie- my boobs were quite hard for at least the first couple of months but it all takes time to settle +i think Kay's suggestion of massage is a good one-it definately helped me! 8-)