Caring for children post op

Hi ladies.

I'm new to all this and need some advice please!

After having two children & breast feeding both of them my boobs are just empty sacks & I am lucky to fit into a 28aa! I have had a consultation with PS Mr Ion that went well & have decided (if I go ahead) to have 240cc teardrop over the muscle which should take me to a C cup which is what I was pre-pregnancy.

However, I have two small children, one aged 3 yrs & the other 7 months. My Mum and partner will be here to look after me but I need advice as to whether having the op now with the two kids to look after is silly due to the pain & discomfort etc. Ideally I want it done before I return to work in a few months but am worried about not being able to lift, hug, play with the kids etc.

Thank you very much.

hi there. i had overs and at about 2weeks i was carefully picking up my 2 n half yearold.+i also found lots of different ways to play and hug while i still felt uncomfortable.i think you should be fine especially as you have mum+partner to help.

Thats a relief to hear. I'm such a wally in that the thought of not being able to pick them up is making me feel really guilty although the PS told me that even though I won't be able to pick them up I can have them placed in my arms or on my lap for a cuddle. Thank you. :)

Hello!!

I do not have young children, also I believe with overs healing is far swifter. However, I would think with the support you have it would not be a problem. Seems a good time when you have the time before going back to work ...and the summer.

Being a mum when is the right time? we always find reasons to put ourselves last. xx

Maybe one of the younger mummies will be along soon to be of better help to you. xx

Thanks Mia. I appreciate your reply.xx

Hey hun, all the girls on here think i am superwoman cos a got a tube home after my 420 unders last friday lol, but i have a 10 year old and a 3 year old and to be honest my hubby went back to work on monday and i was left holding the baby as it were. All of my paperwork says i shouldn't lift anything more than a cup of tea for a week but i was picking my son up, washing, ironing, hoovering the stairs etc by tuesday, so I wouldn't worry too much, especially with overs. However, saying that, I did seem to get over my lipo stupidly easily too, so I am not sure if i have a really high pain threshold (but i cant have my eyebrows threaded lol). Good luck and don't worry i am sure you will be fine xx

mrs o wrote:All of my paperwork says i shouldn't lift anything more than a cup of tea for a week but i was picking my son up, washing, ironing, hoovering the stairs etc by tuesday

I'm going to have to give you a big for this Mrs O! You need to take it more easy hun especially with unders, you may damage something plus you have lots of swelling. Please try at least until you're 2 weeks po hun you've waited so long for your boobies so look after them at this early stage x

I know you are right nads, but I suffer with OCD unfortunaltely, I do take tablets for it, but no amount of tablets are gonna make my hubbies housework look normal to me. I don't mean in anyway to make anyone think it is an easy ride, cos i know for some ladies it has been terrible to recover from, but I am just one of those people who cannot lay in bed, so just carries on as norm. I also know i have been extremely lucky with my recovery and suppose i take it for granted really x

You sound like my sis lol glad you're having a smooth recovery x

Hi, my ps said absolutely no picking up children for a month - he was really adamant about this but I am having unders so perhaps that is why, but personally I would take no chances!

There was a thread on here a while back with some great ideas for avoiding picking up kids, eg picnics on floor, steps by high chairs so they can climb up, making little beds on floor (like camping!) etc.

Good luck! x

My little ones were 3 and 8 months and i had overs, things were difficult for me due to complications but i think the first week is when you will find it a bit of a struggle, lifting out of cot etc but this passes so quickly, you will still be able to have cuddles but at floor level instead of carrying around, it is alot easier than you think, i felt all this pre-op but it wasn't half as bad as i'd imagined so try not to let these thoughts eat you up too much I think it's perfect timing so go for it xx

Hi all - its funny you know because I had overs and my PS said to me that I would be fine to pick up my 21 month old and to be just led by what I thought hurt too much and what didn't. He said the only thing that could really do damage was if he kicked me in the boob - but my wee man is too sweet for that anyway!! I think we all get different advice don't we? I mean he was right as after 2 days I was doing EVERYTHING as normal - the only thing that felt like it was 'pulling' was hoovering and pushing the pram. I didn't drive for a week too. It was so so so so much easier than I anticipated. And btw my pain threshold is not that high...........but I do have strong arms, what Mum hasn't got that though!!
Rita1 I honestly really worried about not being able to hug my wee man and carry him etc but it has been absolutely fine. Take your PS advice I suppose but I am sure you will probably get told different stuff to everyone else!!
I am 3 weeks in and (Thankfully) have no pain whatsoever and am wearing normal bras etc sleeping on my side etc normal normal................
All the best and let us know how you get on
xx Peanut xx

Hi ladies.

Thank you all so much for replying to my question "Caring for children post op". After I had my consult (about 8 weeks ago) I was so excited about the prospect of having the op but for the last couple of weeks I have been having major second thoughts due to continuously worrying about my babies, caring for them & the pain!

Having just read your replies & the poll about how much it hurts I am feeling so much better. I had already booked the surgery for the 28th April, Ive paid the deposit but have been too scared to pay the rest & have even considered cancelling it :oops: ! It's so weird because I am such a laid back person & don't usually let anything bug me but something changed a few weeks ago & I have been worrying non stop about it & feel so guilty about not being able to my normal stuff with the kids. I'm sure I'll be fine though, I gave birth to both babies without any pain relief, surely it can't be any worse!? :lol:

Thank you so much for your replies. Ive only discovered this site Saturday & it you have all been such a huge help already!xx

What you are experiencing is perfectly normal 'guilt' feelings hun, i think everyone with little ones go through this, i sobbed my heart out the night before my BA and almost went home because of the guilt i felt towards my children etc, us mums have this duty etched into us that we must put our families first & provide for them first etc but hey, it does no harm to treat yourself to something that will make you an even happier yummy mummy in the long run, keep thinking about the positives, the reasons you want your BA, how this will benefit your family life as a whole, breastfeeding ruined my boobs and that empty feeling is awful, especially if you've been used to having a good bit of tissue there, you know what's right for you
all the best lovely xx

Hi hun my daughter was 7 months when i had my ba and i could not pick her up for 3/4 weeks. My family did it all, i couldnt really do much with her as didnt want to damage anything x