When you told your parents...

...had you already booked your BA? I am planning to tell my mum soon about my BA plans but am still waiting for the right moment. I was planning to book my BA this week as I want to ensure I get the date I want in July, but I feel a bit bad about the possibility of telling my mum if I've already booked it, as if she has no say in the matter (which ultimately she doesn't because it's my body, but still...) Was wondering if you had already booked your BA when you told your parents and how they reacted? xx

I had it all booked when I told my mum... she reacted better than I expected although my dad still doesnt know!

yep! and i had a bit of drams about the money too so waited until it was all booked and paid for before telling her! altho she had seen a letter a few months earlier bout cosmetic surgery so she prob had an incling. she took it better than i expected and my dad also still doesn't know

Mine still don't know and I don't plan on them finding out lol! x

I told my mum after I had researched and booked my initial consultation and I literally just dropped it in .."by the way I've booked an appointment to see about getting my boobs done!" And she half laughed and then said its up to me an she would support me whatever I decided and as long as I knew the risks she was ok with it! She even came to the second appointment! But my mum had always known it was something I'd thought about! I didn't actually tell my dad because we aren't close like that we wouldn't talk about it but my mum told him and when my friend had hers done he asked how it went so he does care and I know he will give me a huge hug before I go but it is a bit of an awkward conversation to have with my dad! I found just blurting it out to mum was best , does your mum have any idea you are thinking of it? Xx

Sounds like the general consensus is that your mums reacted better than expected, which fills me with hope! I am TOTALLY in the dark as to how my mum will react. I have always been extremely close with her and we've been getting on so, so well lately. I really don't want anything to change. Ultimately, this is about me and I hope she'll be supportive. I don't plan on telling another soul.
Sian: no, my mum doesn't have a clue. I had a book about cosmetic surgery when I first considered it, maybe 6 years ago. I don't know how she feels about surgery. She's certainly never put anyone who has had surgery down, I just don't think she'd expect it from me. I want to lose weight and she's the type of mum who will always say 'pffft, you're perfect as you are silly girl!' so I reckon she'll be much the same when it comes to this. BTW I understand what you mean about it being an awkward thing to tell your dad, plus men react differently to things. I don't intend to tell my stepdad.

No, I told my mum from age 15 I wanted a boob job. So she knew it was going to happen, she wasn't fazed. My dad actually took me to both of my op's, all he said initially was "I hope they're not going to look like Jordan's biggest knockers".. and that was it

my mums known since i was 15 aswell that i wanted a boob job. she always new my plan was get a car at 18 pay the car loan off over 5 yrs then get a boob job loan and boob job! Now im 24 told mum when i booked consultations n shes happy for me as she knows its what ive always wanted....

my dad on the other hand - i cant tell him i just wouldnt know how to tell him! Him and my mum arnt together and ive never spoken to him about it and hes a very private person and i dont know would be way to awkward coversation

My mum was totally the same, the first thing she said when I told her was "Noo u don't need to your perfect the way u are" but after explaining all the research I had done and how determined I was she was ok. She even came to my second consultation that helped to put her mind at rest.
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I had. I was really surprised by their reaction.They were really for it. My mum even said she was thinking of having a face lift. This is coming from my very natural parents that dont use medication or imunise! I was very pleasantly surprised :O) They have been really great. Im really pleased i told them.

Good luck! x

Wow! Those stories are really positive. I have been through a lot lately and my mum has been consistently there for me, which is why I think she'll be supportive, but I don't want to be complacent because I know she may struggle to come to terms with the idea and have her own issues with it. I think in my case, not telling her will affect our relationship more than telling her xxx

I think its definately worse to keep it from her than to tell her... I know that if in the future if my daughter went and had a BA without telling me I would be gutted that she did it behind my back, I want her to trust me. x

I agree 5stonedown. I wouldn't be comfortable not telling her, but I understand why other people may feel this is the better option. I have phoned Mrs Kat's office and should hear later this week whether my date is available, then I'm good to go!!! So excited!! xx

You wont regret it! I am seeing Mrs Kat again on Thursday for my dressings to come off. She was lovely again to me prior to my revision... she promised me she wouldnt let me go away until I am 100% happy.. a true perfectionist and artist of her trade!

I'm so glad hun! She really is lovely and I imagine she wanted to do everything possible to help you. I didn't feel 100% confident with the other surgeons I saw but I do with her. xx

hi hun,

i only told my mum this past sunday eve, and my mum sounds quite like yours in that she would say, you're perfect as you are. and i know my mum is against surgery!
but still, she didn't react tooo badly considering.
not sure how to post a link to a different thread, but my thread's called 'going to have to tell my parents..', it's quite recent on here. my ramblings might help? :)

but to answer your other question, no i haven't booked yet and hadn't when i told her, but will probably book tomorrow, and will prob send her a txt or something once i've booked.

good luck hun x

Hi Blueeyedsoul!

I have been following your recent posts and am quite startled at how similar your experience has been to mine. Seems like we'll be having our surgeries around the same time too! I imagine my mum will react quite similarly to yours, I'm certainly not expecting a wholly positive reaction but just offering her support and being there for me is really all I could ask for as it'd be quite a lonely journey otherwise. I will definitely search for your other thread, thank you.

I really want to book my surgery for late June/ early July as I have been seriously looking into having a BA for almost a year and I think it's about time! I like the thought of my boobs being settled come Christmas time! Look forward to reading more about your journey! xx

She really does make sure you get the best possible result and is such a nice person with it.... you never feel that she is in it for the money and christ does she work hard. The day I had my first op she started in theatre at 08.30 and she came to see me that night at 23.00 and she had only just finished her last patient... she had been in theatre for over 14 hours... this time I was her first patient.. she started on me at 08.30 and she came to see me to discharge me later that night at 20.30 and she said she was just going into theatre with her last patient of the day which was going to take 4-5 hours!! I said "god thats such a long day in theatre" and she said "its my own fault cos I always take longer than I plan to cos I want to make sure its perfect!"

Wow!! That's the kind of surgeon I want!! She seems extremely passionate about her job and was so lovely to me during my consultation that I didn't feel at all rushed or like I was asked too many questions. All her staff seem to absolutely love her too, which is a good sign! I like the fact that she is a woman too. Not that I wouldn't trust a man, but I think she'd be more consise and intricate somehow, as was reflected in the numerous measurements she took. All in all, I definitely feel I will be in the right hands! Have you to go for another appointment in May/ June? I am going to have a second consultation with her, just to decide on size etc as I'm not sure whether to go for 410 or 465cc...xxx

Sounds good.. she wont charge you to go back again... you only pay for the first consultation.

hey hun, how exciting - a possible boobie buddy!

i'm just waiting for my pcc to get back to me on one question, and then will probably be booking tomorrow, for 21st june! really freaking out about it now, i know i want it, but its the financial commitment for life i'm scared about more than anything else, especially as its taking all of my savings!!

do feel better for having told my mum before booking though, and funnily enough she never asked about costs. all i said was i can afford it.

i've been following your posts too, so i really hope you get to book yours soon and can look forward to it! x

Yay! Having a booby buddy would be terrific in the run up to our BAs. I think if you're sensible about it, the financial commitment could look after itself. Putting aside a fiver a week could probably cover another BA 10-15 years down the line as opposed to forking out a big lump sum. Try not to worry too much about the money side of things, I reckon it will be more than worth it. I am also hoping to book today or tomorrow, my ideal date is 6th July. That's good yur mum didn't ask about costs. My mum knows I want to go back to unversity so will probably question how I'll be able to afford a BA. Six years of saving has been worth it! xxx

can't believe you're ready to book goldilocks, so happy for you!!!!

I told my mum, she wasn't really interested! She has only asked me once post op if I was ok. She did do my school pick up runs for the first week for me. It's my nan and grandad that have given me the most support x

My mom knows I'm planning a BA, she does not say too much, just the occasional roll of the eyes

I'm not telling my Dad lol x