Well........that didnt go to well.

I feel for you. I guess all you can do is give them a little time to take it in, then maybe try and explain your reasons to you sis or mum, offer them to visit your surgeon or clinic with you so they can see for themselves that it's OK and it is in your best interest, and that know one is pushing you in to it just as know one can talk you out of it xx

I think my parents would react like this so i've opted not to tell anyone but my husband.

Parents just act like this because they think they know best for us, but i've always been my own person and stuck to my guns including with my boyfriend (now husband - they thought i was too young at the time but now they love him), and my tattoo (I wanted one ever since i was young and it has great meaning to me. I have had it for 5 years and never once regretted it, it's a part of me). Suppose what i'm getting at is that we know our own mind, and in time they will come round to it =] but until that time just know that you always have us to support you x x x x

xlaurenx wrote:I will deff be going ahead its all sorted. I wasnt asking for my parent permission as it isnt down to them. I was just kindly keeping them in the loop. I dont live under their roof and havent for many years so its down to them whether they support me or not. xxxx

I think you have a very good attitude Lauren. You've done your bit as a daughter and included them in what is a major decision in your life and that's not something you 'had' to do. You didn't owe it to them to tell them, you 'wanted' to tell them and that's a pretty big deal hun.

Of course, right now they're going to be shocked and they have a right to be... the thought of your child having surgery is painful itself, the thought of your child having 'unnecessary surgery' is all the more painful for a parent to hear, but they WILL deal with it In their own way hun, that could be in a the way of either acceptance and support, or they'll choose to have nothing to do with your decision. Which is fine lovely, you're a big girl and need no hand holding other than that of your husbands.

What will never change is that you're their daughter and not even surgery will come between you and their love for you as they're daughter Lauren. So it will sort itself out one way or another babe.

You sound like a strong girl sweetness and although you might feel a little hurt right now, it WILL all come good in the end.

Well girls i wont be getting the support i had hoped for. Saw my mum today who informed me that they are not paying for my wedding anymore due to me having the operation. She was hoping i would say ok i wont do it. They were trying to basicaly finacially blackmail me. Once i put her straight and she realsied i wasnt changing my mind she went upstairs crying and had a bath. Subject closed. Onwards and upwards xx

She'll come round Lauren.....give it time hun xxx

Oh hun im sorry, there's nothing worse than not getting support from your family....at least you told them! Well they know your serious so hopefully with a little time their attitude will change x