pre ba blues?

i dont know if anyone else has felt like this before their ba? i ve just had a rubbish day i ve got rained on at work i ve spent 64 quid on sports bras, i m too poor to go anywhere or do anything like some sort of social recluse i m working as much as i possibly can to stockpile some money for after my ba when i need 6 weeks off my manual job and y ba date seems light years away oh and i need to stop smoking (probably why i feel so rubbish i need a proper cigarette lol) and finally i think that dating after my ba will be harder than b4 at least now i know men arent interested in my boobs lol sorry for rabbiting on like a miserable old cow xxx

Sending you a big hug and lots of love We all have bad days when even the silliest things seem really bad but tomorrow is another day and another day nearer so chin up hun and focus on what you have and not what you dont have xxxx

thanks 2nd time lucky i have a large bucket sized glass of wine so that should chirp me up and in reality i m a very lucky lady so i should stop feeling sorry for myself and being a brat lol and all my hard work will have paid off when i have big boobs loads of time off work and some money in my pocket (just need to keep slogging for 27 days and i m there. phew!)

xXsammiXx

Big hugs sammi! I was a smoker pre-BA too (only light, about 4 a day, more if I had a drink). I gave up just a little while before like you are... just to say that post op its not as bad as I thought. Whilst you're feeling tender I betcha money that you won't even want to smoke.. the thought of necrosis, all the nicotine eating away at your skin and the possibility of CC will make you feel a bit ill.

Now i'm past the two week stage and feeling more myself i'm telling myself one day at a time, i'm staying away from alcohol as that immediately makes me want to spark up and taking very very deep breaths whenever I want a ciggie. I've only smoked one in about twenty days (unheard of!), and my relapse was when I had a glass of red on the weekend. I'm not saying that i can keep this up forever, but every day is a positive thing! You can absolutely do it too!

As for the dating thing, I'm single too so I know exactly how you feel. I don't know when i'm going to feel comfortable showing a man my new boobies - probably not until they start looking natural. Should I tell them first? Should I not say anything and see if they guess...? arghhhh!!! But as for them only being interested in you because you have boobs, well that's rubbish. A man might initially fancy a girl as she has a perfect figure, face etc.. but that's not the basis for a lasting relationship, it's all about personalities clicking. So don't worry your gorgeous head about that sugarplum - besides I bet you're not short of offers even without boobs!! xx

thank you so much lx79 yeah i think i will have to give up the booze for a bit when i need to come off of nicotine replacement as drinking definatly makes the cravings worse! how are your new boobs doing? xxx

yeah they're settling in nicely, hardly any discomfort now. Can't wait for them to feel normal...they just don't move, its well weird!!! And to get out of these blummin sports bras of course...counting down the days!

Are you feeling nervous or are you okay?

xx

Glad ur boobies r doing well, I think I will be quite impatient too waiting for them to start moving lol I m ok at the moment doesn't feel real yet I had a brief moment of omg when I made my ticker I m sure as it gets closer my excitment will come back and the nerves will start xxx

Don't worry i'm having a pre-ba blues day too.

My surgeon moved my date forward to Monday which i thought was great but i've just realised how unprepared i am!

To make it worse my bf started coming down with a cold last night and i'm a nanny to three kids who have suddenly got a stomach bug this morning so i'm surrounded by germs with just 4 days to go!
Not to mention i can't decide if i'm just stressed or in the beginnings of PMS (i'm praying to god it's not PMS) I've tried and failed to stop smoking and have gone from 5 a day to 7 or 8

On the bright side i pass a off license on my way home and have enough money for a BA and two bottles of wine (maybe three if i buy the cheap stuff)

xx

Even 8 ciggies isn't too bad I had a couple of
Crafty ones last night and I m still puffing away on my electric fag lol maybe u could keep ur bf in the shed until he is germ free? Haha xxx

I suppose it could be worse, i used to chain smoke when i wasn't working so anything is an improvement.. I should have bought an electronic cigarette, i decided to go for the nicorette inhaler (much cheaper) but it's really strange, i wouldn't recommend it at all.

I wouldn't think twice about throwing him in the shed if i had one, for now i have to make do with the sofa in our teeny tiny flat. Now if only i could find a way to make sick children clean up their own bodily fluids...

xx

I've got 10 days to go and I haven't managed to pack in yet. I also thought nicotine replacement would be ok till reading the thread.... In fact I'm smoking as I type. I've got 4 kids and dreading cold turkey cos I get a right moody sod! I don't wanna get annoyed with them, 2 are babies....

All I can really think is to go cold turkey this weekend while my fella is off to pick up the pieces and if it gets really bad have nicotine gum and try and wean myself off that too super quick...

Ooooh the joys of needing new boobies!

I think even if u only manage to get onto some sort of nicotine replacement that's going to be better than smoking I know nicotine isn't great but at least we will have cut out the carbon monoxide and the cyanide so I won't feel to awful if I dont manage complete nicotine free but I will give it a good go xxx

Hey Sammi,
I'm waiting for the OMGWHATAMIDOING?! to kick in. I had a bit of a wobble when I first booked my consultation as suddenly going from something I'd just always pipe dreamed about to something I was actually going to to was pretty scary. Right now I'm just impatient but I'm sure I'll get scared again closer to the time. I'm already starting to worry about whether or not I've picked the right size. Luckily I had a good day today chatting to the girls at work who are all being really supportive and positive - just gotta keep those positive thoughts rolling!

I've been window shopping at clothes I'll finally be able to wear post-BA and that's always a help :D (not that I'll have any money to buy them!) That and looking at bras in the La Senza sale (again, not that I can buy any now anyway) and thinking of all the pretty ones that would have looked stupid before but will look sexay hawt ;) afterwards!

Hugs xxx

Oh, also I am absolutely cacking it about having unders....

remain CALM! lolcake hehe i m having unders too, hopefully they won't give us too much trouble have u managed to find any sports bras yet? i ve just realised that the shock absorbers i ve ordered have bloody wires in grrr and my surgeon said to get 30c and 30d but its nigh on impossible! do u think a 32 back would do? xxx

I'd assume a 32 would be better in the beginning while you're swollen. My surgeon ordered a 32B sports bra for me but i can only wear 32 on the last hook so i've gone out and bought another bra in a 34 just in case. It seems my surgeon orders bras a cup size smaller than he expects us to be but from what i've seen of his other patients half the pain seems to come from the bras! I'm having unders too so i'm pretty sure it will hurt enough without the bra digging into the skin. Also, i have no idea how i'll get either of them on without using some muscles, think i might have to get my bf to do a few practice attempts over the weekend..
xx

Hya sammi its two weeks today until my BA although i'm really excited i have really started to worry. I am worrying that my implants are going to be too small, have problems, not look right on me, make me look fat ect. I too smoke and I am really struggling to stop! I go to sleep every night with loads of worries about my BA and keep having horrid dreams. I'm sure i'll be fine and happy with my boobs, but i keep on reading horror stories and making myself even more worried. xxxxx

Its understand for you to have the blues hun, giving up cigarettes to help yourself for your special day is a big deal!

Just keep yourself going by everytime you think of a cigarette or nicotine, focus on your incisions then focus on the damage you could do to them and see them in your mind having the problems you've read that are possible from smoking... Then focus on them again and see them healing well from not smoking.

Hopefully you focusing on this and seeing how much better it is for your healing will help you through lovely. Remember we're here whenever you need us. So forget the crafty cigarettes haha! If you'd rather, whenever you think about having that crafty one, come here and we'll get you through the tough times xx

ta cookie i m having a good day today so am doing very well on the quitting! hope it lasts lol and karley stop reading the horror stories you know the risks you've done ur research and your going ahead with it, so stop torturing yourself and soon u will have boobies xxx

I can totally relate to how you're feeling Sammi! I quit smoking long before my BA (4 years before) and it was one of the most difficult things I've done, it takes a lot of mental strength to quit... I'd dream about it, wake up and it be the first thing I think about and spend the rest of the day crunching on my fist. It DOES get better though and it actually took me probably 10 weeks to get over that nail biting feeling and start feeling like I didn't NEED to smoke. The more time that went on the more it started to make me feel sick just being in the same room as a smoker.

There are times I'd love a fag and a drink but I know I'd just feel dizzy if I did... It's just not got the same buzz after a while so stick with it Hun, the start is the worst.

As for the money thing ohhh my how I struggled. I was saving everything I had and I remember my lowest point standing in Tesco with £3 to buy my dinner, there was beans on toast or a tin of soup. I was absolutely fed up. Time flys by though Sammi and soon enough you'll have your boobs and you'll have money in your pocket too so don't let this time get you down, you're saving for something VERY worthwhile so try and see the positives through this. Good things in life don't often come without some kind of struggle, but I assure you your twins will be well worth it!x