Am I being silly to even hope?

I am having my BA (unders) on the 2nd June. My hubbys cousin is getting married on the 5th June. I replied today saying that my hubby would be going on his own but tonight one of his other cousin's phoned and it was lovely chatting to her, the email I sent to the Bride's Parents hadn't been read hence the phone call so I had to explain again............only I wasn't exactly truthful about why I wouldn't be going, well OK I said I was having a Wisdom Tooth removed!! Cross with myself 'coz I could prob have told her and she wouldn't have batted an eyelid BUT I didn't. I ended up saying to book me in because she said as it is in a marquee in the Bride's Parents Farm and not a Hotel, arrangements could be a bit more easy.

So if you are still alive after reading the above, am I being silly to assume I could go after unders on the thrid day post op? I am thinking no but?..........

I know you girls will have the answer!

I think everyone is different, kim marsh went to that award thing just after having unders. I however managed to wash my own hair day three and found that an achievement and walked around like a hunch back. I couldn't have done it. But each person is different.

I really wouldn't commit yourself kayla, a wedding is a long day and I doubt you'd be comfortable enough to sit through it at 3 days post-op babe - sorry that probably wasn't what you wanted to hear hunni. xx

I agree with misf1 everyone is different, I was really lucky with my partial unders and had no pain at all - just discomfort. I went out for a meal as soon as I got home the day after surgery and went out shopping the day after that.

Having said that a wedding is a whole day and I did get very tired very quickly even though I had no pain, I think this early on you need to rest up as much as you can.

Perhaps if you felt ok you could go for a couple of hours in the evening....??

xx

I think I will end up saying no - just thought of the hugging and standing around for photos at a typical wedding - I couldn't have done that post caesarean either and even if the recovery isn't as bad with BA, I don't want to risk it.

Just the idea of someone banging them is awful!!

Thanks for the replies girls, really helped to clarify things xx
I have to learn to say no!! And I am NOT changing my op date!!

I didnt have unders so cant comment on that but I would think you will really need to see how you feel on the actual day. If you do go take it easy though. xx

I think that is probably the best decision hun.

Don't want to put your recovery back on any way, need to take car of those new babies once you have crossed to the other side

xx

i had full unders and there was no way i could of gone to a wedding, or anywhere on day 3, day 3 was actually my worst day to be honest hun, but then i guess everybodys different, but you dont wanna commit yourself to going and then spend from now till the actual day worrying n stressing about whether your going or not , try to concentrate on relaxing and recovering after your op hun xx

It's great to have such a definate response. I won't go and if I feel fine on the day I will feel happy knowing I am resting and aiding my recovery.
Thanks so much for helping me to make a decision xx

I had unders and went trekking around Prague sightseeing on day 3 - i think i walked about 8 miles in all! Having said that it totally did me in - I was shattered and wouldn't recommend it.

I would play it by ear and see if you feel up to it but I wouldn't commit to anything

i agree i think it will be to soon
xxx

misf1 wrote:I think everyone is different, kim marsh went to that award thing just after having unders. .

Really? Kim marsh did that? on the same day?

p.s first time ive used the quote thing so if it doesnt work please excuse me! doh! x

yey it worked!! im not a total thicko after all!! x

@ mia!!! xx

HI Kayla

I could not have managed a wedding on day 3..... I was exhausted after pottering about the house, and the discomfort when someone hugged me for the first time nearly did me in.. personally I would not have risked the healing process for anything.. but it is very personal.. xxxx

hi i can't comment as i haven't had mine yet, but just wanted to say i read about kym marsh and although she went to awards apparently she lay in her hotel room in agony later with icepacks on her boobs! ( so i read anyway) Sorry not helping you kayla am I, oops!

Mia X wrote:

misf1 wrote:I think everyone is different, kim marsh went to that award thing just after having unders. .

Really? Kim marsh did that? on the same day?

p.s first time ive used the quote thing so if it doesnt work please excuse me! doh! x

lol no not the same day, a few days after, maybe even a week, she said it was very uncomfortable in papers if I am remembering correctly.
click here to see article

Kayla I experienced pain intermittently, I didn't leave the house until day 5 lol!!!

x x

Hi,

I had partial unders and I would of been ok to have gone....apart from the tiredness from the anesthetic but I'm sure you can get around that one. Take some painkillers before you go so you are walking tall and straight and to be honest, it's only when you have rested and then get up that it hurts....really wasn't as bad as I expected - you go and ENJOY! xxxx

kayla wrote:only I wasn't exactly truthful about why I wouldn't be going, well OK I said I was having a Wisdom Tooth removed!!

Why a wisdom tooth?? That's hilarious!

I'm gonna say no too lovely, the last thing you want is to damage your new additions for the sake of a wedding.

You'll also stil feel weird becasue of the GA and meds you'll be taking... best to leave it.

xx