Do you ever regret it?

Hi girls,

My first post here (after my intro in the say hello department lol)

I am pre ba, been looking into it for over 10 years but each time I feel like I am about to dive in there and follow my heart my head shouts out NO. I do have a huge desire to transform my flat not even slightly filling an AA cup chest into something beautiful, feminine, make me look and feel like a woman and not some pre teen child (I'm fast approaching 30!).

I have a great need and want for boobs but everytime I'm about to finalise my 'yes' decision (yes I know my surgeon and we met about a year ago! so I have before made that 'yes' decision lol) I pull away and kind of reside myself to living flat, tell myself that this is the way I was made and this is what I should accept. If augmentation surgery wasn't available then I'd just have to live with it without any choice. The thing is though, it is now so much easier and readily available for anybody who wants to have it done. In other words I actually have a choice and the choice between opting to get some boobs or just staying flat is proving hard for me to choose, well not choose but finding the balls to go through with it really. I have chose that I want it, I just don't have the balls to go through with it without telling myself all of the wrongs that could happen. Basically I over analyse and I need you guys to help me rationalise a little more than I have managed to on my own.

So I suppose this post is to ask you lovely ladies if you felt the same as me before you were brave enough to go through with it and if so, how do you feel about it now that you have achieved your goal ie, getting boobs. Do you ever regret it,for any reason at all. Even for a day or a minute? has it ever caused you problems which make you feel like you wished that you never went through with it or did you at one point wish that you never did it but then you got over whatever it was that made you feel that way and now you are loving it again?. Do you worry about how you will finance future surgery, implant replacement? I know that some might never need replacing but then there are those that might need to be. Say 10-15 years from now, do any of you worry about the cost of surgery for the future? how do you deal with that?

I know most people say that a BA was the best thing they ever did but for every minute of the day 24/7 is it really the best thing you ever did? ok that doesn't sound too positive of me to say but I don't mean it to seem like that. I just need to ask what I am worried about feeling after going through with it. Right now my body is how it is, I haven't done anything to make me this way and even though I don't like what I see I am living with it knowing that I didn't make the choice. If I make the choice of surgery and regret it I'd be **naughty word** lol.

So lol, can any of you share your thoughts on this? am I'm being over the top? or can any of you kind of understand where I'm at?

Any responses will be greatfully recieved. Even if you tell me to sort myself out and stop talking **naughty word**, I'm happy to hear it. I just need other peoples thoughts and opinions... please.

Thanks for reading this, Jen x

When I look at all the positive affects it has has on me I don't regret it ever, nope, not for one second, I save up a little a month as a boobie fund, so in future if there is a boobie problem or re op needed the money is there and I don't have to worry about the financial side. I wear the clothes I want, I fill a bra, I walk with my head up instead of looking at the floor, I don't hunch my shoulders to hide the fact I have no boobs. I can wear a bikini my body feels in proportion for the first time in my life (big boobs & big hips) when I look in the mirror I smile catching sight of the feminine figure I now have. I won't lie the male attention I have received has been an added bonus (I didn't do it for that reason). Plus I am manless, and when/if it ever comes to that point when they take my bra off, they won't be taking my boobs off at the same time(millions of padding & gel).
I did think about it for a long long time and went through lots of emotions. When you are ready, you will know. Don't force it.

Hi hun,

Welcome to the forum! I can honestly say that personally, I have never regretted my decision for a moment. I went through all the same feelings as you, even to the point that the week before my op I thought about canceling because I started thinking maybe my little bee-stings weren't even that bad and that I was being silly. As soon as I woke up from the surgery I knew I had done the right thing. The only thing I sometimes feel a bit wistful about looking back is that I've lost some feeling in my nipples and I would love to have it back, but I wouldn't sacrifice my boobs now for the sensitivity back, my boobs are much more important to me.

I'm sure all of us can understand where you're at. I can't speak for girls who have had complications, but my journey has been so far (touch wood) smooth and really good!

Once you've had a good look around the forum a bit you will hopefully start to feel more sure that you're doing the right thing because there are so many positive stories here. Yes, there are bad things that happen too, but a lot of the girls who've had complications still absolutely love their boobs after all is said and done.

Good luck hun! xx

Hey Jen, i am also in the pre op stage. Like you im fast approaching 30. 28 to be exact and have hated my a size boobs since i was eighteen. I went for a consultation five years ago when i lived in Spain and then chickened out and have been agonizing over whether to get them done or not ever since. I have decided that i am not 100 percent not grateful for what i already have, and that if i want big boobs by god i shall have them!!!! I do not want to go through the rest of my life feeling totally unfeminine and spend all my holidays staring at other women on the beach in their skimpy bikinis envying their nice big womanly boobs!!!! You only get one life chick and i know that i will never truly feel confident in myself until i have them done. Will you? Good idea by MISF1 though to put money away for re ops just incase. I will def do that! You just have to take the plunge!!! Im hopefully getting my additions on the 1st of April with either MYA Dr Traynor or Transform Dr Kuna. Waiting on Transform getting back to me re dropping their price. Im scared, in fact terrified but im deffo doin it this time!!!!! xxxxxx

I did regret it at first .... I think although I had wanted it for so long (14 yrs) I had got used to the idea I would never actually go through with it due to financial reasons. Then all of a sudden money wasnt a problem so I just within a matter of 6 weeks I had consults and went ahead and did it. Now I am not an impulsive person at all (I cant stress this enough) so once I saw the results I was quite taken aback and shocked by the new bigger size. I now know its because my small chested brain hadnt quite caught on as I normally really take my time on any big decision.
I am now almost a year down the line and I think they are kinda groovey and would never go back ever.
I just wanted to be honest and show two sides not worry you I hope you appreciate my honesty.
So take your time girls dont rush into anything and there will be no regrets I promise.

xx

nope never i luv my curves now and feel like a real women now its given me much more confidence to
xxx

hi hun and welcome.

Well i have always hated my boobs (if you could even call them that) i was self concious through all of my life (i'm 31) i never even liked to talk about boobs at all, i was jealous of everyone and i guess i still hoped that puberty would kick in at some point . One day i was at a concert and i looked over and saw a girl wearing a tiny top and her boobs falling out, i just looked and made up my mind that i need to do something, coz i want to wear clothes that i can fall out of . So from there i never looked back, i did my research, found the funds and surgeon, and never once had any second thoughts or doubts. I just knew that i wanted to feel sexy and confident. I hated my body, i wore chicken fillets all the time, and if i was at home braless and someone came to the door i wouldn't open it untill i put in my fillets!!!! or i would hide so they would think no-one was in!

I had my op in April 2009 and even through all the pain and discomfort i never once regretted it. I love my boobs, i look at them everyday and think how lucky i am that i had the choice to be able to change my body and make me feel as confident as what i do.

This may not be much help to you, however all i can talk about is my experience. However if you can happily live with your body the way it is then you should stay that way, if i was confident and happy with my non-existant boobs then i would not have needed the surgery. Just remember there is no rush into this, yes complications do happen, and we never know when or if they will occur.I guess my take on life is if you want it then go for it.

Good luck in your decision
xxx

Hi hun, I think these feeling are very normal for a lot of girls, I have wanted this for 10 years and have been close then changing my mind. My op is coming up fairly soon and I still have some aprehensions in the back of my mind but I now know this is what I want to do and these apprehentions are perfectly natural for anyone going for elective surgery.

I think misf1 has given some great advice.. you will know when you are ready, if it doesn't feel right just now don't pressurise yourself to make a decision. I wasn't ready before, I am now. xx

No, 3 and a half years on I still do not regret my decision to have a BA.

Honestly though, I do wish my breasts were smaller and hoped with my re-op - smaller implants and an uplift that this would have given me what I desired... this hasn't happened though and I remain the same size as I was before - A DD. I'm not 'unhappy' with my size and I'm always being complimented on my figure and my new boobs have really given me a great shape, but I am very conscious of what I wear to ensure I look classy rather than tarty as due to their size, it's a fine line that can be crossed on me very easily, which if they were smaller I wouldn't have to be concerned about.

I often cringe when I read time and time again people being advised that augmentated boobs look smaller than they measure, when I know this doesn't apply to all girls and I hope that the girls did their homework enough trust their surgeons advice and not push for the biggest implants they can possibly get!...

At first for me, it was a novelty having large breasts, but when the novelty wore off and I had just as many concerns about concealing my big boobs as I did with my smaller ones although I don't regret my decision, I would like them smaller - however after attempting this, someone *points to the sky* upstairs has other plans for me, I was destined to keep these bazookas!

So, take your time choosing your surgeon, don't have just the one consultation with the surgeon of your choice, I promise you, as much as you'll think you covered everything in your initial consultation, before your op you have so many more questions! I made an appointment the week before my op to have a second consult with my surgeon just to go through everything with him again and to cover some questions I forgot to ask on my first consult!

Make sure you're 100% comfortable with all of your decisions - surgeon, aftercare, size, placement e.t.c when you've had this reassurance from knowing you're in good hands, you'll no longer question it sweetie, you'll be counting down the days to boobieville!!! xxx

misf1 wrote:When I look at all the positive affects it has has on me I don't regret it ever, nope, not for one second, I save up a little a month as a boobie fund, so in future if there is a boobie problem or re op needed the money is there and I don't have to worry about the financial side. I wear the clothes I want, I fill a bra, I walk with my head up instead of looking at the floor, I don't hunch my shoulders to hide the fact I have no boobs. I can wear a bikini my body feels in proportion for the first time in my life (big boobs & big hips) when I look in the mirror I smile catching sight of the feminine figure I now have. I won't lie the male attention I have received has been an added bonus (I didn't do it for that reason). Plus I am manless, and when/if it ever comes to that point when they take my bra off, they won't be taking my boobs off at the same time(millions of padding & gel).
I did think about it for a long long time and went through lots of emotions. When you are ready, you will know. Don't force it.

Thanks for replying to me. All that you have said here makes perfect sense and I love the boobie fund. Just by reading what you wrote I can sense your confidence, the way you wrote it and what you said definitely says that you are happy with how you are and that has really helped me today - thank you.

misf1 wrote: when they take my bra off, they won't be taking my boobs off at the same time

this really made me smile. You are so right, my bra IS my boobs. If I dont have it on you cant even tell that something is there, because its not. This is actually one of the things I keep telling myself. I hate it that when I take off a bra I am in actual fact taking of my 'boobs' too. The feeling you must have knowing that when you take off a bra and the boobs stay exactly where they should be - I would so love to experience that. The fact is that I dont need to wear a bra for support, I have nothing to support, I wear a bra so it looks like there is a slight bump there and honestly I really want to change that. I want to take off my bra and still have boobs too.

Jessica wrote:Hi hun,

Welcome to the forum! I can honestly say that personally, I have never regretted my decision for a moment. I went through all the same feelings as you, even to the point that the week before my op I thought about canceling because I started thinking maybe my little bee-stings weren't even that bad and that I was being silly. As soon as I woke up from the surgery I knew I had done the right thing. The only thing I sometimes feel a bit wistful about looking back is that I've lost some feeling in my nipples and I would love to have it back, but I wouldn't sacrifice my boobs now for the sensitivity back, my boobs are much more important to me.

Good luck hun! xx

Thanks for the reply, Jessica. I'm really happy for you that your journey has been a positive one. I can definitely relate to the convincing yourself that the 'bee stings' aren't so bad. I even tried to persuade myself that I quite like not having any boobs, yet here I am 10 years later thinking the same as I was years ago - no I'm not happy and yes they really are that bad
It's really good to know that you had similar thoughts to me and are happy with your decision and happy with what you have now. Thanks for sharing that with me.

kirsti wrote:Hey Jen, i am also in the pre op stage. Like you im fast approaching 30. 28 to be exact and have hated my a size boobs since i was eighteen. I went for a consultation five years ago when i lived in Spain and then chickened out and have been agonizing over whether to get them done or not ever since. I have decided that i am not 100 percent not grateful for what i already have, and that if i want big boobs by god i shall have them!!!! I do not want to go through the rest of my life feeling totally unfeminine and spend all my holidays staring at other women on the beach in their skimpy bikinis envying their nice big womanly boobs!!!! You only get one life chick and i know that i will never truly feel confident in myself until i have them done. Will you? Good idea by MISF1 though to put money away for re ops just incase. I will def do that! You just have to take the plunge!!! Im hopefully getting my additions on the 1st of April with either MYA Dr Traynor or Transform Dr Kuna. Waiting on Transform getting back to me re dropping their price. Im scared, in fact terrified but im deffo doin it this time!!!!! xxxxxx

Hi Kirsti, thanks for taking the time to reply to me. I can relate to a lot of what you have said here. The seeing of other women looking beautiful and shapely in whatever they are wearing makes me so envious. I have turned into a guy and am competely fixated on comparing women every day, only I admire them and wish I had what they had. I also am most certainly not greatful for what I don't have! I just don't understand where it all went wrong. I even tried the gaining weight thing to see if they 'developed' - yeah right! no such luck I just ended up a few pounds overweight which make me look even more so out of proportion.

You are right in saying we just have to take the plunge. When I read that I knew you were right and honestly you have given me a good kick in the right direction - thank you! I wish you a lot of luck with your boob journey, I wish I had your attitude!

Ah hun, I'm afraid the staring at boobies never goes away. I still do it, although not with envy anymore. It becomes like a habit you become so obsessed with them, I just love them. Like a curiosity thing

annefinackapan wrote:I did regret it at first .... I think although I had wanted it for so long (14 yrs) I had got used to the idea I would never actually go through with it due to financial reasons. Then all of a sudden money wasnt a problem so I just within a matter of 6 weeks I had consults and went ahead and did it. Now I am not an impulsive person at all (I cant stress this enough) so once I saw the results I was quite taken aback and shocked by the new bigger size. I now know its because my small chested brain hadnt quite caught on as I normally really take my time on any big decision.
I am now almost a year down the line and I think they are kinda groovey and would never go back ever.
I just wanted to be honest and show two sides not worry you I hope you appreciate my honesty.
So take your time girls dont rush into anything and there will be no regrets I promise.

xx

Hi annefinackapan (cool name!) thank you so much for your outright honesty, I definitely appreciate it. This is exactly what I wanted to hear, honesty. It just so happens that you have described exactly what I fear, not liking the new 'bigger' girls. This is one of the main reasons I made this post, to see if anyone would say what you have. Of course if we start off flat then we have no idea how it will feel to be fuller, or even full, and this is one thing that worries me so its good to hear how you felt, both immediately after surgery and a year on.
I think it's part of me trying to convince myself that it's not so bad being flat as to why I am also worried that I might not like it if I'm bigger.

Please don't respond to this if you are not comfortable but what size did you go to and from? I don't want a drastic change, meaning I would be very happy looking like what I do in a bra, only being able for them to stay on my chest when I take the bra off lol. For some reason, as I am only used to being flat, I am almost scared that it just wont suit me having real sized boobs and I will think that I should have stayed as I am now. Can you relate to that?

Once again, thanks. What you said here is completely reassuring, thank you for taking the time to tell me exactly how you felt.

misf1 wrote:Ah hun, I'm afraid the staring at boobies never goes away. I still do it, although not with envy anymore. It becomes like a habit you become so obsessed with them, I just love them. Like a curiosity thing

I think I have already become obsessed I don't even intentially check them out, it just happens lol. So you dont ever get over the obsession once you have it then

natalia wrote:nope never i luv my curves now and feel like a real women now its given me much more confidence to
xxx

thanks for your response, Natalia. It's really good to know how much they have helped your confidence. I one day wish to feel how you do and that is being a confident 'real' woman. I just hope I find the same courage that you and everyone else here have already done.

Len1 wrote:hi hun and welcome.

Well i have always hated my boobs (if you could even call them that) i was self concious through all of my life (i'm 31) i never even liked to talk about boobs at all, i was jealous of everyone and i guess i still hoped that puberty would kick in at some point . One day i was at a concert and i looked over and saw a girl wearing a tiny top and her boobs falling out, i just looked and made up my mind that i need to do something, coz i want to wear clothes that i can fall out of . So from there i never looked back, i did my research, found the funds and surgeon, and never once had any second thoughts or doubts. I just knew that i wanted to feel sexy and confident. I hated my body, i wore chicken fillets all the time, and if i was at home braless and someone came to the door i wouldn't open it untill i put in my fillets!!!! or i would hide so they would think no-one was in!

I had my op in April 2009 and even through all the pain and discomfort i never once regretted it. I love my boobs, i look at them everyday and think how lucky i am that i had the choice to be able to change my body and make me feel as confident as what i do.

This may not be much help to you, however all i can talk about is my experience. However if you can happily live with your body the way it is then you should stay that way, if i was confident and happy with my non-existant boobs then i would not have needed the surgery. Just remember there is no rush into this, yes complications do happen, and we never know when or if they will occur.I guess my take on life is if you want it then go for it.

Good luck in your decision
xxx

Hi Len1, I love your take on life! this has definitely been much help to me. No, I don't think that I can happily live my life with my body the way it is now. If I could do that then surely I would have managed to have moved on from these thoughts and feelings by now? Nope, they are there every day and each day I say to myself 'have some balls and just do it'. I put on a bra that doesn't fit, never has and never will, and when I take it off there is nothing for my shirt to hang off.
I would say that from what you have said you have had me answer a few questions to myself and you know what? you are right. I'm not happy, never have been and never will be if I stay like this. I suppose if I give myself the chance to change than if I'm unhappy with the money funded boobs then it's no different to being unhappy with the non existant boobs. Well yeah there is a difference, at least there will be some there when I take off a bra!

Thanks Len1, you have me deep in thought by what you have said, good thought too!

hattie260 wrote:Hi hun, I think these feeling are very normal for a lot of girls, I have wanted this for 10 years and have been close then changing my mind. My op is coming up fairly soon and I still have some aprehensions in the back of my mind but I now know this is what I want to do and these apprehentions are perfectly natural for anyone going for elective surgery.

I think misf1 has given some great advice.. you will know when you are ready, if it doesn't feel right just now don't pressurise yourself to make a decision. I wasn't ready before, I am now. xx

Hi hattie, your op day is almost here and I wish you all the luck in the world that you get exactly what you want. You have just hit the nail on the head here, saying that apprehensions are perfectly normal. I suppose I'm just looking at it from my own perspective when really it's not just me who has these feelings, its natural and everyone at some stage in life and for some reason will experience it. I suppose it just took you pointing that out to me for me to take a step back and rationalise a little - thank you!

cookie wrote:No, 3 and a half years on I still do not regret my decision to have a BA.

Honestly though, I do wish my breasts were smaller and hoped with my re-op - smaller implants and an uplift that this would have given me what I desired... this hasn't happened though and I remain the same size as I was before - A DD. I'm not 'unhappy' with my size and I'm always being complimented on my figure and my new boobs have really given me a great shape, but I am very conscious of what I wear to ensure I look classy rather than tarty as due to their size, it's a fine line that can be crossed on me very easily, which if they were smaller I wouldn't have to be concerned about.

I often cringe when I read time and time again people being advised that augmentated boobs look smaller than they measure, when I know this doesn't apply to all girls and I hope that the girls did their homework enough trust their surgeons advice and not push for the biggest implants they can possibly get!...

At first for me, it was a novelty having large breasts, but when the novelty wore off and I had just as many concerns about concealing my big boobs as I did with my smaller ones although I don't regret my decision, I would like them smaller - however after attempting this, someone *points to the sky* upstairs has other plans for me, I was destined to keep these bazookas!

So, take your time choosing your surgeon, don't have just the one consultation with the surgeon of your choice, I promise you, as much as you'll think you covered everything in your initial consultation, before your op you have so many more questions! I made an appointment the week before my op to have a second consult with my surgeon just to go through everything with him again and to cover some questions I forgot to ask on my first consult!

Make sure you're 100% comfortable with all of your decisions - surgeon, aftercare, size, placement e.t.c when you've had this reassurance from knowing you're in good hands, you'll no longer question it sweetie, you'll be counting down the days to boobieville!!! xxx

Thank you cookie, what you have said is very helpful. What you said about cringing when you hear people saying augmented boobs look smaller than natural, when in your experience that wasnt at all true, this is very helpful to know. I have read how many girls have decided to increase the cc size after they read exactly what you have said here. I will bare that in mind.

You have said how you thought that your boobs were maybe a little bigger than you hoped for, this is one of my concerns and you have responded to that in a way that has made me feel more at ease about the whole outcome. Even though you wanted them to be a little smaller you are not unhappy and they give you a good shape. This is a good result and good to know, I thank you for sharing that with me.
I suppose what everyone is concerned with is how will they turn out, be it a little too big or too small or just right. By you saying what you have has basically outlined to me that none of us know how the 'estimated' size will look like on us until we actually have them implanted and it's not just me who goes through this anxiety, its possibly everyone who takes the plunge and goes under the knife. Thanks for making me realise that!

Thank you all so much for taking the time to read and respond to my post. Each and every response I have had here has, and is, helping me an awful lot with gathering my thoughts and feelings on the whole matter. You have all said something that has made me realise that I need to take a step back from over analysing and maybe just get on with it! - thank you all so much,

Jen

Hello and welcome Jen, I think it was the best thing i ever done, the only regret about it is wishing i had gone bigger :-(
But apart from the tiny bit of boobie greed i am so much more happier wth myself now! xxxxxx

Hi

I too am pre-op but have been thinking about this for around 5-6 years, I had macrolane 2 years ago and was happy with the result but it is a lot of money for something that doesn't last and in mycase only 9 months !

I booked up a consultation back in July last year but cancelled, I had recently split up with my fella and just kept thinking what if I am doing this just because I am so low and feeling unhappy.

However now 7 months on I know I am doing this for myself after all I increased my size through macrolane when I was with him and perfectly happy so.....

Have now had 2 consults and am just waiting on the answer to a few questions from the clinic before I book my boobie day and I can't wait.

I think misf1 is absolutely right, when you are ready you just know...

Welcome to the forum, this place has helped me soooo much already in deciding what to go for the girls here are honest but kind and I don't think you can ask for more than that, the support is fab.

Good luck with making your decision

xxxx

Hiya Jennie I'm so SO pleased that i took the plunge and had BA after wanting boobs for over 20years---but i must say that it took me a good couple of months to adjust to the new me as in the early days straight after i felt a little like I'd lost myself and had to find the real me again!...sorry can't explain it any better ...sounds really odd now i typed it!

Hi Jennie - welcome to the forum.
I can honestly say I think having a ba is the bet thing I've ever done. The first couple of weeks after when I was in quite a bit of pain I did wonder why I'd put myself through it but now I just wished I'd done it earlier.
I've always hated my boobs - they were always tiny but because they are close toghether I could always get a fab cleavage with a good gel bra so everyone thought I had good average sized boobs. It was only after my seceond and then especially my third baby when my boobs really sagged so were tiny empty and saggy and were very fly at the top. I went to a consult in March 2008 and when the surgeon said he could make my boobs 'really nice' I too offence and convinced myself that I culd learn to love what I had! I didn't and in january 2009 went for a 2nd consult and booked there and then!! I was a wreck in the run up to the op constantly thinking I was being selfish, what if it went wrong, what about my kids etc. But now having gone from a 32a to a 30E I am so so gald I went through with it. My boobs aren't huge and I'm glad, I just wanted to look like I had average sized boobs but ones that stayed there when I took my bra off. The best thing is that now I just get on with my life rather than constantly thinking about what my clothes looked like, what to wear to take the kids swimming and when I put a bikini on on holiday I feel fantastic!!
Sorry for the essay but hope it helps!
Claire x

Hiya

I can't tell you how many times i nearly cancelled my appointments!!! & that was just the consultations. I started to think maybe if i just visit M&S again i will come away with some wondefull bras & all will be ok. I am sooooooooooooooooooooo glad i did it!!!! i love love love having boobies only thing i also regret is not going for the biggest option available to me...boobie greed soon sets in

I actually looked through my catalogue today & theres some bras in there in some sorts onlyup to a C cup & it made me laugh knowing they are too small for me now

x