do you ever regret it?

Do you ever regret having implants?  Today I thought what did I do?  is it a form of mutilation and why did I do it?  my breasts felt cold today and I felt like they were foreign. I also worry what will my daughter think when she's older have I set a bad example,  would she want to copy me.  anyone else regret it sometimes?

Not one bit. It's done so much for me confidence wise. I have bad days when they're really sore, but never regretful. 

As for your daughter, I don't think you're setting a bad example. When she's older, if she asks you can lay out all the facts, rather than her speculating. Explain exactly why and what happened, all the emotions around it. And if she does decide she wants one too, you'll be there to support her armed with first hand knowledge.

I think it's worse that my daughter has a dropped shoulder from a bad birth.  So she will grow up feeling self conscious. At the age she will hit puberty my implants will be ten yrs old and I'm seriously contemplating having them removed to avoid the issue

Not for a second, your boobs will still feel cold, they're o. The outside of the chest wall , mine are always cold! 
Give it a few more months even a year and they won't feel foreign , you're still on,y 3 and a bit months and they still may feel a bit alien but this feeling will disappear as you become more used to them 

As for your daughter I don't think any woman wanting or having a ba sets a bad example to her children. 
We all do it for our own personal reasons what ever they may be. 
She'll be her own person when she's older , an adult to make informed choices and decisions she may not want one and if she does that's a bridge you cross when you come to it, just remember that you had the right and choice as much as she will x

Hey, 

As you might know I have been having slight problems with my boobs and before mondays review appointment I was in tears as I couldn't get any answers for the way they were hurting and wished I had never had them done.

Also at my rwview I felt lkke a school girl being told off as my surfeon said there was nothing wrong with them - think the bra I was wearing is too small  in the cup now (30ff panache) so wore a bravissiko 30g today and that has been fine for me.

My only regret is I didn't go for lots of consultations and explore all options . As for having them done I don't regret it for a minute I can wear underwear and clothes without having to worry about accommodating mega huge chicken fillets just to make me feel womanly. I was flat as a pancake and having boobs is the best thing ever ...to me anyway don't think the novelty will ever wear off....lol X

So far no regrets what so ever. Only regret putting on half a stone in the past few months from not exercising as much   

I don't think you set a bad example whatsoever. You have all the facts about the BA and can support her and answer her questions. I think you are extremely brave that you have taken a step to do something about things you are not happy about and this sets an excellent example to her too in any aspect of her life.

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It's an interesting question. I'm sure you must have gone over everything in detail in preparation for your BA. If you don't mind me asking, what do you feel has changed since then? Are you not entirely happy with them? Or is it solely your worry over the impression on your daughter?

I have a 3 year old daughter, however, I will feel confident when she is a young woman explaining my reasons for seeking a BA. Rather than negatively influencing her I hope it will empower her, not to have a ba herself, but to strive do things that may seem scary at first in order to improve her life. There's no way I'd minimise the amount of serious consideration that has gone into getting me to the decision I have reached. Finally reaching the decision to go ahead has certainly made me feel empowered!

I'd love to hear more about why you feel the way you do. It may give me something to think about that I hadn't previously considered.

Thank you x

MissyM - if there was a like button for your post I would click it many many times   
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kdeee wrote:MissyM - if there was a like button for your post I would click it many many times   
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Aww, thanks chick xxx

Brilliantly said missy m x  

Everyday lately I'm regretting it but it's having the complications and looking at another reop that's getting me down 

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I don't think I will regret if my recovery goes well. If I have a daughter who ended up in my position and wanted a BA I would pay for it for her. I literally grew nothing  and. Had no breast tissue me and my sister were both the same, only ones in our family.  My sister had a baby  a year ago and didn't produce milk or change size at all. She's looking into one now because I have she's also worried now her daughter will be the same as us both. 

Try not to feel bad about it because of your daughter, you should be proud  you've taken action instead of being down about it, that's a  good quality. And if you're happier that's more important for a daughter. X

I don't think I am more happy tho,  I was looking for a quick fix and my boobs was something I thought I had control over. I'm still unhappy. I have come to think how I look is irrelevant. I'm missing a loving secure home after my marriage broke down.  I saw my breasts as stopping me from meeting men, yes I wasn't happy with them nut I was so fixated on getting them done and fixing the now,  I don't think I thought hard enough about the future. I honestly would have an explant if it made my daughter feel happier. I feel like I've made a selfish decision and it's too late to take it back x

In my experience you need to tell yourself you're happy and eventually it comes 2 years ago my ex revealed 6 weeks before our wedding, 2
Days after my hen do, a couple of months after us buying our first house and halfway through it being done up when it was literally a shell that he'd been cheating on me and wanted to be with her. It was awful I didn't know what to do, but I made a decision that I was going to look happy because I was so worried what people would think of me at work plus I didn't want people to feel sorry for me. Honestly it was hard to pretend but eventully I was. Xx

Your boobs look amazing maybe try to make an extra effort with clothes, hair and makeup so you feel more confident and invite yourself p
Out places as much as you can. Xxx

It sounds like you've got a lot of emotional things going on at the moment. Your post suggests you may have had a ba in attempt to make you feel better following your marriage breakdown. Do you think you could now be blaming your new boobs cuz that 'better' feeling hasn't come and your ba didn't heal the wounds caused by your marriage breakdown?  

I've got no idea whether having them removed is a realistic solution but I think that you could surely benefit from some sort of counselling regarding your marriage breakdown at the least?? For me, the moral of the story is that a physical change is not always a quick fix for your emotional state and I think this is something you should take into account before making any further decisions. Do you think even if you could have them removed that it would improve how you were feeling right now? 

Although I don't personally think you've made a selfish decision I do think that you need to explore your options further. It's difficult for anyone else to comment on whether you have made the right decision as everyone's journey can be so very different and no one can truly understand what you did or do feel.

I hope you can find a way that helps you feel the happiness you crave xx

Lolo85 wrote:In my experience you need to tell yourself you're happy and eventually it comes 2 years ago my ex revealed 6 weeks before our wedding, 2
Days after my hen do, a couple of months after us buying our first house and halfway through it being done up when it was literally a shell that he'd been cheating on me and wanted to be with her. It was awful I didn't know what to do, but I made a decision that I was going to look happy because I was so worried what people would think of me at work plus I didn't want people to feel sorry for me. Honestly it was hard to pretend but eventully I was. Xx

Your boobs look amazing maybe try to make an extra effort with clothes, hair and makeup so you feel more confident and invite yourself p
Out places as much as you can. Xxx

Wow, your such a strong and amazing woman!!
Was shocked and appalled at your ex's behaviour. 
X

Loui I had regrets.
As u know when I first had mine done i wanted them out. I hated them in my opinion they were huge etc. But once I started to heal and the swelling went down i started to feel more positive.

You've had a few problems with your implants and your not completely happy with the results. 
Your feeling alittle low about them. But it will pass as they look great in your avatar's!

I think maybe it's my anxiety speaking. I am a worrier, I saved up for this and my nan helped me too as they know I always wore chicken fillets from puberty when they didn't grow.  I thought it would give me confidence,  but it hasn't as I think my feeling of self worth was left so low after my husband emotionally abused me that I don't think I will ever feel good about myself again and should have put the savings towards what really matters and that's my children. I have a good job, two beautiful children, I'm a lovely person and have met a guy been with him two years but he's recently told me that he can't see a future with me as he finds my kids hard work and said 'I'm not exactly a good package am I'. Which really undid all the positives I'd been making towards feeling good x

I'm just over 4 or 5 weeks post op and regret it every day. I have my reasons, but mainly just hate the way they look and I don't see it improving with time. 
So yes , huge regrets.

Loui that's an awful thing for someone who is meant to love u to say. 
My mum had her boobs done when I was ten and I admits her for her change in confidence, she was a better mum because of how happy she was. An even better example to me was her leaving my dad and not putting up with being a doormat. Not that I'm saying that's what u are, but the only bad example to your babies will be to not value yourself for the strong, caring women you are and stay with this man who describes u in that way- not your boobs. He should be lucky to have the Privilege of being part of your children's life.  

Like lolo85 said, put on a smile and learn to love yourself and then when u do you will be red for someone to love u xxxxx

Completely agree Rachelw287 x

Sorry to hear that Loui , Unfourtantly I think some ladies go into a ba thinking it will fix other issues, if you have other issues surrounding your ba you should have made the surgeon aware. I think this is an issue to you need to discuss with your gp who can maybe refer you to help x

That's a nice story about your mum.  I really wouldn't worry about your daughter when you tell her. It might even bring you closer I don't think everybody finds it easy to talk to their parents about those kind of things and it could be good for your relationship.

On my screensaver for my phone I have 'let it go, it's next' I  read it in a book but it's been on for two years now and I try to live by that. Some men aren't very nice and you wouldn't want someone with that attitude around your children anyway. Be the bigger person, make him think you're over it and enjoying life. Even if your not feeling that great. Eventually you will be and he will think what have I done. Then if he tries running back which a lot do when they see you're happy. You can show him up by saying you couldn't let him around you're children because they deserve so much better xxx

Loui... Your not having a good time with men   
But as u said u have your beautiful children a good job and a supportive family.
Maybe u thought your boobs would make your life better but it hasn't really made a difference. As for the money I can understand that u could have used it for something else but your boobs were clearly getting u down, otherwise you wouldn't have had the op.
But their done now and u can't get a refund lol.
So now concentrate on making u and your kids happy and if someone comes along and wants to join your family then great but if not. You know u are strong enough to do it all.

Think of your future projects holidays activities that u and the kids can do x