New bf.. what would you do?

Boobie sistas if you were dating someone, would you tell them about your boob job before things got more serious or what until things develop more? I dont really know what to do with this guy, im thinking if i were to tell him now i dont know how he'll react because i dont know him that well, but if i waited until we were closer he might be peed off i didnt tell him sooner!

What would you do?

This is a really tricky one. I don't know what to suggest. I'm in a similar situation as I'm seeing someone...thought he was going to get a 'preview' on Fri night (lol) but I was actually quite sore and also came over a bit shy!! I feel really protective over them and would be totally mortified if he didn't like them or made a comment that I didn't like...not that I think he would, but the prospect is still scary. He knows all about the op and has supported me through it and I'm still nervous about actually showing him!! So I understand how you feel.

Sorry I haven't been of much help hun...I suppose there will come a time when you feel comfortable enough to tell him. If he gets peed off atall about your timing then he's not good enough for you!!

C x

Thanks for replying hun, i was thinking of you when i was writing it and wondered if you had shown him yet, i completely understand how you feel you're still very early days and i dont think i would've been comfortable to show mine that early too.
Im 2 months now and they settled alot so i dont mind showing them too much, you'll feel like that soon make sure you feel 100% ready to flaunt! xxx

OOOOOO this is a good one! Hmmm im really not sure, I cant get it out my head that im sure '' when a bloke squeezes them etc that they will know they aint quite natural despite them looking it'' this doesnt bother me. A male mate of mine who does know Iv had it done has felt a few fakies in his time and he said they normally look natural but the feel its not quite the same its jus that little bit firmer (obviously thats jus his opinion, im sure it will vary). I think mayb I would tell him b4 it got to the ''touchy'' stage might save a lil embarassement if he asked, or i suppose you could say u didnt say anything and was curious to see if he noticed then you were going to tell him.

Im hoping to go in the RAF by The end of the year and the only thing that worries me there that if you tell ONE person you might aswell tell all the squaddies lol. On the other hand I think so 'effing' what they look great, i can offord it so y the hell not. GRRRRR Nads thats a toughy

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It is a toughie isnt it hun! I like what you said about waiting to see if he guesses though, that would be fun hehe!

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Yeah...and actually although he joked about wanting to see my new assets, when I actually said - go on then, have a look!! - he said no, he'd rather wait til they were all healed. Think he's a bit worried about what he might discover, about how bruised or sore they may look! But I was happy to be able to bide a bit more time. They certainly wouldn't have been up to ANY touching, anyway! Ouch!

I think the suggestion of "I was waiting to see if you'd notice" is a brilliant one by the way...then you don't have to tell him until you really need to and you don't look dishonest...

C x

Personally, if it was me... I wouldn't tell him yet. I was naturally shy about my pre-op boobs, but didn't make them a special topic of conversation... I think I'd go with the flow, so to speak. I'm not saying don't tell him... but maybe just not yet. You're the "whole package" Nads... 'love me, love my boobs' sort of thing.
It's your choice hun. All the best.

Angel xxx

it is a toughie like you sad nads but .....
i think if you tell him now then its done and i guess if his reaction is a bad one then at least it wasnt serious, coz if you fall in love with him and he doesnt approve you will be more hurt in the long run. Saying that not alot of men are old fashioned now adays so he will most likely approve and love them to bits lol. i just think that if it is on your mind then you should get it out of the way with so you can relax abit more whilst in his company if ya know what i mean.
this is just what i would do tho, i think you should do which ever suits you best.
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amanda
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Angelpie wrote:You're the "whole package" Nads... 'love me, love my boobs' sort of thing.
It's your choice hun. All the best.

Angel xxx

Yeah thats so true hun, thanks for the advice xxx

weichardt wrote:it is a toughie like you sad nads but .....
i think if you tell him now then its done and i guess if his reaction is a bad one then at least it wasnt serious, coz if you fall in love with him and he doesnt approve you will be more hurt in the long run.

This is a good point hun and i was thinking i really dontwant to fall for someone and then get rejected, it would hurt alot. You're right about guys been more open to stuff like that these days.

I was thinking to ask him some subtle questions, but then he may try and please me by answering how i want to hear like 'ooh fake boobs are horrible' so that might not work hmmm

Thanks hunny xxxx

yes i know i was going to suggest the same thing but i figured he might reply with something he thinks you want to here. on the other hand if he did that it would show how much he liked you.
im just a big fan off "honesty is the best policy" i think im the old fashioned one lol

I can hear what you're saying... but I stand by the statement that you're more than just a pair of boobies... if he doesn't like you for who you are... then (I know it's easy for me to say)... he's not worth it! If they make you happy, that should make him happy.

Ax

weichardt wrote:yes i know i was going to suggest the same thing but i figured he might reply with something he thinks you want to here. on the other hand if he did that it would show how much he liked you.
im just a big fan off "honesty is the best policy" i think im the old fashioned one lol

Yeh me too hun, im very old fashioned! i feel like im just going to blurt it out one day! hehe i wont do it over the phone, i'll definately do it in person so i can see his reaction. The other day he said he went the gym and worked on his pecs and the next day it felt like he had huge breast implants, i was like he he he

Angelpie wrote:I can hear what you're saying... but I stand by the statement that you're more than just a pair of boobies... if he doesn't like you for who you are... then (I know it's easy for me to say)... he's not worth it! If they make you happy, that should make him happy.

Ax

I really agree with you too hun, i've had enough guys put me down about my chest so im not standing for it anymore! Maybe its best to tell him early on then so i know if he still sticks around and it doesnt bother him x

Hey Nads

I think you are worrying needlessly, babes. Like Angel says, you're the whole package, and I don't think you having implants is going to make much difference to how he feels about you.

I think you should play it by ear ... if you feel you WANT to tell him, then do, but if you don't feel ready then wait.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Maria
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Thanks hunny, its true, he'll probably be like 'Really? ok cool' and that'll be it!!! :lol:

I really worried about telling the guy I'm seeing. I told him one night via a text conversation after a few glasses of cava!! He replied - "Really? That's brave! You're not going too big are you?" And then....."When do I get to inspect them?!"

He's done nothing but take the mick out of me (in a nice way though!!) - any chance to crack a boobie joke! But it makes me laugh and I can talk quite openly about it with him. Haven't shown him yet though!.....

C x

_Carrie_ wrote:I really worried about telling the guy I'm seeing. I told him one night via a text conversation after a few glasses of cava!! He replied - "Really? That's brave! You're not going too big are you?" And then....."When do I get to inspect them?!"

He's done nothing but take the mick out of me (in a nice way though!!) - any chance to crack a boobie joke! But it makes me laugh and I can talk quite openly about it with him. Haven't shown him yet though!.....

C x

Yeh i can imagine the guy im seeing to respond in the same way, to be honest i would prefer to tell him before i get attached just in case he says something negative, that way i wont care! x

Definitely. I REALLY like my new man but......if he doesn't like my new boobs, then that's it! I'm sorry but I love my boobs more than any guy!!! LOL And now I've finally got the confidence to go out and get someone who really deserves me if this one turns out to be no good!

C x

You go girl!!

_Carrie_ wrote:I'm sorry but I love my boobs more than any guy!!!

Hell yes, me too!!

Hey hun, he has to go out with you, not with your boobs! Like everything else bout you, he will discover it when the time is right, you don't have to feel obliged to tell him anything you don't feel comfortable with. The same as you wouldn't immediately tell him every other detail about you! It's not some sort of dirty secret, it's part of who you are now. If someone gets put of by something so harmless about you then he is not right for you. By the way, I don't know of ANY man that has EVER actually been put off by fake boobs!!! they might realise they are fake, they may say they feel different, but they still like them! Honestly men are easy in that sense, I reckon it's a big deal only in your head but it wouldn't be for him!

Well said moonmar!

moonmar wrote:The same as you wouldn't immediately tell him every other detail about you! It's not some sort of dirty secret, it's part of who you are now

Its so true how, great point thanks to be honest im not worried that much because im not that into him yet so maybe this is a good time to tell him just in passing conversation lol x

well, if you are not so into him, then don't worry - if you tell him his reaction might actually be a good test! if it's positive it may make you like him more and if not, it may make you think he is a loser and not waste any more time!!

Lol exactly! Thanks hun x