Why did you/are you getting get a boob job?

I'm having mine done purely for me, I've never been happy with my boobs although past boyfriends and my hubby have never complained (to be honest I don't think they'd dare!!!). Anyway I'm 30 early next year and thought I'd treat myself to something that I really want. I just want to be able to wear normal bras not bras stuffed with chicken fillets.
I swear when I go holiday my case weighs a ton and is half full with padded bras and chicken fillets :lol: xxx

Ive always felt I had some grannys left overs plonked on my chest after having my first child who I breastfed for a year at 17. They never felt like they belonged to me, alien in fact, so much so I just ignored them like they didnt exist because I hated them that much.
Now I finally have a womans body to be proud of and its really quite nice!

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I had my first baby at 19 then had 2 more in my 20s and my boobs just got worse after each pregnancy!! I never minded my small boobs but when they were empty small boobs I hated them - I wore gel bras 24/7 - to the gym, in bed etc and bought ultimo gel bikinis for my hols - I just hated them - I wouldn't even take my kids swimming coz I wouldn't wear a bikini incase I saw anyone I knew at the pool!! My hubbys never complained but I felt it was something I had to do for me - and I must say aside from having kids it is the best thing I've ever done!
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claire265 wrote:I had my first baby at 19 then had 2 more in my 20s and my boobs just got worse after each pregnancy!! I never minded my small boobs but when they were empty small boobs I hated them - I wore gel bras 24/7 - to the gym, in bed etc and bought ultimo gel bikinis for my hols - I just hated them - I wouldn't even take my kids swimming coz I wouldn't wear a bikini incase I saw anyone I knew at the pool!! My hubbys never complained but I felt it was something I had to do for me - and I must say aside from having kids it is the best thing I've ever done!
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did your husband know about the gel and how did he feel?
I always feel fake if I wear padded/gel/push-up, but then I feel hideous if I don't, so...

_Carrie_ wrote:It was 100% worth it, for me. I've only told a few people I trust, and they've all been fantastic about it. They were shocked at first as I kept my feelings all to myself for all these years...I finally feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I can finally be myself. Cheesy, but really true!

I think others may be guessing, but let them. I'd still never regret it - even if people were laughing behind my back I honestly wouldn't care.

And as for the pain, TOTALLY manageable. It was nowhere near as bad as I imagined - more discomfort and the annoyance of not being able to do things. I was back to normal life (albeit carefully) by 11 days po and felt really good after 3 weeks.

So yes, all worth it for me and I'd do it again tomorrow. (But would rather not as I'm enjoying the ones I have too much!)
I know what you mean....for all those years I felt such a freak, and everytime I felt unhappy I felt vain and selfish, as I had so much else to be thankful for. It's fantastic to hear that you're not alone in these thoughts. If I'd found forums like this years ago I'd have had my op a long, long time ago....but at the same time glad I waited to have my children as now my body's just for me.

C x

How old are you?
I'm SO worried about telling my parents, the one time I tried to express how I felt when I was 16 to my mum I ended up crying and she labelled me as "pathetic" for crying over boobs. People who have been blessed with boobs just don't understand how much an impact it can have over your life :(
So it's not been mentioned again. I feel so ungracious yearning for boobs because I have a loving family, I'm at uni, friends, etc...but I still don't feel complete, I still feel in this stage of which I can't transition into a woman due to my chest.

What size did you go from?
If I do get it I want to make sure mine is subtle and natural. I don't want big boobs, just to HAVE them and be in proportion!

And the pain really isn't that terrible?
I just have fears of complications and unmanagable pain...!

Thanks.

I had mine done to feel complete.... and thats what I do feel now...they are not noticable in clothes and noone has said anything as I just look the same ...minus the padding.

But I can undress without shame, do all the things I missed out on and feel happy about me now. It's great even having a shower and not washing bones and skin :lol:

But not a decision I took lightly...but certainly a long long time to do it :evil: should have done it thirty years ago.!!

I think you sound a very sensible and thoughtfull girl and I can understand how your Mum must feel too. Perhaps, I might have felt that way if my daughter at your age suggested it...I dont know?. But being a Mum is such a difficult role sometimes. You are tied between Love and setting an example!! I wish you well!! Take care xx

mia wrote:I had mine done to feel complete.... and thats what I do feel now...they are not noticable in clothes and noone has said anything as I just look the same ...minus the padding.

But I can undress without shame, do all the things I missed out on and feel happy about me now. It's great even having a shower and not washing bones and skin :lol:

But not a decision I took lightly...but certainly a long long time to do it :evil: should have done it thirty years ago.!!

I think you sound a very sensible and thoughtfull girl and I can understand how your Mum must feel too. Perhaps, I might have felt that way if my daughter at your age suggested it...I dont know?. But being a Mum is such a difficult role sometimes. You are tied between Love and setting an example!! I wish you well!! Take care xx

So, you don't regret it at all - that's good to know. I hate the thought of anyone seeing me naked as they'd be disgusted. My best friend always tries to console me and says I'm not flat - but I know I am, I sometimes wonder if she really knows the extent of how ugly and unwomanly I really am, although she told me that she herself would get a boob job as she wants to bigger - she's a D - I'm an A! If D is too small then an A, well, that's a poor excuse for a woman...!

I understand she's being a mother but on quite a few occasions she has upset me with reference to my chest. I.e. "you're very slender on top," "it might be better if you had a bit more there," "you can do exercises to improve" and "your sister's much bigger than you on top..."
Argh, I don't know if she's aware that she's doing it - I doubt it, but it's incredibly embarrassing. I just know that she would say I was vain if I were to tell her but I'm really not, at 13 I remember being dissatisfied with my size but believed I'd grow and forgot about it but I have felt truly disgusted with myself since I was 16 and my boyfriend told me no one would ever like me but him due to how flat I am...nearly 4 years later I have not grown, if anything I've got flatter...
it's certainly not a decision made on impulse, I've been deliberating over it for years and just feel so confused as I don't want to be perceived as superficial but at this rate I will end up sabotaging yet another relationship due to my own self disgust and insecurities.
There's this guy I've liked for ages and I'm meeting him for a date soon and I know sooner or later I shall blow it before he can reject me. It's ridiculous!

Glad to know BA has changed some people's lives.

I think you know what is right for you!! xx

I truly relate to what you say!! I have not had 'very unthoughfull horrible' things said to me about my lack of bust thankfully. Statements like you have endured do stay with you and hit your confidence badly. I would always be aware of others feelings and you can normally 'sense' a no go area with people you care about. At the same time, I am not sure that anyone who does not feel the same about their lack of development could fully understand how you perceive yourself, rightly or not.

My daughter actully supported me, telling me to research, research, reseach Mum!! in a very pleasant and caring way... I am soo lucky!!! I think we have role reversal in my 'mid' years she's a star xx She is naturally blessed with a fantastic figure as well as character!!


All I can say is that I do not have one single regret, apart from not doing it many years ago, and would do it again tommorrow, I have lots of lost years behind me. But, today and the years ahead are faced with confidence in me. And, all the health and moral aspects were carefully considered....not other peoples opinions.

People will always have something to say no matter what we do, but, you have to live your life for you.

My Mum is unaware of my op. by the way, only my daughter and closest friend know. It was too personal a decision for me to share with anyone.

Just keep posting and asking questions...nothing is silly or strange!! we have all been there. It will help you make the right decision for you, for some it is to be happy as they are. Be easy on yourself xx

I don't think it's vanity that drives most of us to even consider a BA, it's a confidence thing, well for me it was. I always knew I wanted one. I was told by my mother that I would grow, but she never did, well not until she had HRT tablets in her 50's. And to be honest, I just didn't want to wait that long.
I always had big hips and was a pear shape. I lost weight to try and lose my huge bum and hips, but even now as a size 12 on the bottom and a 10-12 on top, I still have big hips, big bum and big legs, but was really small on top. I feel much more evened out now. I am more confident in the clothes I buy and am happier with my size. The only insecurities I have lost are the ones about my boobs, the others are still there. Having a BA will not change the person that you are. But it does give me the incentive to look after myself and take care of my appearence. Which gives me more confidence and lessens the feeling of inadequency. Sometimes we can focus all of our attention on one thing, thinking if we can fix this about ourselves then we would be happier our relationships will be brilliant etc. But we also have to work on our self esteem, and feeling good about ourselves. A BA is not a quick fix and any underlying insecurities such as feeling not good enough will still be there.
I'm not sure if I'm explaining myself properly, sorry. I had a BA and it is the best thing I've had done, But it didn't fix all my issues, I still focus on other parts of me that I don't like, but it has given me the womanly figure I've always wanted. It hasn't made my relationship perfect and I still worry that I'm not good enough, pretty enough. Will he leave me for someone better. You have to learn to love yourself. My BA has got me one step closer to loving myself, but I'm still working towards it. It's all a state of mind. If it will help you on your journey through life and make you happy then do it. But you should stop thinking of yourself as disgusting. These men are interested in you, for who you are and how you look now. Stop worrying about being rejected for breast size alone. If they really like you, it will not matter. You wouldn't want someone who was only interested in you for how you look and how big your boobs are. So let them get to know you and stop worring about chest size. Get a BA if you really really want it. My O/H loves my new boobs, but didn't care that I didn't have boobs. He just wanted me to be happy. So let your guard down and let men get to know you, if they are bothered by boob size get rid of them, they aren't worth your time. Sounds like someone has hurt you very badly in the past.

I'm having mine done as after having two babies they look like they have stretched, like those old sketches of old women who's boobs stick out he bottom of their skirts :) , so its almost like I pour them into my 34D bra. My upper pole has nothing there anymore, so when I like down my boobs disappear under my armpits. I cannot wait for the day when my OH goes to give them a kiss , that he doesn't have to lift them back up first. Hate that, big turn off for me. Also they get v sweaty underneath when not wearing a bra, especially in this humid weather, and finally when I run up and down stairs braless, they audiably slap my waist. Think that enough reasons. God I can't wait.. 3 days to go yippee

I'm 29 hun...and I went from literally nothing. I looked like a 12 year old boy before, and after having my kids/losing weight I looked even worse. I know exactly what you mean about feelings of disgust when looking in the mirror, and sabotaging relationships/feeling unworthy. When I compare it to how confident and outgoing I am now, it's incredible...both in everyday life and sexually. I'm the person I always wanted to be but never thought I would be.

Every time I worried that having a ba was vain or too expensive, I just stripped off, looked in the mirror - and then I knew I couldn't live like that anymore. Now I love looking in the mirror!!!

C x

.x. i just did it because I wanted it for myself...it wasn't a confidence thing really because I wasn't unconfident before, and I don't feel like my confidence has increased since having it done...its just more of a case that its made me happier about myself...i used to look at myself both in and out of clothes and was annoyed by the lack of boobs!! now i've gone ahead with it I feel happy and more in proportion...was most definately a present to myself as my then boyfriend actually didn't like the idea much and even though he was supportive once he realised I was going ahead with it anyway, he would constantly say he thought it was unneccessary .x.

I got mine done due to sagging after having 2 kids
I did it to feel comfortable with myself and to get some confidence xx

Haha I went to get a spray tan today and the lady kept encouraging me to go topless, ha, no way! I'd rather have huge white patches...which, I do now...horrible tan lines...but I just couldn't bear to let her see my flatness!
My sister was speaking to my Mum about boob jobs today and my Mum was saying how much she detested it because it looks "so fake" and "round," it's "disgusting" and she doesn't understand why you'd add a foreign body to yourself...
argh
to make things worse, my sister said to me that it was alright for me because I was "flat chested like paris hilton" and it's better to be really small or big, instead of in the middle - like her. I don't want big boobs, I just want to HAVE boobs, to be in proportion! It's like, if I'm having a fat day and am PMT e.g. TODAY - just the fact that I have no boobs and am really bloated, ergh, it just looks simply repugnant!
I'm going on holiday tomorrow with my family and my tanlines, I'm just hoping this might be the last year I have to tolerate with this...

Ive booked mine because i've never been happy with them...
I have quite a curvy bum and upto have nothing to balance it out - always felt like i was out of proportion.

I have always wanted boobs but always had partners who told me that they would be fake, would feel awful and were unsexy. My OH now is soo supportive he doesnt mind either way but understands that i would feel more confident, womanly and sexy if i was cuvey up top. I have support from family and OH makes huge difference.

My biggest fear at the moment is what if i get it done and im still unhappy with myself? as ive been convinced for years this is the root of my lack of confidence.

I really cannot wait now til the big day!!

well i had mine done as i always hated having tiny boobs and felt very unfeminine and inadequate.
i remember when i was 15 i was out with my first bf walking down the road when a busty girl walked past on the other side and he said to me, why can't you have big boobs like her.
well that was my confidence destroyed and from that day on i felt that no guy would ever find me attractive.
i had my first b/a after i had my 3rd son, i went from an a to a large b which to begin with was great, just to have some boobs.
i grew used to them though and was still way smaller than most girls with real boobs so started to feel insecure again and wanted bigger.
i had me second b/a last year taking me to a d in measurement but looking a c and also my left implant was placed far too much over to the left so it was almost under my armpit and i felt like a freak.
so back for a re op and this time i did alot of research and looked at many girls pics etc and changed to overs and also went up a size and now, well i just love these babies so much and i'm always looking at and feeling them lol, much to the amusement of my oh.
he has always told me he loves me the way i am and didn't want me to go ahead but he loves them even more now and the fact that i am finally happy with them.
i feel sexy and feminine now, i would never have worn bikinis or little tops, now i love wearing them i feel great.
xxxx

For me it's the results of breastfeeding and weight loss, I just want back what I had before kids x

Hi there

I'm exactly the same as kay.

I'm 32 had 4 beautiful kids who have sucked me dry. Didn't have much to begin with a/b cups pre kids. They always went up to a dd when breast feeding so i got to experience bigger boobs and i was great. As soon as i stopped feeding i got my fried eggs back!

My hubby is fab he says he loves me for me and the boobs were never an issue but for me although i didn't show it in the bedroom i used to cringe inside everytime he put his hands on my chest!

Also the same as Kay i had mine done very quickly after booking everything felt right i'm a big believer in trusting your instinct. (It's helped me save the life of my little boy on more than one occassion, but thats another story!) I liked my surgeon from the first meeting and felt very comfortable with the company so i went for it. My mind was made like Kay.

I have no regrets i love my new look.
xxx

angelkitten1 wrote:well i had mine done as i always hated having tiny boobs and felt very unfeminine and inadequate.
i remember when i was 15 i was out with my first bf walking down the road when a busty girl walked past on the other side and he said to me, why can't you have big boobs like her.
well that was my confidence destroyed and from that day on i felt that no guy would ever find me attractive.
xxxx

OMG, i TOTALLY know how you feel. I never realised it was so disgusting until my bf told me it was. I never even thought of a boob job before until him...
I always feel really manly and hunch in attempts to conceal my shape, not only that - I'm quite curvy so I look really ridiculous! How old were you when you got them done? Did it hurt a lot?

well i was 25 when i had my first b/a and no it didn't really hurt at all tbh, just uncomfortable but i was too excited to have boobs to care about that bit.
now i may get shot down here for saying this but....i know we have b/a s for our self and to make us feel better etc etc BUT i still think alot of it is to do with guys and i said to my oh if there was no men left in the world, only women then i don't honestly think we would have a b/a.
i may be wrong but we wouldn't be feeling bad about our bodies then i don't think as we wouldn't be judged at all.
just my opinion of course but i def think it's mainly down to men and the way they percieve women, the media too but then the mags wouldn't sell if it weren't for the men buying them.
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Yeah, if men didnt go on about womens bodies in the way that they do, we would have no need to feel this way. It'd probably never cross our minds at all!

Is it true if the smaller the implant - less pain????

nope definately not hunny, this is my 3rd, i started with 350 unders then went up to 525 unders now i have changed to 700 overs and tbh this time was the least painful of all 3.
probably because i had overs this time but even so none of them were terribly painful, just achey.
xxx

I was the last of my friends to develop and even then I didn't get very far! :sad:
I vowed to myself when I was 16 that I'd get a boob job as soon as I'd saved up enough. Having practically non-existent breasts is something I've always been so self-conscious of, and I've always worn padded bras and gel bras which don't even fit properly. It's held me back in so many ways, so now I really can't wait for this to change!!
So basically, I'm doing it to feel like a woman rather than a little girl, to fill out bras and wear all those clothes I've always dreamed of buying but have never been able to :lol:.
But mostly I hope it'll give me that little boost of confidence I think I need xx