not bonding with new boobs

i am feeling a little sad as I am just not bonding at all with my new additions   

is there anybody else out there feeling any regret - is this normal??!!

i have to wear a sports bra for 6weeks day and night (not sure why though) and i have tape to keep on my scars for a few weeks but basically is just feel

1. there are not as big as i thought they would be - at no point did i ever have boob greed - all my other concerns were cc/under/over and i just settled with the 415cc implant although i was told due to my frame (5ft 9 and size 10/12 at 10st 6) i could have bigger (450cc).  I said to surgeon i wanted fullness in upper pole but when i went out past few times and i have my top on over my sports bra i just feel they are not big enough for my frame - maybe if i was a stone lighter they would but i dont really want to lose a stone.  This is the main thing getting to me - i am just wondering after paying all this money will i still have to wear big push up padded bras to make them look in proportion to my height/weight    I felt even worse when my mate said oh they are not big at all are they - was gutted!

2. My boobs just feel to unnatural to the touch (bootom part numb and nipples majorly sensitive)  i know i am not even 3weeks post op but i am just feel pretty crappy about them.  Also i think when the drop 'fluff' they will look even smaller!!

3.  they are sitting very far apart and just dont move at all - i am actually scared to touch them and i just dont like looking at them, i cant wait to get my bra back on - they just do not feel part of me at all!

i know its probably how i am feeling being couped up and not being able to excercise (which majorly affects my mental state of mind) as i am a fitness fanatic!!  i Havent eveb done excercises at home - iv just felt so sad and full of regret from getting this done.

Maybe i should just get to gym and do lower body stuff and abs tomorrow to see if this releases endorphins to make me feel better!!  

i am hoping all these emotions will pass - i just would never want to go through another op to get them bigger (plus i dont think that is even an option unless i want to pay again)  I am hoping come summer when i get to wear vest tops etc i will feel better but just now when i wear anything i just doent feel they are big enough and my bust looked bigger in my padded push up bras!

Maybe there are others out there feeling a but crappy too and its not just me   

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Oh misskaren, I have had post op blues for the first few weeks.. But now I'm over the moon xx

Give it some time darling and you'll love them, I promise 

 

Hi

The sports bra is horrible but now i cant wear one this time im missing it sooooo much, whenu come out that ur boobs won't be squished and held in position like they are now

The look.u have now is not what i will end up with

Patience is 100% needed in.this journey ive learned to NEED to have it over the past year looool

U will get used to.themxx

thanks blondie and tinks, i am just reading all these post that people put on the love thei boobs and taking pics etc etc.

i honestly have hardly felt or even looked at them - they just feel and look awful and just upset they arent very big at all with clothes on and just dont want to be wearig padded bras in the future if they drop. ahhhh

is it only people with overs that usually wear sports bras and the unders you need to have the muscle release the boob.

I have no idea why i need to wear this bra constantly - forgot to ask.  hating the back pains i am getting too and sleeping on my side is really hard - i am just very grumpy about it all!!    
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No.i.had unders last time wasin sports bra 24/7 for 6 weeks then night til 12 weeks. I cant wait to get back into one. The pressure of the bamdand weight of my boobs with no support is so uncomfortable 

Ur still early post op LOADS of changes to come and u will start to like them soon. Im not a fan of mine yet over a year post op but can see a dif after my reop xx

What you're feeling and experiencing isn't something we haven't heard here before Karen so please don't feel alone.

For a long time myself after my second surgery I felt very disconnected from my boobs and didn't think I'd ever have love for them. But I do and so did those before me as will those after me....including you   

As for your 'mate' well... To be honest, that's not much of a mate at all is she hun. You've just had surgery - what you have now is NOTHING like your final result and she's telling you that!!! Well, I can't wait till you finish healing babe, I really can't and please let us know what she says then HMMMMPH!

The reason you have to wear a sportsbra for 6 weeks babe is to give your boobs stability. They need this stability because they need time to adhere to the breast pocket and if they're moving around, then the textured surface just won't be able to embed itself, so in giving your boobs stability, the implant can embed itself into the breast tissue  and become 'part of you'

You boobs do feel alien at first. This is the same for ALL of this. How long this last is different from person to person dependent on healing hun. Its a huge adjustment having a BA. Not only physically, but mentally also. 

As much as you think you read ore-op, I don't think anyone is really quite prepared for what is the hardest part of the journey and that's the recovery. Its never quite what we expect. We read about wonky boobs, numb boobs, sore nipples, wide agony cleavages etc... But when it comes to ourselves, we still expect to have our 'dream boobs' those things happen to other women...not to us. Well your not alone hun. It happens to most of us and it can sometimes take a while to love your new additions.

Please don't go to the gym without your surgeons consent hun - not only do you jeopardise your healing, but if you do any damage you could make your aftercare void, so please don't act rashly hun.

It sounds to me as though you have the booby blues... This isn't limited to straight after surgery. It can happen to anyone of us at anytime during our recovery, so I hope knowing that it better helps you understand why all these emotions and feeling are running so high right now. When you have the booby blues, everything is magnified and even the smallest of things can seem huge and you have no control at all over it.

Right now sweetheart, you have two rocks stuck on your chest, that don't move, don't feel, don't do anything,.. They're just there!

But I PROMISE you, in time, your boobs are going to feel like a part of you. Sensation will return and movement will come naturally. As your boobs drop you may even think they getting smaller - MANY women panic during this time and think their boobs are shrinking - they're not. What's happening is that that they're filling out the breast starting in the lower pole... As this happens you'll see a swell in the breasts. You can see an example of this [You must be registered and logged in to see this link.]


Then...when you're able to wear wires there's really no need for the highly padded bras at all, but you will need a bra that is created to help you achieve a full upper pole look. Once in that bra those babies will show what they can really do for you hun so I wouldn't worry about your 'mate' thinks. She's in for a shock after your healing hun.

Its not 'natural' to always have a full upper pole, to have that you'd need implants that would be way out of proportion for your body and for a first BA, nine out of ten times, if you wanted a 'fake' look this just isn't possible. But wearing a push up bra CAN help you achieve that and as I said earlier.... There's no need for the padding. 

Learning how to dress your boobs is another adventure in itself Karen. At first, many of us can feel our boobs look small 'when dressed' but that's because they don't yet know how to dress to get the best of their boobs. This comes with time too. Some mistakes along the way may be made, but we all come to find our own style that suits our own bodies.

For me pre-op I would disguise my upper body and wear clothing that would skim over my silhouette...afterwards, I just looked shocking and had to shop for a shape that suited my new body and I found fitted clothing that accentuated my new bust suited me so much better and its THEN that I came to love my boobs. The day I found my NEW self.

Its in there Karen, just waiting to come out and good things ARE coming your way sweetie, it just takes 'time' and 'patience' which is an absolute bugger because they're something not many of us are good at waiting on at all lol.

So hang in there babe. We're here for you and talking DOES help, so please do come and tell us how you're feeling and if we can... We WILL get you through this  

Aww sorry to read that hunny, but aa few weeks post op there nothing like what you're going to see in the months to come. 

I had to wear a sports bra day and night for 6 weeks, it's to keep your boobs nice and stable whilst healing. 

Your boobs will drop into place and become fuller and more natural looking not smaller Hun. 

Most ladies boobs are quite numb, it can take over a year for full sensation to return (I'm over a year and my left nipple and under on is still numb!) 

They will look far apart at the moment again kept in a sprts bra for stability and not having a lot of mov,emt at the moment is very normal. Over the next few weeks the will start to soften and start to gain some movement. Don't be too caught up looking at the 'negatives' Hun, as it's just the healing process. It'll all come good in the end Hun and you'll love your boobs x  

Just to add it's the bra that actually gives the justice to our boobs plunge and balconette bras are designed to shape the boobs. X

thanks sooooo much cookie and mrsball that is soooo made me feel better - especially that pic cookie!!  wow!!!  

mines look exactly like the 1st pic.  i have hate them so much i cant even bear to take off my bra and try bikini tops etc on but i am sure i will bond with them soon enough after reading your posts.

i'm ok to do lower body excercise my surgeon said thats ok so think i will do gym tomorrow and do cross trainer with no arm movement and bike.

I had my dressings taken off and my stitches were dissolvable and nurse said my scars are very neat but my bra is rubbing on the tape and making it really uncomfortable so i am just feeling crappy about it all.  Also the fact I cant even go and get measured just now or anything.

like you say patience is what i need and i am normally ok but i was just reading all these girls on here happy straight away with their new boobs i had to come off here as i was so upset i had made the wrong decision getting a ba done, as i did love my boobs before its just i wanted them bigger to suit my frame.

thanks soooo much i feel chirpier already after reading these posts and seeing that pic!!
        
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I'm glad you're feeling better Karen   

For the irritation on your incisions, try using a panty liner or sanitary towel (sticky side against your bra) and use that to as a nice soft cushion for your incisions hun - this really helps lots even if it does sound a little funny lol. Xx

you truly are a wealth of knowledge cookie!! i will do cheers hunni   

can i ask the pic you sent me of the fluffing what size of implant that is with that girl..?

i have just txt a girl i know the link to this forum as she is booked in for Jan with the same surgeon and it feeling really scared about it all too.

xx

Charfaye had 300CCs high profile, overs hun.

Awwww I'm so happy to read you've recommended us to your friend Karen. Not only do we appreciate it but we take that as a great compliment, so thank you Karen. That really means a lot  

i just think when she reads some of your posts she will feel soooo much better.

i think the problem with alot of these forums is everyone listens to others too much and what 'they' do but its really important we all follow our surgeons.  i would read and think OMG that person has been told to massage or not wear a bras etc etc and freak out thinking why am i not when its all individual to us and you always explain this and give reasons which is the so refreshing!xx

    

Sorry to hear you're feeling crappy about your boobs... But Glad these lovely ladies have made you feel better. 

If your boobs are like those in that pic then your results could be so different soon. Hope you can love them soon and enjoy them. Bugger your mate btw xx

P.s can't believe the difference in those 2 pics cookie. It's great to see how they can and do change xx

thanks jenpops - i cant wait till they look more like that pic too - its really made me feel better seeing it!!
your pic looks awesome too!   x

misskaren wrote:i just think when she reads some of your posts she will feel soooo much better.

i think the problem with alot of these forums is everyone listens to others too much and what 'they' do but its really important we all follow our surgeons.  i would read and think OMG that person has been told to massage or not wear a bras etc etc and freak out thinking why am i not when its all individual to us and you always explain this and give reasons which is the so refreshing!xx

    

We do try hard to have a 'no sugar coating' policy and try to get the message across both before and after surgery what an 'individual thing' this is for each of us and how important it is to choose the right surgeon and then trust that surgeon and their advise for themselves as an individual so its great to read that message is coming across and 'for you' and I hope others too from the admin team here that you feel comforted by that approach. 
Its always nice to get some feedback and that was lovely to read Karen - Thank you  

Sorry you are feeling like this, but you won't be the only one. I was euphoric the first week, so relieved the operation was over and pleased to have boobs.

The last few days i have been feeling similar to you. I'm sick of the aching, sports bra, sleeping badly etc. My boobs look worse than immediately after the Op, the skin has gone really dry and my tapes itch   (i also have to wear tape and bra for 6 weeks). However, i am just keeping them tucked away in the trusty Macom and having faith that in a few weeks i will be really pleased with them again. I'm sure in a couple of weeks you will love them. 

XXXX  

Hi misskaren I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling like this. I know exactly how you are feeling and unfortunately I am now 8 weeks post reop and still feeling this way. I am full of regret and feel sick and tearful every time I let them creep into my thoughts. However I have problems with my left that are really getting me down. I am sure once you are a couple more weeks in you will feel a million times better hun, booby blues is not nice but once all the pain is gone you will start feeling much better xxx

misskaren wrote:thanks jenpops - i cant wait till they look more like that pic too - its really made me feel better seeing it!!
your pic looks awesome too!   x

Thanks hon...I'm sure it won't be long for you..just try and enjoy them a little in the meantime, experiment with old bras or bikinis    X

Hi Karen, how are you feeling today hun? You should have a read through some of the older month Buddy threads and you'll come across so many girls feeling same as you at this stage and then a few weeks later they seem to fall in love with their boobs.
I fell out with mine yesterday as well, my right boob is annoying me as it doesn't seem to be moving down like my left and it's slightly smaller. I spent too long looking in mirror over analysing them and then I took a huff, lol. I feel better today after I had another look at my pre ba pics last night and a little TLC from my Hubby.x

thanks ladies you are all sooo sweet. yeah i suppose i am just gona need to wait and see how they are when they drop n fluff.  i took some pics today in a bikini but not sure if i can upload from my iphone.  if it has to be a laptop i cant as its my work laptop and dont want boobie pics on there!!

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Miss Karen your avi looks fabulous and very boobilious! They look amazing already Hun, even if I am viewing from upside down!   
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thanks chick,

i just dont see them looking very big at all, all my shirts and coats i would wear (size 10) i was sure i would not be able to button them with my new boobs and i still can - i will just need to get over this size issue for now and wait till they are fully settled.

xx

Oh misskaren, ur boobies look amazing on ur avi, just the right size for ur body xx

OMG Karen. You need to get those specs on and start loving them beautiful boobs!! 

Just saying  

thanks girls - hopefully they will feel like they are mines soon and i can have a wee feel and squeeze they are just so alien to me right now!!

xx