Boy Troubles

Ok so my BF decides to dump me the evening before my consultation!!!

I now get to go through this whole journey on my own, which should be fun, being as I need to get to and from my BA as a day case (and no I can't afford to go as an overnight). I know I have you guys to share my worries with but now I'll have no one to share my actual boobies with!!!! I know its not the point, this has always been about and for me and the way I feel about my breasts - never a man. I already put if off for a man once and I'll be stuffed if I'm going to do that again.

I feel miserable and I'm meant to be excited. It's been awhile coming. There's a large age gap, but I adore him, unfortunately I seem to spend 70% of my life reassuring him I love him and won't leave him for a younger man! He spends 50% of his time looking for reasons to argue with me and subsequently chuck our relationship away! When we're good we're amazing, but he's so negative so often it exhausting!

Sorry for the rant, just feel crappy and scared 

Aw no sorry to hear that. You have to be strong.
Do you have any family who can do with you to you final consultations?

Take it from a single girl. You don't need a man who is going to make you feel like crap and pick petty arguments.

Stay strong and remember you are having this surgery for you and not for any man. There's no need to be afraid x

You rant away babe... What a complete and utter sh*t to leave you right when you need his support most.

Sounds to me like you're well shot Sassy   he was literally sucking the life out of you hun and now that you're single, you can BREATHE babe!

I know its probably no comfort at all to you right now hun, but in time, you'll look back and see that he actually did you a bloody great big favour.

Call some mates you probably haven't been in contact for a while with because of being in a relationship and have a ball lovely. You have sooooo much to look forward to right now, in just over 3 weeks you're going to have your lovely new boobs and don't let ANYONE spoil this for you hun. There really is a better future ahead of you Sassy and we're here anytime you want to talk babe.

One point I need to make though... You won't be discharged from the hospital without an escort and you'll need someone to be home with you for at least 24 hours when you get home, so you'll need to make plans sweetheart to ensure you have someone there for you.

BIG HUGS

I agree with cookie!! Sounds like he wasn't making you that happy, & to do this when you need him the most really is low.
Have you told many people about your ba? I bet if you tell a close friend or family member they'll be more than happy to help you out on the day & offer support :)
Chin up Hun & although it sucks right now, it'll prob be for the best in the long run.
Go & enjoy your consultation tomorrow, get excited about your boobies & go out & have a good time! 
Sending lots of hugs xx

What a total ****. Best off without him hunni. Start looking forward to your new additions, new life (without him) and have some fun. He'll be the one missing out in the end especially with your new boobies xx

Aw sazzle :-( you must feel completely rubbish at the min! As the other girls say - you have your new boobies to look forward to and he will be the one missing out!!! Hope ur ok chic, sending lots of hugs xxxxx

I know young feel rubbish now Hun, but in fact he's probably done you a favour and look at this as a blessing in disguse. 
You can't live your life in such a draining relationship. It will make you unhappy in the long run. 

Look at this as a new start, new boobs and new single life ! 
I had my 1st ba as a single lady and done it for myself, best thing I ever did. 

As cookie says make sure you have a family member or friend to help you the first week as that's the hardest part. 
And you will need an someone with you to tak would home from hospital. X

Good luck, look fowards , onwards and upwards! 

Do you have any family or a close friend who can go with you? It sounds like the age gap was too much for him, and your better off out of a relationship like that hun! Xx

Thanks girlies xxx 

I don't know what he wants from me bit I've had enough of chasing round after him its exhausting.

Well just getting ready to head to London....... Fingers crossed it all goes as hoped after all this. Wish I didn't feel so deflated! Hmph.

One of my girlfriends from work has said she'll come with me and look after me so at least that's taken care of.

Thanks again girls I really appreciate your support. Xxx

Glad you've got someone to look after you Hun. And good luck today!! Xx

Oh hunni, I'm really sorry to read this, no matter what sort of relationship it was its always hard when they end.
Try and enjoy today Hun and concentrate on making you happy with your new boobies.
Will be thinking of you today.
Lots of love xxx

big hugs sassy xx

It's all control, to make you feel bad. This could be the turning point of your life, so seize it . Xxxx, he's a grown man who should know better. He'll drain you . Time to go, and it's been handed on a plate. You have so much to look forward to . Don't let his insecurities ruin an exciting time and your life x

Now you've got his negativity out of the way you can ENJOY your boobie journey, don't be scard. You don't need a man  He is the fool for letting you go! Especially when you'll have some great boobs soon!!! Xx

Good luck with your appointment today, very exciting - lovely that your friend is going to help after you op.

Look forward to hearing about your consultation today x

If he was already insecure about you wanting a younger man just image what he would be like after your surgery.  Sounds like your well out of it.
If you get really stuck I live in Lancing too I would be happy to take you x

I'm really sorry to hear this. However it's his loss! And you have a fantastic journey ahead of you and you should try and think how great you will feel after surgery with your new body! You deserve someone who will stick by you through thick and thin. I hope you feel better and more excited soon 

Awww Sassy - It really isn't nice when any relationship ends but I promise you, you will get through this emotional period and come out the otherside a stronger person for it.  I know you don't see it, but trust me you WILL :))))

Try and focus on yourself and the exciting times to come on your boobie journey - as long as you've got friends and family around you, you will get through this.  TRY and enjoy your experience today...

Every morning from now on, when you wake up in the morning, the sick and empty feeling will gradually become less and less.  You will wake up eventually and the feeling will have gone and be replaced with positive things... x

Thanks girls, as I spect you've seen the consultation went well so its all systems go now. Just wish I could feel more excited! Feel totally deflated, but I know you're right I'll get through it one way or another.

Jesber that is so so kind of you honey! My friend from work is desperately trying to take the day off to take me and I've asked my cousin as well so hopefully I won't have to take you up on it. I'm so touched by the offer though. We'll have to meet up for a chat and a drink you can tell me about your journey. I'll PM you my number. 

I think its amazing one can take such comfort from a bunch of strangers all sharing the same journey. This forum and you girls have been amazing. I cant thank you enough xxx

What a ****, definetly best off without him. Like everyone says his loss!! Best off out of that sort of draining relationship, wouldnt have been good for your recovery after!!! Hope all goes well with your new additions  
xox

Awh no! At least you can breathe now he sounds a bit paranoid chick lol!! You can enjoy your boobs fully for yourself now though! And show them off in lower cut tops without him getting jealous! HAHAHHA x