Weird Feelings & emotions prior to BA

Hi Girls,

This is probably going to sound a bit strange.. But here goes....

My BA is booked for the 12th July and I know in my heart of heart it is totally the right thing for me as I have wanted it for 10 years and more and have always said once i'd had my children it would be something I would do for me..  Sooooo now my boys are 3 and nearly 5 I've got it all booked.. But guilt (is the only way I can describe it) has kicked in..   I get bursts of excitement but then thats followed by a massive pang of guilt... Guilt for the fact that I will be out of 'mummy' action for at least a couple of weeks, what if something goes wrong etc etc...

Did anyone else have this prior to their BA?  Am so excited at the thought of having boobies but so confused with the guilt I am feeling...

Sorry to waffle on but figured if anyone can help you girls can.. 

Aww Bex i think its so normal!! My BA is booked for september but have wanted it done seriously for over a year and thought about it as an idea for a few years before i looked into it (im 21). I know in the heart of hearts i want this too and its the right thing to do but it doesnt always make it easy and its difficult not too feel guilty or scared.

I worry about if something goes wrong and the fact that its a lifelong commitment to looking after myself and a lot of money. However after years of thinking, this is something i am prepared to do.
I don't have any children but what i would say is dont feel too bad for being out of action while you recover. Your kids can be kept busy with help from your family so they barely notice! Your tell them whatever you see fit (eg hurt back or hurt boobies etc) and that they need to be a little careful!
The confidence and happiness these new boobs will give you will be great for everyone around you including your children who will have a very happy mummy  :)

Good luck Bex xx

hi ya love,  this is a massive rollercoaster journey. it is very natural to have to many thoughts and emotions for and against prior to your surgery. 
It sounds like you are at the stage where the pros outweigh the cons and guide the right thing for you. but like I say it is normal to feel up and down.You have two children that you have put everything into bringing up and maybe it's time for a little you time? maybe write a list of the positives and negative things so you can see them physically?
my day is tomorrow and I have been really up and down today.
everyone on here is always there to offer you support xx

I think for the majority of us mums guilt is a major factor when having a BA, because our natural instinct is to live for our children and not for ourselves. We always come last.

But long gone are the days when women were tied to the kitchen sink with her life over the minute the wedding ring went on the finger.

Today, we live for ourselves and we're just as entitled to be happy as anybody else and if a BA is what's going to make us happy then why ever not?

After all, its a true fact that a happy mummy, makes for happy children

So if you're happy lovely, this in turn will reflect on your children. So don't feel guilty. Look forward to the brighter, happier future both you and your family as a unit will have 'together' xxx

Hey Hun,

The ladies have already provided some good advice.
I would just like to say that you have raised two children, this takes a lot of everything, love, time, patience etc and sometimes you need to do something for you. Life is all about balance and as a mum myself, you'll be surprised how well you a your babies cope and adapt during the healing. 

If this is what you want and it makes you happy then your children benefit from a happy mum.

Good luck with the op and don't dwell on the negatives, focus on the positives :0)

Xx

Oh yes it's perfectly normal to feel like that x I have 7 lovely children, and the guilt took hold quite bad! But I also felt guilty as I hated my boobs so much, I wouldn't go on holiday or swimming or anything with the kids anyway so it was a no win situation x I felt guilty regardless! But on surgery day I didn't feel guilty, I just felt excited about the start of our new life! X

I think all of the responses so far are so lovely and make me feel a lot better about the future when i hopefully have children and will need a re-op xx

Honestly Jennifer, you will know you did the right thing when you have your op x it really is life changing x

Thank you all soo much. I knew you girls would sort me out... Everything you have all said is true..  I have just come back from our family holiday and its good knowing that this will be the last year I had to jump into the pool holding my bikini top incase my fillets fall out... Next year i'll be holding my bikini top because i'll have boobies!!!!!!

Vix85 - Good luck with tomorrow and I hope you enjoy the day as much as the other girls have, will you keep us posted?

xx

Excatly! I look forward to my holiday next year for the same reasons lol :)
When every you have a worry its always great to talk about it here because lots of girls can relate and you always leave feeling better :D xx

oh hunny it is perfectly normal to get pre op jitters, I don't have children but I used inheritence money to pay for my op which also made me feel guilty, I started questioning if it was what i really wanted, even starting to think that my boobs werent so bad after all and i could live with them! it's totally normal and i think everyone goes through it. a BA is an emotianal rollercoaster and you can tell yourself this over and over again but nothing prepares you for how you feel when you actually happens! best of luck for your op hun xxx