Am I mad?!

Oh pixiedust im gutted for you right now, could you ask him to go to a consultation with you? Is there anyone else who could help you with the kids?
Men really don't understand how it makes us feel! Do you really think if you had it done that he wouldn't take time off to help you? Were you having unders or overs? Overs is less recovery time x

I'm sorry things didnt work out how you hoped Pixie.

Is there any hope at all to salvage your marriage? It seems like that might be more important right now than having a BA.

If things can work out and you stay together then maybe you could start talking nd involving your husband in the hope of having a BA.

If you just don't feel the marriage isn't going to work, I know you say you're only together for the kids, but that's not always best for the kids at all hun when both parents are so unhappy.... So maybe you have a few life decisions to make first babe. Get all that sorted and then focus on having your BA.

Wishing you all the best Pixie. Xx

Dove - thanks for your kind words but there is no one else i could ask to help me out and it wouldn't feel right to go ahead with it anyway knowing my husband doesn't support me! I hope you are recovering ok from your surgery and enjoying your new additions!!
Cookie - yes you are totally right, I do have decisions to make and I really do want to try and make my marriage work so that's what I'm gonna focus on right now. Im still determined to get BA sometime but hopefully with the support of hubby!

Thats sounds the best option hun because he may come round to it hopefully but family is more important than boobies if u can be happy but if the booby thing still brings u down he needs to understand its very hard and i have been there. Tool along time for mine to agree eventually he got sick of me tslking bout it and moaning on lolxx

Pixiedust you are totally doing the right thing by trying to salvage your marriage and i respect you for putting your own personal needs to one side and concentrating on your family and marriage. I hope you manage to work things out and get back to a happy place together. As disappointing as it is not to be having your ba, now is just clearly not the right time for it. If you need to talk about anything...not just ba then we are all still here for you hun with our listening ears x x best of luck x x

Hi, Sorry to hear things arnt great at home. The one thing I would say is dont do it as a distraction from other problems. Fixing your unhappiness with your chest wont make anything else feel better and is likely to put even more strain at home.
I have wanted my lift for just over 3 years now but had a break down 2 yrs ago. My marriage was very strained. In my case not because I didnt want to be with my husband as I love him dearly. I was really mentally ill and its taken a long time to recover. At the time I desperately wanted my boobs done but I can honestly say, no matter how much I wanted them it would have absolulty been the wrong time and for the wrong reasons. I didnt want to have to deal with my issues and for a long time did many things to avoided them. Now with my deamons tackled and life being back on track it is finally the right time for me.
You have to look after your self and the children first though. Lifes to short to be unhappy and living a life to make others happy. Do whats right for you and your children, with your boobs and your marriage xxxx

Hey hunni, it sounds as if your husband was sort of blindsided by your decision - and if he's aware of the issues in the marriage (like if he feels the same way you do, that it was strained) then he may have felt it was your first step out the door.

In the alternative, you two have kids together, so he may have just been really worried that what if something happened to you.

Either way, focusing on the marriage first is the best thing, and then make him realize that the boobs are for YOU feeling better about YOURSELF, not about other men, or even him necessarily. It's ultimately your decision. Best of luck xxxx