Friend acting weird

I'm booked up for February and I wasn't sure if I should tell my friends or not my mum said to just keep it secret but I'm going on a girls holiday in August and they might guess and I didn't want to have to deal with it there if they did. Some of my friends were really understanding they know how long my boobs have effected me but 2 of them were really nasty and said if I get my boobs done don't expect them to go out with me they'd be ashamed to be seen with me. I cried for ages last night and should have listened to my mum and kept it to myself but I'm so excited and wanted to tell everyone. Has anybody else's friend been nasty before and were they ok after?

Love Maisy x

Your friends sound very shallow to me. If you had naturally big boobs would they refuse as well? What's to be ashamed aboutt getting your boobs done - I'd definitely be interested to know?! Out of order if they were my friends. Those that mind don't matter. And those that matter don't mind.. <3
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Ah Maisy, that's not nice of your friends . I think you were right to tell them
Before the holiday, wouldn't have been very nice to have had those attitudes abroad away from your family. You can get your head around their comments now. Take no notice of them . Sounds like they are suffering from the Green Eyed Monster to me, ignore the comments xxxx

I know I can't believe they said that to me. I think they're just jealous because they've always had boobs and now I will too and mine might be better.

I've got February on the brain today because I've just booked a weekend away for me and my boyfriend. Im so excited to show him so a nice romantic weekend away with my new boobs should bring a smile to his face haha January 7 th I'm getting my boobs done not February do you think my boobs will be ok to touch then after 2 months? I'm in work with one of the girls now and she's just said my boyfriend will love going away with a blow up doll I've just ignored her. I'm not telling her nothing else now if she's going to be like that. If she said it any louder as well the whole office would know.

Thanx jakki I thort the same as you that it waould be worse if I didn't tell them. Most of them were really good about it tho so I'm hoping the ones that are being funny with me will grow up before we go.

Love Maisy. X

Sounds like major jealousy to me. Just ignore these comments, you arent having this done for them you are doing it for yourself and how does your 'friend' know what your boyfriend likes!!!

argh - that so infuriating - narrow minded know nothing women they are. dont let them spoil it for you sweet. I had a bit of off behaviour from one of my friends but i put it down to jealousy possibly too and a proper lack of understand about why I chose to do it. Since that time she has been fine, a really good friend. Its possible these girls will go off and think about what they said and on their own realise they were very very thoughtless and unkind and also realise they are wrong to make judgements like that. If not, then really they arent the good friends you thought they were.

btw - I went away for a romantic weekend with DH quite soon after my op, just a couple of months, and we had a great time!

People who treat you in that way aren't 'freinds' Maisy. Friends don't treat one another in that way hun.

It sounds like the green eyed monster came to pay them a visit hun, a very ugly trait in a person. I'd personally pity their ignorance babe. You have the majority of your friends supporting you through this and their jealousy will just make them look ridiculous hun. You're right to rise above them sweetheart and without doubt you'll have a ball on holiday with your new boobs and the friends who care about you. The other two just don't matter lovely. Xx

I agree with the girls definitely jealous. They probably have visions in their head of U looking like Jordan in her prime. Tell them to get stuffed and concentrate on ur TRUE friends x

Hi Hun

What a sad post hun , them girls really cannot be very good friends, I agree with the girls above they are obviously jealous !!! I would not worry about what they say and concentrate on yourself and your real friends.

(((BIG HUGS))))

Hi, I just wrote you a reply - but it didn't show.

(in short) Don't call them friends - because friends don't behave like they have. Ignore them.

This is a VERY exciting time for you and don't let girls like that steal your excitment. You are doing a fantastic thing for yourself and you will be so happy with your new boobs - because of the type of people these girls are, they just can't be happy and excited for you.

We are all excited for you - and you should be too. x x x

Some people can be very nasty. I know how you feel as i have this women who is friend of a friend, who found out that I had my boobs done. In front of everyone at the school (picking my son up) she just came over to me asked if i had my TITS done (she is a horrible women) and then walked back to her group of friends and started to shout at me and show with her hands that they look good etc.

hi hun,i told my two best friends b4 my op i was having them done and they did not speak much to me after that and they acted weird around e,and after i had t done they still acted odd and i did not feel close to them, i dont feel like they supported me and i wish now i had not had told them, we are all ok now though but i wish i kept it between me,my boyfriend and y parents. girls can be jelouse and bitchy.......beware who you tell...dont trust anyone xx

p.s i think my friends were scared i wanted massive ones and thought i was only doing it for attention but they have boobs so they dont understand how i felt. i had nothing at all,i was underdevolped,flat as a pancake but i felt they could not be happy/excited for me it upset me alot. xxx

That's whats happening to me Shena they're not talking to me now the one I work with thort it was funny to make a show of me in work and must have told everyone because I got emails of weird boobs off my other work mates I had to laugh it off with them but I was crying inside thank god it's Friday and I've got the weekend to myself I hope they're all ok like your mates after I've had my BA rosygirl this is only the start of it and I'm already dreading going on holiday with them I haven't had them dun yet

Love Maisy x

Ive got to say again, and in agreement with meemoo - dont, please dont let these women take the pleasure from this away from you. Get excited, enjoy it, dont worry about them - this is one of the best and most positive things you will ever do for yourself and so you should enjoy it all. Thing is, given time you'll find out proper if they are worth trying to stay friends with - whether they finally realise they are being thoughtless and actually support you and if not, after the holiday dont bother with them anymore.

BTW I think you did the right thing to laugh it off when they teased you. Only in so much as if you'd reacted badly then theyd know how to tease you in the future if that was how they were going to be and then it could end up getting ugly. It wouldnt be good to get caught shoving a print-out of an email up someones *rude RUDE very rude word* at work would it They are just not worth it.

Enjoy your weekend sweet - put them to the back your mind and daydream about the beautiful new bits youre getting xxx

Some women can be very nasty and i think that's horrible what they did to you maisy!! this doesn't sound like they are real friends. As like the other ladies have said they wouldn't treat you like this if they were true friends...and I too agree with meemoo, kat4 and everyone.

dont let them take the joy away from you.

THEY ARE SOOOOOO JEALOUS!!!

And as for being a "blow up doll" my fiance LOOOOOVES my boobs and can't tell any bit of difference from real boobs except they're as firm as they were when I was 16 or 17 and I'm 34 now!!

My boyfriend said they're jealous too and to just ignore them but its hard when I've got to put with it now everyday. Yesterday was terrible but I just laughed through it again. She's deffo told everyone now they've all told me. Should I pull her up and ask her to mind her own business? Do you think it's best to just tell her now? Or shud I just ignore her?

the moment you told your friend about your BA Maisy you actually made it her business too lovely and it sounds like you made a big mistake in telling these two

I dont think I'd go as far as to tell her to mind her own business, I'd maybe stop by her house or give her a call today or tomorrow and tell her that you understand she might not agree with plastic surgery, but its the right thing for you and how as a friend of yours you'd really appreciate her support through this. I'd tell her you got upset in work because she'd told your colleagues, but whats done is done now and you'd really rather move forward and be happy about the surgery you're having that you've wanted for such a long time. tell her how nervous you are and how her support will help you get through this. I think this is better done face to face myself because i very much doubt she'd be such a bi*ch on her own and theres no going back once she's offered to support you without being not a only the bi*ch she's already shown herself to be, but also a two faced one at that!

if you do confront her, i really hope it goes well babe. xx

I chickened out. It sounds so simple when you say it cookie but I'm a bit shy and the quiet one. I'll try and see if I can talk to her though. Got to go work now will let you know how it goes

Love Maisy x

I would say something like I have joined a forum and was reading about the some of the girls who have had a bit of a time from friends and that blah blah .... Heavy hint??

oh my goodness. They don't sound like real friends to me. I have to admit, having a ba seems to show people in a different light. I have friends of 20 years who arent interested and are being very unhelpful, yet mums from school who i have known less than a year are the ones having my children for me and being very supportive. i genuinely believe they are happy for me.

You have some very jealous friends but keep your head high xx

Maisy_Ann i dont blame you for chickening out, I would be exactly the same! Its such a shame that your "friends" acted this way if it were me i would call it a day with those who acted so rude, concentrate on the friends who supported me and put my energy into getting excited for my BA!!
I hope you dont have anymore teasing at work, some people are just not nice!
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Maisy_Ann wrote:I chickened out. It sounds so simple when you say it cookie but I'm a bit shy and the quiet one. I'll try and see if I can talk to her though. Got to go work now will let you know how it goes

Love Maisy x

You didn't chicken out lovely... You just weren't ready

You will be though, as you start to feel better about having your BA yourself, you won't want to put up with that sort of behaviour from others babe. :flowers: xx

Honestly Hun I'd also suggest everytime someone says something about it, you could just say "I know can't believe I'm about to have big perfect boobies" or something similar. No matter WHAT they say, just act super happy and excited!!!

It will totally confuse them as they are trying to make you uncomfortable with your choice. If you just keep acting happy and excited, they'll eventually say to themselves that they can't rattle you and they'll move on to something else. If you just don't say anything, they may think they're getting to you.

Best luck hunni

xxx

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