People's Prejudice About Implants....

Hi girls,

I thought this story may amuse you as it certainly did me...

I went out on a date last night and was wearing a top that didn't really make my boobs look that big, no cleavage etc...

So, we were talking and the subject of cosmetic surgery came up. He said he hates it, how plastic surgery is only for people out of TOWIE and how you should make the best of what you have.
I told him I saw nothing wrong with improving yourself and that it is up to the individual what they want done.

He then proceeded to say that he hates breast implants, how they all look horrible and fake and "like two rubber balls stuck on your chest".

He was talking about how none of them look natural and they feel horrible for a good ten minutes. I was trying really hard not to laugh and when he asked me what I was laughing at, I told him that my boobs weren't natural.

He looked like he wanted the ground to open up and swallow him. He thought I was joking and said "there's no way yours are fake, they look so natural". I told him that not everyone looks like Jordan or the TOWIE girls and that you can get a natural result.

I then showed him some of my FB pictures where I had a more low cut number on and he couldn't believe that my boobs were fake.

He was so embarrassed but I thought it was really funny. I am used to people's prejudiced opinions now about implants and it's nice to prove someone wrong every now and then.

Maybe it backfired on me though as even he admitted that he couldn't stop looking at them for the rest of the night!!!


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Too funny Marie.

You'd think peoples perceptions of implants would have evolved given that so many women have BAs now and I'd presume most are a modest size rather than over sized.... At least that's how I find.

So funny though Marie, I can just imagine the poor lads face hahaha xx

It was funny Cookie. Maybe it was a bit mean of me to let him talk himself into a hole but I really couldn't help it!!!

You would think so but some people are really anti BA's. I think those that are jealous and want them done themselves or people who have seen really bad results! x

that's soooo funny.... I wouldve loved to witnessed that discussion...

Your right I think most people expect a Beckham / Jordan job. When I first told my guy mates that I was having my boobs done they were like don't do it, you don't need it, fake boobs are rank blah blah blah..... However now they have seen them they are saying the complete opposite how nice they are they love them and how glad I didn't end up like Jordan..

I think when someone mentions fake boobs som people's first image and thoughts are porn star tits.....

And yes agree totally with the jealous thing I've even noticed two of my friends give my boobs the most evil looks a going and they were so anti me getting it done,I've been wanting to say have my boobs done something to you, upset you in anyway blah blah blah. One girl in particular the worst one has naturally massive boobs compared to my small fake ones, don't understand some people xxxxx

Haha, bet the look on his face was priceless !!!

That is brilliant!!! I would've loved to have done that!!

PAHAHAHA this post is great. love it! x

Yes, BA's are quite an emotive subject it seems!

People just love to think they can tell people what to do & not only that, they assume exactly what you're going to do (ie end up like Jordan though even if someone wanted to it's their choice)... sad, sad, sad. Why they see it as any different to someone buying a sports car or a fancy house. In fact, I'll say it like it is - fancy cars & houses may be a status statement and what's that indicative of? But having a BA (which is decidedly less expensive than a fancy car or house) is a personal choice & like we know, for many people not because we want to look like porn stars or have a desire to 'get them out' for the boys etc... but I've never seen anyone in my workplace scoff at someone when they said they'd love to buy a fancy car.. though I had plenty of back stabbing stick from colleagues for having a BA (which I learned about via some REAL friends who were nothing but supportive). The backstabbing came from women of course! One of which was previously a friend! (for that & another reason, she's not a friend anymore). This story, though very amusing, is indicative of a lack of respect generally... so many people have opinions on things they know very little about... and that (to me) is what's not funny..

But anyway, bollocks to 'em (am I allowed to say that?)!! xxx

Ps, that was VERY well handled Marie - nice one!

It is an interesting subject. I think it is a valid argument that looks aren't important, that personality and character are what matter. I really struggled with the idea of getting a boob job and what that meant about my character/identity. Would buying into the cosmetic surgery ideal mean that I was as fake as my boobs?

In short answer, no. I'm not a fake person and I don't judge everyone and everything on looks. But I'm bright enough to realise that you can have all the character in the world, but without the confidence to let it shine through, you'll remain a shadow of who you could be. If boobs will give you that confidence, then so be it.

Good on you Marie for making someone re-evaluate their opinions and I raise a Friday toast to confidence and happiness!!! xxx

People who say 'looks aren't important'. Well I'd hazard a guess that they shave their armpits, they wear at least some make-up or use some cosmetic products or other & choose what they're wearing on a daily basis. All revolve around looks. The next person who says 'looks aren't important/ make the most of what you've got'... well just have a look at whether they're sporting a haircut/ wearing deoderant/ wearing any make-up etc.
The same principle applies to modern life. We live in houses that are artificially heated. We accept & utilise modern healthcare. We live in a wholly unnatural way, yet when it comes to 'accepting ourselves', people 'like us' are damned. The only time looks aren't important, is where friends are concerned, but where relationships are concerned, they are. It's very much a part of what attracts people to one another at first (not the only thing obviously). But attraction is a natural aspect of the perpetuation of all species. As civil & beyond animal as we like to think we are, we are very much ruled by our animal instincts & looks/attraction form very much a part of this natural principle.
lx79, why should you even feel as though you had to question whether you were a 'fake person'? I suspect for the same reasons I felt I had to 'explain myself' so to speak to work colleagues. I can't stand 'celebrity' media, I'm not interested in what so & so from any popular show looks like etc. I chose to have my op because of very personal reasons.. yet because of the small mindedness of people in general, I knew that people would talk & scoff (though I underestimated just how much certain people would do this!)

Despite the negative reactions of a few and despite the ridiculous media portrayal of BA's generally, I'm very glad I had it done. Simply because I had it done for me. I am a woman and as I was before, I felt desperately unhappy, as I had nothing & felt totally out of proportion & felt I may as well have been a man (without a penis! There's another op waiting to happen!!), but seriously, no-one should allow small minded sensationalist media morons to make them feel as though they have to question themselves. It's the same people who feed the opinions of Marie's date! And none of this is to say that no doubt there are naturally very small breasted women out there who are happy as they are. It's up to you!!

Ha they are some really good points Corinna. I came across several prejudiced opinions when I told people that I was thinking about having a BA, such as "but you don't dress like you'd want a boob job" !?!?! Ahhh so silly me, I didn't realise all women who wanted to enhance their breasts dressed identically?

Also, another opinion I came across was a friend of my boyfriends. He was insistent that I didn't 'need' a boob job. He even proudly declared that if he thought I did 'need' one that he and his partner would have discussed it.
The look on his face when I told him that although it was very nice that he felt that I didn't 'need' a BA, not only have neither of them ever seen my breasts, but surprisingly enough I wasn't going under the knife for them!

And both of these conversations have been with people who I actually like! Haha Jesus I think it reveals the true ignorance of some people who I would previously have considered well rounded, intelligent individuals.

Yes, well sometimes seemingly small but significant things tell an awful lot about people! They would have discussed it?! No doubt they did once they knew... Same here, no-one but my partner have seen my breasts beforehand & no-one else will see them afterwards either (except for him of course). The only reason I told people at work was to avoid embarrassment for them AND me when I went back to work. You just can't win! The only thing to do is brush their misguided opinions aside! Maybe if they thought with their own minds, they might come to very different conclusions.. but there we are!

Corrina_Corrina wrote:Maybe if they thought with their own minds, they might come to very different conclusions.. but there we are!

There's no fun in that though is there babe... For those that seem to have these attitudes, being judgmental of other people is almost like a sport for them and they actually get off in causing misery for others without a single thought to how their comments might actually make another person feel.

There are some sad people out there... usually those with the most insecurities themselves... in their attempt to belittle others they make themselves feel just that little bit better.

Very true Cookie. They're all too quick to jump on some sensationalist bandwagon... because they haven't the wherewithal to think for themselves. The best defence against that sort of ignorance is pure recognition & dismissal of it. We can simply say to 'em!

I think it's good for me that I was so confident in my decision and that I made it purely for me. Anyone having doubts, or easily pressured must feel seriously uncomfortable in those kind of situations.

Corrina_Corrina wrote: We can simply say to 'em!

Haha, we sure can! YAY for boobies! xx

Exactly. No-one can legitimately argue against that!

Omg I would have loved to have seen his face and how he tried to dig himself out of that hole. Lmao. You would think by now that people's perceptions of implants would have changed but the media does tend to focus more on the extreme boobs like Jordan and Victoria Beckham. I bet half the blokes that think they are a bad thing still drool over the many women that have had a good job done like Kelly Rowlands. I'm sure men wouldn't be drooling over women that we au natural, they can be so judgemental I hate it.

Hi girls,
Have really enjoyed reading your posts and since I am going larger than I currently have 310cc to 360cc to correct some bad decision making, it is pertinent to some of my feelings or fears about being judged.

I think it comes down to people being jealous and threatened. I think breasts represent sexuality to the broader adult community and I think that some men are threatened by women who are able to control and affect their own sexuality and women are jealous of other women who not only have the guts to follow their own feelings, but aren't afraid of disapproval. I think women with they could acknowledge their own needs and wants the way a woman undergoing breast surgery has and men are scared of the confidence it could bring to a woman....
Well, those are just my thoughts...
xoxox :-)

GCMum21 wrote: I think that some men are threatened by women who are able to control and affect their own sexuality and women are jealous of other women who not only have the guts to follow their own feelings, but aren't afraid of disapproval.

I am yet to experience the full throttle with the female perception, but have encountered it briefly with my boss. As I am field based, my working relationship with my boss is based mainly on the phone, she is professional, formal and the only person (bar 1 colleague) who I have told about my BA, and only be abuse of needing light duties on my return to work. She asked me what size I was going for...I don't see how that would affect my ability to my job/ have anything to ffing do with her!? And was quite shocked.

With the male perspective, I am
In TOTAL agreement. Let's face it, a man can't wack a few inches extra to enhance his penis if he's unhappy about it. I think the fact that a woman can control her body to such an extent must be hard for a man especially as it enhances her sexuality to other men; and I think that this is why so many partners feel threatened after a woman has a BA.x

OH MY GOSH!

That must have been soooo funny, I would have been feeling pretty smug about it!

A few people knew about my BA when I was planning it and so when I next saw them with quite moderate sized boobs I wonder if they think I bottled it. From the face of one I do sometimes think she thinks I'm lying!

My Mum's initial idea of a BA was the Jordan or VB look, her friend came over to discuss her own BA with us and my Mum then realised you can achieve a natural result too.

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This whole stigma regarding fake boobs is what I don't like and it was the thing that was putting me off havin them. I had thought thinking am I fake like my boobs like someone else has posted. And I heard that men don't like breast implants, being single I found this difficult too. But I'm guessing it would be men such as in this post that 'don't like them'. I would have loved to have been on your position and let him have to dig his way out hahaha!!!

I watched something on sky about men not liking fake boobs but its funny how that does nt stop the majority of them oggling . I think some men will say to their OH that they love them how they are but its weird how when you get a B A they cant keeps their eyes and hands off you !! Anyway tbh I could nt give 2 hoots whether they like them or not, I had mine done for me and not for any man xx

I think the guys who bitch about augmentated breasts are the ones that would most love a good grope and because they can't actually get near a good pair of boobs their best defence to hide that is to act like a child, spit their dummy and say "I don't like them"!

I'd bet most who made comments about them have had no experience of them.

Thats a great little story it made me chuckle! xx