post BA Sex...

Slightly less clinical than most posts.....
Ended up having an argument with my bf last night about my BA, he's been completely fine and supportive until now, probably because he never thought i'd do it, and suddenly finding every problem possible. Including how long it'll take to get a unhindered sex life back.....
Also little things like what happens if your partner accidently put their arm over and knocks your boobs straight after etc etc...
Just everything to do with physical contact basically!

Just wondering how it affected you all, I can't believe I'm getting big boobs and he's moaning about how we'd just have to be careful for a while!

I would only let him look for four weeks !!! poor bugger but he didnt mind ,they were far too painfull for any grappling!!!,im still abit scared of too much jiggling around, but a lot of younger ladies on here didnt wait too long !!!xxx

Surely he must realise that the benefits far outway the down sides!

I've heard of a few men feeling a little insecure about their girl getting big boobs then getting a big head about it...and maybe wanting to show them of elsewhere...this might be why he is against it?? Men are very bad at putting across their real feelings sometimes, and just come across as acting like a bit of a kn0b instead!!
Its worth sitting down and having a chat about it, tell him how you feel and your reasons for doing it and find out what the 'real reasons' for him worrying are!? xxx good luck!

He's just an idiot... i'm not very sympathetic right now as you can see...
Yes we need a rational discussion... just not in the mood for it, feel like a child because i'm annoyed because I feel like he's just trying to put down my decision and make me have doubts and I gave him multiple opportunities before I committed to tell me exactly how he felt about it.

Moral of the story... never expect a men to tell you how he feels by asking

Thanks for the advise though ladies, sorry for moaning xx

Hi Hun,

My DH has been ok - he is now quite into them so has been hasseling a bit -I had to remind him the other night that I had surgery 4 weeks ago and that I am not feeling all that sexy atm in my massive sports bra and as I can;t do some positions I am not really feeling up for it.

He kinda understands, but i think he's only been so good as he had a bad bad for the first 2-3 weeks so he wasn't interested either.

We didnt do it for about 2 wks and then he had a list of "don'ts" beforehand. I think it's mre mental then physical though as I am worried about too much jigging about.

it is def something you have to do for you and not them! yes you are not the same for a few wks but before long you'll be at it again - this time with big bangers!!

good luck with the chat!!

xx

I'm sure you OH will enjoy admiring them for a while before he can properly touch them. Men are such strange creatures. My OH claimed he was always a bum man, but now he can't stop talking about the new assets! I think my deary air will be ignored for some time! Good things come to those that wait... xx

Hey Hun, I think men feel a bit insecure when we have our BAs mine kept saying I would leave him once I've got boobies! WTF? Its a shame they get like it as it does stick in your head and kind of puts a downer on things when your looking forward to it! About the sex, well I had it about a week after but held a pillow over them lol! At 7 weeks they are just being treated as normal really...I do say be careful when he goes in for a squeeze lol I'm still scared he will squeeze too hard and pop them but no need for pillows supporting them anymore :) let the babies jiggle..I'm so happy never had jiggle before lol! Everyones different babes, you will know when your comfortable enough. Hope you get things resolved xxxx

I was back to normal the next day when I got home. You just have to be a little bit imaginative!! I don't think it does any harm to take your sports bra off for a while and unleash them. I think it's like when you have a baby,if you don't get straight back in to the swing of things it you end up not bothering. Don't worry about it. At 2 weeks po we do everything we did before and a few extra things now!! You just have to go at the pace that you feel comfortable with.xx

I agree with Redhead1.....I think DH and I waited one whole day.....(I'm in my forties with 2 children:) I let him touch, but he was gentle for the first couple of weeks. After that, everything felt back to normal. Only do what you feel comfortable with and GL

We were back at it the day i got home just no boobies involved!!lol We just went gradually with the boobie involvement although I have only just let him get back to normal on them. For ages my nipples felt soooo sore i let him squeeze and touch but he had to avoid the nipples he did get a bit fed up with it and kept saying "shouldnt they be ok by now!" which did annoy me but i'm back to normal now although our relationship is under a bit of strain in other departments at the mo which is another story!!!! xxx

Sorry to report I had to action for a good 7-8 wks after my op and even then they did feel strange bcause they didn't move n wr just thr I was too scared to make a wrong move that I really didn't enjoy the action then I just waited for anothr couple of months n then forget it...It was on even though I'm not going to lie my nipples are now extra sensitive and well need tender love n care n nothing more!!

i mean I had NO action for a good 8 wks

annaliese hope you manage to sort things out!

Thanks for all your replies they've really made me feel better... we've has a bit of a chat... kind of... he claims he's a bum man but this isnt entirely true.. he'd rather have a good figure than big boobs if he had to choose. but this doesnt stop him gawping at every slim girl with massive boobs so he can just shut up. Think its what you lot say, insecurity that they'll change me and I wont want him any more!

As for sex i'm pretty sure we'll be straight at it the day im back, will just keep my high impact bra on haha! If it does end up in a 7 week drought i'll probably end up single as its a huge part of our relationship but hey, i'll have massive boobies!!

He wound me up for ages before saying I was only allowed cuddles for the first month(I have a fairly high sex drive ) Being the temptress I am we were at ye old nookie the night I came out of hospital but very very very gently.

He went in for the suck last night but had to tell him gently gently as my nipples are so sensitive.

Like the other girls say at your own pace and gentle gentle xxx

My OH thinks he will be getting a rest for a couple of weeks!!! I have a mush higher sex drive than him and after seeing various comments from PeggySue and some of the other girls I know I am going to be up for it asap lol!!!

We were at his mates house last night and I was telling them about the op - my OH couldn't stop grinning - I think he is starting to get quite excited now, bless him.

The only thing he has said is that I will need to be ready for the attention I will get because of them (I dance in skimpy outfits in hard dance clubs) and will need to becareful how I deal with the attention. He is (as am I) very jealous so if I don't put people "back in their box" as he puts it quick enough then he will get riled. I am glad he has bought this up now as although I am completely faithful I am an outrageous flirt so I just need to be aware of his feelings.

Can't wait to have my new boobies - my 34F sports bra arrived last night........ oh my!

Oh how exciting Aurora!!!! 2 weeks to go for both of us!!!!
I have a much higher sex drive than my bf also, he says I heve issues which is another reason why it annoyed me so much! One min he's calling me a sex pest for a joke the next he's complaining we might have to be careful for a while! I dont moan when he has a bad back!!
xxx

Ooooo you are the day before me!

Boys live by their own rules and it is always one rule for them and another for us and they call girls fickle!

It sounds to me like he is the one with insecurity issues. You are going to look hot!

thanks babe :) we'll both look hot haha xx

I must admit my hubby as a much higher sex drive then me...you wouldn't know that though from what we were doin last night

Fortunatley we are very open and honest with each other and have become very trusting compared to years earlier. He did have a few insecurities when we were going to consulations thinking i was doing this for attention and stuff but know he understands why and im very happy.

Well girls you wait when you get those boobies your high sex drives will go crazy.I feel sexy and confident for the first time in ages and it has made the bedroom antics well we could say....interesting

I just cant wait until we can relax and they are all better..... happy humping ladies xxxxxxxxxx

I'm sure you will be fine just go with what you feel.

Although I have split from my ex, he came to my one week check up with me and although always claiming to be a bum man tried to be cool when the ps examined me but I could see he was impressed, lol, bruising and all.

We ended up going to Harrods where he bought me a gift and then onto dinner, needless to say we ended up doing the deed lol and it was great, I abandoned the bra and it was great did almost everything but I did tell him to be careful.

But at the end of the day he has still let me down and is still sadly my ex, but I had fun lol xx

I'm sure you will be fine just go with what you feel.

Although I have split from my ex, he came to my one week check up with me and although always claiming to be a bum man tried to be cool when the ps examined me but I could see he was impressed, lol, bruising and all.

We ended up going to Harrods where he bought me a gift and then onto dinner, needless to say we ended up doing the deed lol and it was great, I abandoned the bra and it was great did almost everything but I did tell him to be careful.

But at the end of the day he has still let me down and is still sadly my ex, but I had fun lol xx

oops did mean to post this twice, remembering the excitement lmao. x

But what did he buy you??? im so incredibly nosey the suspence is killing me! xx

peggysue you make me laugh! always wanting the gory details, (is gory the right work here haha)
Happy Humping! hahah
xxx