post ba mommies advice needed...

Hello!

I am looking for some advice on what I should tell my kids about my upcoming BA... well actually its just one kid as the yougest is only 18 months and wont know any difference.

My little girl is 4 years old and very switched on, I want to be honest but obviously not frighten her. She watched me breastfeed my son for 13 mo, and she is aware of my boobs, in fact about 3 months ago in the shower she said to me "mommy I have little boobs and you have LONG boobs" LOL thats when you know the "girls" are lookn sad... lol!
She is very practical about things and seems happy enough with simple explanations for things such as with pregnancy she knows the babies grow in the tummy and when the tummy gets really big moms go to the hospital to see a doctor who takes the baby out and then the baby drinks a boob (her explantion)
Sooooo, I am thinking I may just explain that after breastfeeding her and her lil bro my boobs look kinda funny and that I am going to spend a night in the hospital to see a special doctor who will make them look the way they used to look. If she asks how I may just say he uses magic tools to fill them back up again.

I really dont know... please let me know what you think... open to suggestions!
xx

i wouldnt say anything. She might not notice. None of my 3 kids have noticed or said anything at all.

If you do say something, dont forget to remind her its a secret.

I think what you tell your daughter is dependant on what you want the school assembly to know! LOL

I'd also be careful associating your BA to your breastfeeding your daughter and her brother though as when she sees you feeling uncomfortable post-BA she may feel it's her fault hunni - Kids are deep thinkers and your daughter being so very young although a clever little girly, you never know what way their little minds will go.

If you feel you must tell her about your boobs, I think I'd just keep it as simple as possible and just say something like, "mummy has poorly boobies and is going to see a magic boobie doctor who can make them better*

I just told the little ones (neices and nephews) in my family that I had a sore back LOL so they wouldn't cuddle me or tell all their friends and friends mums that I'd had my boobs done! LOL

I was worried about this too hun. I have a 5 year old who is very perceptive and originally planned to tell her. Then I thought about it and didn't want to cause her any worry, as cookie says kids are very deep thinkers and you can't be sure how their minds work. I didn't tell her anything and although she looked at my boobs a little when I first had them done, she has never questioned the way they look now. Although I wore such padded scaffolding bras before that she used to say I took my boobies off when I took my bra off

I just told her that mummy had a sore chest and she had to be careful.

I will tell her when she's older but kids minds work in strange ways and I also didn't want the whole playground to know I had a BA.

If you do feel you should tell her then cookie's idea is a good one. Explaining that you have an operation/go into hospital could make her worry, it would definitely make my daughter worry.

i told my little girl (3yrs)i had a poorly back and belly and the doctor was putting magic cream on that will make it better.my little one is also bright like yours and didnt want everyone at nursery knowing by boobs had grown! she understood then why i couldnt pick her up and cuddle properly for a while, i also have an 18month and your right to young to understand hun x
i have to wear the band over top off chest so my little one thinks its a bandage and keeps asking my is my back better yet (bless) x

Thats a great idea ladies just saying I have a bad back... I was really concerned as to how to answer her when she saw the bandages, and her seeing me sore and unable to lift them.

I dont think the she will take too much notice of the size change but she will definately make a fuss over my scars as I am having a lollipop lift... she is VERY preoccupied with any cuts, marks, scrathches ect on anyone... I guess I will just keep my boobs out of sight from her to prevent any concern.

Thanks for the thoughtfull advice xx

I've been mulling over this one for a while to.

I'm not too concerned with my two three year olds, but my 6 1/2 year old son is more of a worry. He often sees me naked and I fear the "magic doctor/creams" etc won't cut it with him. His classmates in particular are always talking about "boobs" - it starts SO young with boys.... I'm just hoping that he will forget about it soon enough, but any suggestions on older kids would be much appreciated .

Ax :good:

My oldest is almost 6 and hasn't batted an eyelid not even a question. I made sure they didn't see them with the plasters on as they ask what I've done if I have a plaster on my finger they gruesomely wait to see whats underneath when it comes off.

My 4 year old who I thought would ask and then tell everyone and their granny hasn't mentioned it either.

They have both seen me breastfeeding the youngest up to a few months ago so maybe they are used to them being different sizes as one minute they were full the next empty.

I def wouldn't mention about the breastfeeding being the reason for having it done as this could give your daughter a bad image about breast feeding or she could feel its her fault. And hospitals worry children mine associate them with death and birth they haven't seen anything inbetween.

As for your 61/2 yr old aj boys might talk about boobs but theres no street cred talking about your mummys lol. x

my oldest is 9 and not even he noticed.

I really don't think small children have a 'need' to know about mummies boobs. You can if you choose to, hide your boobs from your 6 1/2 year old during the recovery hun and just tell him you have a bad back or a sore chest if they're the inquisitive kind... as has already been said, most kids don't even blink an eye though, it's up to you entirely though what you want your child to know. xxx

Thanks ladies. Sage advise about not letting them see them during recovery. LOVE this site!!

Ax

yes, I do think the only thing that would have them asking is the bandages... so I guess I will just keep em covered for a while.

Its so great to be able to get all this advice, sometimes we get stuck on a thought and cant think outside the box... I am 3 weeks away and really feeling prepared for the "after" and its thanks to all you ladies!