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Hi ladies,

Sorry to rant yet again. I feel like this is the worst rollercoaster of a ride (emotionally). I am so fed up with these damn incisions. I can't move my arms up at all STILL and I am almost 9 weeks. I just cry about it all the time. I was recently measured a 30 E and I was quite happy and over the moon. But now that some time has passed with that new measurement I am back to wanting a re-op. I feel like I am going through soo much for not a big difference. I even ran into an old friend and she said "sorry I didnt even notice..." greaaat. I STILL cant wear a bra either because I don't want to ruin the chances of my righty dropping. Can a bra do this? I also can't even get it on due to my incisions. I am just so fed up with all the tears and no support from boyfriend. He just makes me feel worse. If I do ever get a re-op I am worried I will have to go through this allll over again with my incisions. I wish my PS showed me the larger sizes (although I didn't ask so it is my fault) he only showed me 320 and 340.

Sorry for all my mood swings and mind changes. I feel like all this wasn't and isn't worth my size...thanks.

Oh and I have zero cleavage

You're going through so much at the moment Elizabeth it's not at all surprising you're so down hun

I know it might feel like forever ago that you had your surgery but you're only two months post-op hun and still healing, more so due to the problems you're having.

You're seeing your surgeon next month babe and hopefully by then the incisions will have closed and you'll be well on the road to recovery, if not hun, you really do need to have a chat about what your surgeon is going to do to fix the problem hun and insist on a point of contact for when he isn't around.

I really do feel for you hun, but try and stay focused on you telling me that the incisions are starting to look better, this is a positive thing hunni!... let's hope the healing continues to do well babe!

Oh chick, so sorry you feel so bad. I hope this gets sorted for you and you feel at peace and comfortable soon. As for your friend, I find it hard to believe that she didn't notice your new 30E bust! I just don't believe that for one second. 30E isn't a size that you can easily ignore . Best wishes JB xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Thanks girls. I hope the incisions are closed by then too cookie. He did offer to restitch them but I don't want to trap anything that is trying to come out. I also asked the Dr. on here and he said "he hopes I can keep the implants" I didn't know i was at risk of losing them This is so hard as I get a different answer from everyone. [You must be registered and logged in to see this link.] - thank you for your positive input I think it is because I can't wear a bra yet so I see no difference. It's all just so bumming.

I don't want to be negative but what if thier NOT closed by September 7 when I see him and he just says to wait longer.

Very frustrated and fed up. I can't even reach a plate to eat!!!!

aw hun I can see why you are so frustrated and I hope when you next see your surgeon he can tell you why and do something about your incisions. I'm sure when you get into underwired and plunge bras you will notice a difference in size, sports bras are so unflattering and difficult to get a cleavage in.
Hope all gets sorted for you, we all take different amounts of times to heal and I'm sure your boobs will even out given time. You do have lots of changes to go through yet.
Take care.

Hi hun, I know how you feel a little. I know its not the same but my ears still hurt and I haven't got all feeling back in them yet and when I wake up in the morning I get some pain in them from sleeping on my side all night. So I can sympathise a little.

You have an armpit incision right? I guess that's not as straightforward as the other incisions, could this be why you're taking longer to heal?

I'm also a 30DD/30E depending on make, I know they don't look huge but one thing I've realised is I've got so used to them and not remembering how small I was till I look at pictures that its hard to grasp the difference. Its that way I suppose for people who look at you as well, their focus usually isn't your chest so they don't see a huge difference unless you do a Jordan. I bet they'd notice then!

Hang in there hun, and vent as much as you need to. Loots of virtual ((((((((hugs))))))) to you xxx

Hi Elizabeth, sending you hugs and good wishes for a speedy recovery
Swizzlexx

Thanks so much for all your support Really turns a bad day into a good one.

aw babe really feeling for you its such a massive change: my leftie is still a bit behind my rightie its so frustrating cos we feel like its been AGES since our ops but when you think of what we've had done of course we should still be healing and changing i still think my boobs are small but in reality they CANT be as FOUR sizes larger!!! its amazing how quick u you get used to the size i hope when ur feeling better and healed u feel more positive about the size babe. Sending you healing vibes, am sure you are but r u being super healthy to giv yourself the best chance to heal? lots of fruit amd veg and fresh air and no smoking :) really hope ur feeling better soon u kno where we all r if u need us x x

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i got a really good sports bra from m and s,its more like a normal bra shape but you can cross the straps at the back,ever since wearing it,it seems to have helped bring my boobs closer together,very supportive and so comfy with padded straps.
mel x

I think we all just get a bit obsessed with big boobs, i dont think mine look big but then my friends say they are. Also people i thought had big boobs before i had boobs when i now look at them they dont look as big as id thought it was just because i had NOTHING to begin with. People probs dont notice because they didnt see you naked or in a binkni or in low tops before so probs never noticed u had small boobs in the first place, not noticing just means you've achieved a natural result :)

As for your incisions i dont know much about armpit ones but maybe taking a little longer because u move ur arms more not sure but either way i hope everything works out for you and ur feelin better ASAP! xxxxxxx

Thanks a lot girls. All your input has brought me yet again to more tears. It is all very hard to deal with and when I get super upset I sometimes think I shouldn't have done it. I just get so frustrated when I am still having trouble opening heavy doors or not being able to reach a plate or something stupid. It's basically taken over my life because I obsess over it. I have no one to talk to about it except you all on here. Thanks for being there when I need it most. I also now noticed it looks like there is STILL bruising around my armpits. Who knows what that means. Do I even want to know?!

I know that feeling Elizabeth, when I suffered complications it absolutely consumed me!

I found it helped to start a diary here, not only did I log everything I was going through but I poured out my emotions too, it worked as a kind of self therapy!

Give it a go Elizabeth, just logging in each day, talking about what's going on and being able to look back and actually read your progress is soooooooooo good! I know it might sound silly, but it really did work for me and the support given throught my diary was invalueable, maybe this will help with how you're feeling too hun. xxx

Big Elizabeth xx

Hang in there sweety xx You are still early days xx some people just take longer to heal I guess xx Hopefully your incisions will be healed by the time you see your PS, if not hopefully he will come up with a resolve xx Maybe your muscle is just taking longer to relax xx

I went from a saggy D/DD to a pert G and no one really noticed or said anything gorgeous try not to worry too much about no one noticing, especially an old friend, they may just not have remembered what you were like before xx

Thinking of you gorgeous xx Hope things start to get easier soon for you xx