Pre Op - Telling People!

Hi Guys!! Im am a pre op newby on here and just had a few questions! How do i tell my family and friends? Also, will massaging my boobs help in any way before the surgery?? Id love to hear what you guys think and get some advice!! Thanks :)

Welcome to the forum!

When telling people I think it depends on how liberal they are and/or if they're half expecting you to come out with it. With my family they had absolutely no idea and didn't really understand why I wanted it. They spent a long time trying to convince me out of it and the topic was the subject of many arguments. That said I know a girl who told her Mum about getting a BA and they went and did it together! So I think how you tell you family is up to you as you know them far better than we do! How do you think they'll react? Is it something you think would be fine to slip casually into a conversation or would it be a bigger deal than that to them?

Good luck in your journey

Telling ur friends should b easy enough, U could arrange a girly night go for a meal n tell them all at the same time, I bet U find that they want one!
With regards to family I would say confide in someone who U know will support U then have them there as support when U tell every one else
Good luck and welcome to the forum x

I have my op in 3 days and I still havn't told pretty much all of my family.

All my friends and the guys at work know though and they were all very understanding xxx

Just like karleyxxx, I have my op in 2 days and I've only told 3 people.

My husband of course knows about it. Only 1 person from work knows, I couldn't care less about my other co-workers. And I briefly told my mom that I'm going for a plastic surgery procedure, but didn't go into detail because I know she'll be opposed to it completely. I can't imagine what she'll say when she sees them the day after! But I think i'll cross that bridge when I get there!

I don't think I'll be bragging about it after either, but I wouldn't deny it if they ask me. It would be too obvious to deny anyway.

Hello and welcome to BJSF Molly

mollyjaynesaunders wrote:How do i tell my family and friends?

It's entirely up to you Molly. Don't feel obligated to tell anyone you'd rather choose not to though and that includes your friends and family if you'd rather keep it quiet lovely.

If you're happy to discuss your BA, then you know your friends and family best and you'll instinctively know how best to approach this hun.

When I told my parents I just went over as I usually do for a cuppa and simply told them in conversation. They weren't at all happy but I wasn't concerned about that, the BA was for me and not for them and I didn't go to them seeking their approval, I just felt I personally wanted them to know. When I had my second surgery though, I completely kept it to myself, my husband and my kids.

When telling friends, if you'd rather it didn't go any further, I'd choose which friends you tell very carefully because some do have a habit of enjoying passing on a little gossip, some not doing it in a mean way, but all the same, it can be very upsetting if your secret gets out, so only tell those you trust with all your heart hun.

And do remember when telling your friends and family that this surgery is for YOU. You've already made the decision, so you aren't looking to have their opinion, just a bit of support hun.

Also, will massaging my boobs help in any way before the surgery?? Id love to hear what you guys think and get some advice!! Thanks :)

Massaging moisturiser into your breasts pre-op is a great way to prepare them for surgery making the skin as supple as possible will really help the skin as it stretches over the new implant and will reduce the risk of you getting any possible stretch marks. xxx

I told everyone as I didn't want the mums at the school gates whispering about whether or not I'd had it done! I also figured it would get over any initial embarrassment I may feel seeing people for the first time with my new boobs. So really I told them for my own benefit rather than theirs! Since having the job i havent been able to resist sending a few good friends topless photos of the new additions as am just sooo excited! I imagine it's a very personal decision though.

welcome :)
i only told my fiancee , my mum and dad and my fiancees dad. till i woke up from the op and then my mum let the family know. everyone knows what it means to me and i got a really lovely response :) everyone knows about them, im not shy and very proud i didnt like something so changed it :) x

You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to. I've only told my closest friends and family. My mom has been a huge support and went to my first consultation with the surgeon I chose when she was visiting me xxx