Who did you tell?

The main thing I love about this forum is that everyone understands and no-one judges so its really easy to talk about surgery without having to explain or justify yourself.

Did you tell many people and more importantly how many people figured it out?! I know there has been a dramatic change for some girls but I think I will be mortified if friends I hdadnt told in advance, noticed and asked me afterward...or work colleagues. 

How did you handle it? I dont want to discuss it with anyone thats not my core support crew! Its private!!

Hi there, it's tricky isn't it. I have told almost all of my friends as they all knew it would happen one day, iv been banging on about it for so long! Told my ma and sisters who r fully supported and excited with me, cos again, iv moaned about it since being 14! 
The people I am struggling to tell is my hubby's parents though.
I can just imagine there faces, and considering my mil is about a 38f, she will not understand it at all. Will probably think it's totally selfish and ridiculous.

My ma said it's my business so don't let it worry you,  bless her she is fab. But like you said, I think they would be a bit gutted if they found out at a later date, and realised I hadn't told them. We do spend quite a lot of time with them and kids sleep on a weekend etc, it's just tough.And they prob would help me out if they knew with my children etc...However, one of the biggies is that
I don't want my 3 children to find out if I can help it, and they are the most Indiscreet people ever.  So, that's weighing in my mind. ...ugh.

good luck! Lol x

Ooh skates look at your ticker!! 8 days, so exciting!
I'm probably not who you need here as I've told everyone. 
We've spoken about bucket lists at work and this was on mine so we've all discussed it. And my team have been really supportive. It's predominantly female and we are all friends. If anyone there does judge me it will be people who aren't my friends and I don't care what they think as I probably don't like them anyway haha!!
All of my friends outside work have always known I wanted this and that I've really researched for 2.5 years so I've not rushed into it. They've all been great and can't wait to see. I'm more embarrassed about them though as they all want to see before pics too and I was always so conscious of my boobs before so even my closest friends have never seen my naked pre op boobs!
My inlaws know and have been fab. My parents were the last I told as my mum did not approve when I first started consultations 2.5 years ago due to her breast cancer history. I really was in 2 minds to tell her but told her on my birthday as thought she wouldn't shout at me...I'm
34!! She went in a massive mood and went home but she has come round now. She knows I'm not stupid, I've not rushed into it and I had a fantastic surgeon.
So I have had everyone that is important to me on my side. Lots of said I didn't need it but that's thanks to my bras not my boobs. They've still supported my decision cos they love me and those people are the important ones. 
I am so happy I've done it and if anyone looks down there nose at me, they aren't important anyway. 
Having said that, I totally understand why many ladies want to keep it private. As I said above, I've been told a lot I didn't need it due to my bras and chicken fillets. I just wanted to have those boobs naked. So to be honest I reckon I could have not told anyone apart from the core you are mentioning. We are much more aware of our boobs than other people are. Just remember you're doing this for you. Nobody else. And it's fab!! Xx

Hey girls! Its a toughie isn't it but only you can decide what's right for you. I told people at work as I work at Costa so I couldn't do much when I went back as its quite heavy upper body work.
I haven't told my parents, I told my sister and my closest friends. None of my husbands family knows, which was a bit tricky as we train at the gym with his brother sometimes so making excuses as to why I can't lift is hard.

I have 3 daughters, 11,9 and 8 so I didn't want them to know. I didn't want to put it in their heads before they even started that they were going to need a boob job. For me, this has followed 15 years of feeling inadequate, 3 lots of breast feeding and now intense working out. It was a huge decision for me, something I always knew I would do, but didn't think it would happen this soon. I told my girls I was away on a work training thing overnight, and when I got home I told them I had pulled something in my chest in the gym. They bought that as they are used to seeing me walk funny and stuff after a heavy weights session. My youngest has since noticed my scars and I just told her it must be marks from my bra. None of them have even noticed that my boobs are bigger Lol and we are quite a naked house, nobody really covers up, except my biggest who is now getting conscious ( and hubby of course) I think it helped that my surgery was in November so I was wearing PJs to bed so they didn't notice my support bra or anything.

I really don't think anyone will ask you, even if they do notice. I've caught my "smother in law" looking a couple of times but she would never ask. Its just not done Lol I've gone from literally nothing to a 30e/f and nobody, not even my own parents (who would definitely say something!)has noticed. Maybe it will be more obvious in summer with vest tops and stuff.
Don't really know if this has helped at all or whether I've just rabbited on lol x

Haha Jen I love that "smother in law"!!
I've not told my children yet, they are boys so I feel more comfortable telling them. I'm not sure I would if they were girls for the same reasons as you.
The oldest 2 are at their dads til Monday. They know I've been at hospital but don't know why. I think I will tell them but will gauge it next week xx

I think that's just it. There is no right or wrong answer, you know your kids best so you know how to handle it. If mine ask when they're older I will tell them. I've got before pics that I can whip back out too. My girls are really athletically built like me so I wouldn't want them to feel sad about having no boobs, when I have them and I'm slim. If that starts to heppen I will have to spill the beans Lol x

All my personal friends and family knew. It was never a secret, I'd always been open about wanting one since I was about 16, it was just a matter of time. Friends were just kinda 'oh, cool' about it, made sure I was ok after, and now we just joke about it when I have them on display. My sis and cousin who are close in age were excited for me. The only time my dad has ever acknowledged it happened is when he asked whether they were the cause of my AOSD! But that's just coz its awkward! Mom was a whole different kettle of fish, as some of the girls know! I hadn't gotten round to telling her, like I said, it was never a secret, and when I went round she was all 'nya nya, I found out'. Completely childish. It was the last nail in a long line for the coffin of our relationship, but I've not spoken to the woman since.

A couple of people at work knew for my healths sake, just to help me out with things when I went back to the office. A few of my closer colleagues have since found out, and its not a big deal. Im happy to admit it. But that's my personal choice, and for others, its a completely private affair and nobodies business. You've just got to do whats right for you.

Before my niece could talk properly, we took her bra shopping when 'whats that' was her favourite phrase...I was Aunty Booby for a few months!!

I've literally told my immediate family, four friends and my boyfriend. That's it! Not even some of my closest friends know! To be honest I used to wear padded bra's day and day out so now my new boobs just look like one of my old padded bra's, without the padding! :)

No one at work has noticed, and today I'm wearing a super super tight top! I think the only time anyone might notice is if I'm in a bikini or bra. For anyone that doesnt know me, they'll prob think I've just got nice size boobs, but I think my friends would be like 'woah where did they come from!'

xxx

I told my mum and my dad (who have both been great - I was really surprised how supportive my dad was about it), 2 close friends - and my 2 bosses at work (both male - and they thought it was brill lol - although i think they have felt a bit awkward since ive come back to work - think they are scared of looking at me hahah). Oh and of course my other half lol.

I didnt think I would care about who knows, but I live somewhere with a small town mentality and dont really wanna be the talk of the town. So if people find out eventually thats fine, but hey - its my business and for now id like it to stay that way. Like [You must be registered and logged in to see this link.] said - with clothes on I dont look much different than when i wore my padded bra's, its only going to be when im in a bikini or similar that people who have seen me before in one would know - and not many people have lol. xxx

Told me parents and 5 friends in my closest friendship group. Not told anyone at work, in laws, kids or some friends that I see weekly, but still didn't want to tell. No one has noticed or if they have, said anything. You'd be surprised by how little people pay attention to our boobs....only us ladies obsess over them!!!

Haha that's so true mammamia. I've found myself looking at everyone's boobs but it's only a recent thing so I know in "real life" people just don't pay attention to it xx

literally just my mom and my boyfriend! Only because there is no way either of them wouldn't notice I go swimming with my mom and its never going to be a secret to a boyfriend however much I wanted it to be lol.

However both have been so supportive and I know my friends would be too but I'm just way too embarrassed ..I wonder if they will notice 

Nice to know I am not alone in my secrecy :) xo

I've been wearing padded bras to work for the last few weeks to try and do it gradually...! I think because I am quite observant and have clocked a few BA's myself I guess I worry someone else will notice but you are right, its my body and I can do what I like. There is just one bitchy woman who works for me and although I am her superior she is quite openly nasty about stuff. I did lose my rag one day and gave her the 'if you have nothing nice to say then say NOTHING' routine when she critised what I was wearing - hilarious if you saw the state of her too. Sure she just did it to get a reaction out of me but I hate the idea of them laughing at me or whatever. Its always the women isnt it. Men wouldnt care one way or the other. I have long hair so might just disguise my chest for a little while with hair and scarves! Until I feel confident enough anyway. Wildflower - you are totally not alone!!

I came into this thinking im telling noone.. but whilst i was researching i wanted support (even though you ladies have been great!!). My mum and boyfriend have always known and at first when i went for a consultation at 18 they didnt agree with it. Mum told me to wait until i had kids and my boyfriend said 'theres nothing wrong with you, your perfect' as lovely as that is of him to say it.. its not good enough haha.
Now im quite open and dont really mind who knows, because people that know me will notice! People that know are my mum, boyfriend, my 5 closest friends and my work colleagues.. as there is only 3 of us in the office. And thats it.
Im scared to tell my boyfriends parents as i know what they will say "You dont need one" which i will reply with "Well you dont see me naked do youuu" ha. At the end of the day no matter how many people you tell, its your body and your decision and i have learnt not to let anyyyyone make me change my mind or make me feel like im doing a bad thing.
PS - my mum and boyfriend are now very supportive :-) altho my boyfriend said he will be a bit freaked seeing them for the first time! xx

I was very open about my surgery and didn't mind what people thought, however this time round I am only telling my parents, boyfriend and best friend. I want it to be so much more private!! Strange how things change lol xx

I've told a handful of friends, and obviously my husband knows.  
It's hard, because it's not like it's a big secret that I want to hide, but at the same time it's not really anyone else's business.

I guess if someone asks me directly, then I'll tell them, but I'm not planning on volunteering the information to anyone but my close friends.  I'm not close to my family but no doubt they'll notice at some point.

I told close friends and close family I never told anyone at work didn't feel I needed to explain to everyone my reasons for surgery...although I've never made it no secret I wanted it done,maybe one day I might say and perhaps when I'm out of wearing my sports bra it might look more obvious but until then I won't bother xx

Well I finally made my mind up, and im not telling my in laws now. We went today for lunch and omg, both of them are just soooo negative and judgemental about everything and everyone! Its painful, so forget it.
My business, my news and I feel good about it.
THE thought of them breathing there negative thoughts and views allover it...no.
No way! Lol

Well good for you honey, you don't need people raining on your parade xx

Twinky wrote:Well I finally made my mind up, and im not telling my in laws now. We went today for lunch and omg, both of them are just soooo negative and judgemental about everything and everyone! Its painful, so forget it.
My business, my news and I feel good about it.
THE thought of them breathing there negative thoughts and views allover it...no.
No way! Lol

Good for you Hun, I've not even considered telling my fellas parents.... I don't see why they would need to know ;-)

xxx

I told the friends I saw in the lead up after booking (about 3), then my mum, dad and sister.

I also told my work colleagues because it was just easier, since I wanted to come back to work as soon as possible. My boss and his daughter picked me up and brought me to work for the first few days. I also was a bit more 'still' than I normally am! - so they would have wondered what was wrong with me only 10 people in the whole company so that wasn't too bad). Sometimes at work I have to lift barrels/drums of heavy liquid so it was easy to ask for help in those situations too.

My mum and dad were amazingly supportive - they are older traditional parents but they understood completely and now openly talk about my boobs at the dinner table!! - ha! - they asked the most questions about the surgeon choice etc.

Only one friend REALLY asked me about the size I was having. She's naturally gifted and said that she gets pains with her back etc.. so was a bit worried in that respect. Now she has seen how natural they look on me. she is happy for me, she was just concerned at the before.

My boy friend told his mum and sister, they were like, good for her, doing something for herself and gaining confidence in her own skin!!! x

Agree, inlaws are on a need to know basis. I guess for me there are always risks with any surgery so I wanted MY immediate family to know just in case anything bad happened and also so I had some support afterwards. Its tricky for me as I am so open about EVERYTHING normally!

I couldn't imagine going through surgery and not telling my mum and dad. 
I told my mum first and she was going to tell my dad. But my sister announced she had accidentally fallen pregnant and it's due a few weeks before her wedding. After getting over the shock we are now very excited for them!! X
And I thought of she was brave enough to tell my dad that, I could tell him I was having my boobs done myself :) x

I was terrified about telling my parents - well my Dad really - it would of been a totally cringe worthy conversation. Sadly he died in February and so far I think this has been the only 'plus side' (if you can call it that)  - Dads death made me decide that life is too short and to go for it AND I didnt have to have the 'talk' with him. Just my mum and sister, I did it while in a luxury hotel after a day of treatments in the spa and made sure they had a glass of bubbles in hand before I told them, good preparation and they were very supportive. Phew!