More sister jealousy issues. Grr!!!

Hi girls, dunno if u can remember I posted a while back about my sister being quite catty and passive aggressive about my boobs? She has always been a C cup, so by no means small!
Well, since I've had my op it seems our relationship has deteriorated. She used to be the one person I could rely on for anything, ever. She has just announced she is pregnant (January) so obviously I expected that things would change between us, especially as far as her involvement/support with my kids would go.

It just seems though, that since she's announced it she is being quite mean to me, still in a passive aggressive way that could be said that im being paranoid, if you get me?
For a start, she keeps telling me certain clothes I had I definitely couldn't wear now cuz my boobs would look "ridiculous" in them. She keeps saying I definitely shouldn'thave gone any bigger and in her opinion the ones I now have are too big.
At the same time she keeps talking about how big her boobs are getting and how she can't stop looking at them (ive not noticed any difference)
Also, I get snapchats from her where either she is showing her cleavage in tops for me to look at, or they will be seemingly boob unrelated but she will be pushing them together as if they always look like that. Duh! Im not a boy, I know all the tricks!

Well,last night was the last straw!!! Ive been doing a version of insanity workout called T25 for 8 weeks now. Its just 25 mins a day, 5 days a week. Hardly a big deal! Apparently she is concerned about me because.......she thinks im OBSESSED, was the word she used, with exercise.
She was coming up with all this sh1t bout how im basically body dysmorphic (who made her a bl@@dy shrink) and im going too far. Everything I said, she had an answer for. Not a reasonable or logical answer, mind! She tthinks my boob job is basically the result of me hating myself and proves she is right
She then went on to tell me she would have one afterthe baby if she needed to, but would like to be an F or FF (im an E, she knows that so I don't think her wanting to be bigger is a coincidence)
Now, she used to spin twice a week plus one weights session. Since the pregnancy she hasn't kept it up.

I spoke to my friend last night as I was fuming after she left. My friend thinks she can't handle that im older (by nearly 8 years) have had 3 children,now have a banging rack and am physically in better condition than her.
I really thought that her having a baby would bring us even closer, I mean iveb been there and done it, I can support her (our parents are useless)
I know by the way she is being towards me that she is clearly having some body image issues right now but thats not my fault. If anything she should see my dedication and my success as a good thing. She can bounce back too. I don't know why suddenly she seems to think she has to compete with me in everything.
It makes me feel sad :(
Sorry to moan, just had to vent it somewhere and I know all you girls are great listeners :) <3
Jen x

So sorry to hear your not getting on with your sister, she's defiantly jealous. What your friend has said is right, hold your head up high and let her get on with it.
She'll come running when something happens if not she'll come to her senses and know she was out of order x x

Emma is absolutely right. Jealous. And as soon as she realises she can't cope, she'll come running cap in hand. I can't offer you any advice, but I can offer you a squidge, and a hi five for the for the drive and perseverance you have to get the body you want for you.

Sorry to hear about the issues you are having with your sister. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I have two sisters who are both older then me but have done nothing but support me in my decision and haven't been jealous about it so wouldn't have a clue what I would do in your situation. Hope you and your sis sort things out, life's to short for falling outs especially when it's over some jealousy she has against you xxx hugs to you 

Serious case of jealousy going on there with your sister Jen,
Easier said than done but try to ignore negative comments, she's trying to bring you down because she clearly has issues with herself, you can't support people if their Jelous and bitter towards you, 
I'm talking from experience here. I've not spoken to my sister in a couple of years because everything I did that made me feel better and didn't affect her in the slightest she would find fault with and try and bring me down, in the end I had enough got up and walked away and I haven't once looked back, im not suggesting you do that BUT I am saying in life we make our own happiness, just like you wouldn't have had your BA without anasthesia whilst awake, don't go through life being miserable for someone else's happiness, - hope that made sense 
Xx hugs Xx

Thanks everyone. Its hard to think she could be jealous cuz to me, thats me being big headed.She definitely is is though. All her friends are bigger than her, like a fair bit bigger. I know my sister wears a size 10,( im a size 6) we are sisters! I know stuff, yet she sat there telling me last night how she is happy being an 8 but wouldn't mind if she was a 10.
Im pretty understanding and easy going, I like to hope im supportive too! I don't get why she didn't just say she is feeling a bit rubbish with the changes to her body etc and then let me, in true big sister style, build her up and support her. Tell her its not forever and something beautiful will come of it blah blah lol instead, she used her insecurities to try and tear me down, make it all about how inadequate I am in order to make herself feel a bit better. Thats just mean.
I almost couldn't believe it! Then I remembered she is a woman lol how are u guys all so lovely when in real world I cant be arsed with women at all lol

And thanks guys, im putting a lot of hard work into my body! And mot as punishment, but the opposite. My body deserves to function optimally, I deserve to feel great inside :) and I will get a bubble butt even if I vomit on the squat rack!! Lol x

You know what Jen, you need to turn the tables a bit here. She's def jealous and is having some major body issues. 

So, what I'd do is, when she comes out with all this ridiculous and jealously fuelled cr*p, grab her, pull in tight for a hug and say exactly what you have said in your last post- you know she's feeling rubbish, changes to her body etc, build her up a bit and tell her it's not forever, etc, etc.

This way, everything she said will have flown so high over your head it's like you didn't even hear it, but yet you're still supporting her and recognising how she feels deep down. It will throw her of balance. Yes of course in a way your patronising her and being a bit sarcastic,  but if you say it in a way where it seems like she's not even said a bad word to you I think she'll wonder what the hell is going on and she'll know that she can't bring your beautiful-self down!! 

This is just my opinion and what if do if I were in the same situation. 

I don't like playing games but when someone is being outright b*tchy to me I use a bit of tactic and try to turn things around, without doing much or arguing with them. 

x x x

[You must be registered and logged in to see this link.] that might just work! :) x

She knows what she is doing hun, and she's doing it for the reason we all know- jealousy!! But, if you flip it and use a bit of tactic on her, she'll soon realise that what she's doing is having no effect on you, EXCEPT for you to realise how cr*p and jealous she's feeling and your mollycoddling her with support about it! 

She'll get bored and realise it's silly, and it's actually herself who is obssessed with jealousy! 

And, if that don't work. Tell her to stop gobbing off, get her hormones in check and GET A GRIP!! Haha. 

x x x

Just remember to keep following it through everytime she says something. Flip it round and go in for a hug telling her it'll be alright. 

She'll soon think f*ck this, it's too weird!! 

x x x

Thanks sweet :)
She gets on the defensive quite quickly but I reckon a bit of sneaky tactics could work lol x x

Just throwing it out there, but hormones are raging as you'll know having 3 kids already through pregnancy. I know I didn't know if I was coming or going when I was pregnant. My poor husband used to duck before I even opened my mouth when he walked through the door I really was that bad. 

Ive never had issues with other women at all either never before, or after being pregnant, but 'whilst' pregnant - I hated women with great bodies - I mean how bloody dare they walk past me ease illy on the same side of the street looking like that. 

I hated women with great boobs - I KNEW they were all wearing push-up. 

I hated women with good legs - I mean why wear shorts that high when you KNOW you've got good legs, you know men will looking. 

The list goes on and on Jen. 

Obviously I don't really believe any of that. Its just to show how distorted feelings and emotions can sharpen whilst you're youre all hormonal knowing for the next nine months all you have to look forward to until the bby comes is getting fatter and fatter. 

You know your sister better than anyone though babe, so you'll know if these are true jealousy issues or not, but I just thought I'd throw it out there just incase it wasn't considered. 

If it is jealousy, maybe a chat with her about it might help resolve this for you both. You're both moving on with your lives in different directions and maybe if your sis knew how much she was hurting you it would hurt her twice as much?...you never know though unless you talk it through.

But it sounds like you had a good relationship before this, so I hope the pair of you can find at least some middle ground to work through this. Remember....jealousy is always the most sincere form of flattery xx

I can jjust imagine it...
Her "blah blah blah, sh1t about your boobs"
Me "Aaw, don't worry, you wont be fat and pregnant forever"
Lol...OK, maybe not quite like that ....x x

Thats true cookie. We always had a great relationship and she would always talk to me openlyabout things. I breezed thru my pregnancies so maybe she doesn't feel she can say it.
Still doesn't excuse the mean Ness though!
It all started when I told her I had booked my consultation and its just got worse since.
Its a weird one x

Nope, no excuse for being mean hun, so maybe that's what she needs telling.  Xx

Hi Jen I have this with my sister. It's jelousy and she can see how great you look and working out to keep yourself looking at your best is a good thing. If you don't look after yourself, no one else is going to do it for you. Keep up all the hard work Jen!! It will probably get a little worse once she has her baby because that's when she is going to feel slightly out of shape. It's not very nice but jelousy really gets to the person that is jelous. When she says she is going to be an F cup. Say oh I'm really pleased for you. That way she gets no where with it. Rise above it. When she sends you a picture. Say do you know what , that's a really nice photo. Don't let her know it's getting to you. Stay as you are and look body beautiful. Xxxx

Hi Hun I can relate you to Alittle bit as my older sister by four years definately gets jealous sometimes but will show it it passive aggressive ways! In my opinion she's always been the prettier , more confident one but everytime I make an effort she seems to hate it lol! She had her boobs done when she was quite young and I was happy for her now a few years later when I want mine done ( due to them changing after baby) she thinks I'm ridiculous - bit of a hypricate lol! She also says I'm obsessed with my body as I've just started working out and enjoying the results I'm getting, silly really as I know she's trying her hardest to get in shape and is hiding it from me! Like we are in competition! I love her but thinks she's very immature and must be quite insecure about herself I try to let it go over my head which I think I should do! It's her who obviously has insecurity problems shame as we used be really close now I don't like being around her! Xxxx

[You must be registered and logged in to see this link.] our stories could be the same! Except im the older sister.
I really feel for you, its rubbish isn't it :(

[You must be registered and logged in to see this link.] yr right. And along the same lines as raisen. Ive just been ignoring its she doesn't think its bothering me. I would never show to her face that it makes me cross. Thats why I vented on here lol

You guys are the best <3 x x

Sorry to hear that Jen.

In agreement with all the other ladies on here, it 100% boils down to jealously and insecurity.

The best thing you can do is rise above it, smile about it, and do something that'll throw her off guard like give her a big hug. Her hormones will be amok, but she sounds like she's being bitter for the sheer hell of it.

You sometimes have to take a step back and laugh. As long as you've got the support of friends and your partner, who cares what she thinks!

xxx

Don't let it get you down easier said then done I know! Whenever I hear a silly little dig to me now I just let it go over my head as I know she loves but she handles her feelings all wrong so I just see myself as the stronger more clued up one out if us! Sounding big headed but that's how I deal with it lol.... I would take into account hormones aswel thou as I know myself they can do funny things to ya xxx

Certainly sounds like jealousy =( 
With her being pregnant, hormones high and probably envisioning herself as a whale at the end, wont be helping how she feels either.
Best thing to do is re-assure her, she looks great etc, she's not going to be pregnant forever.

Thank you everyone :)
Its just nicet to have someone to listen sometimes isn't it :)
Ive had more drama today with her,but over text so I just didn't text back. I cant be arsed with it x