Mums and BA 's

I was on the phone the other day to my mum, as you do, and she asked me what I had been up to. I said, I have been down the sunbed parlour. I was with my husband as he likes to use the sunbed. She said " you can't go on the sunbed because your implants will melt"  I said how's that then, she said because it's a plastic bag and the heat will melt your implants!! I said no mum and anyway I wasn't going on the sunbed. Sometimes you would think she was blonde! Please note I am blonde myself. No offence intended. Do any of your mums come out with the same sort of stuff.? The list could go on for me all the funny things she has come out with. Xxx

Lol! Maybe explain to her that they are silicone, the same material as all these oven trays and cake tins and cooking utensils! It can withstand heats of like, 200 degrees!

I don't talk to my mom, so no ridiculous comments!

Oh that would confuse her more.! Oven trays and breast implants :shrug:Even though I know what you mean. Xx

Charlii wrote:

I don't talk to my mom, so no ridiculous comments!

I don't either. Glad its not just me :) x

I found this highly amusing!! Haha sounds like something my sister would say! Xx

Hehe, those funny comments.

My mum- "make sure you buy that dress 1 or 2 sizes bigger than you are now otherwise you won't be able to do it up after the op!"

Ummm no!

Haha that's  well funny Jen :ral:Xxx

Oh sorry firecracker haha even funnier xx

Firecracker, I think your mums right, you would defiantly need a dress 2 sizes bigger if you have your boobs enhanced, along with your gut and butt! Hehe xx

Exactly!! haha 

Jen23 wrote:

Charlii wrote:

I don't talk to my mom, so no ridiculous comments!

I don't either. Glad its not just me :) x

Me three. We haven't spoken for a little over a year now. 

My mother was always so critical and it was always over the most ridiculous things. I don't miss that at all

Ah guys, it gives me a little sad thinking you don't speak to your mummies :'( 

I know you all have your own reasons but, ahhh man :( 

Oh and firecracker my mum said exactly the same thing to me- you'll need a few sizes up clothes wise once you get your boobies- her actual exact words! 

I was like what the fudge mum, I'm only having a increase in my cup size I'm not going in for surgery to make me obese!!!! 

X x x

Oh please don't be sad for me Raisen! It's entirely my choice and I don't feel sad about it! I got to a point where I realized the woman was a jealous bully, and actually I was the adult in the relationship. She would continually pick on me for no reason than to make herself feel better. I actually gave her an ultimatum for my wedding, if you can't be happy for me, don't bother showing up. She 'fixed' that one with money. When it came to my BA, she was all 'nerr nerr I found out', and I'm like, it wasn't even a secret, I just didn't get round to telling you. Then when I did, she didn't even give a sh1t, no regular mom questions like, what hospital, what surgeon, where will you be, who's looking after you. So it was at that point I cut her off. I realized I wouldn't let any other person in my life treat me like that, why should I let her get away with it. Yeh, it upsets my dad a little, and he'd love for us to patch things up. But then I remind him that she's made zero attempt to reach out to me either.

It shocks people at first, but when they hear the whys, they tend to understand. But my life is so much lighter without her in it. Yes it is a little sad, but it was the best decision for me to make to be happy in my life.

Sometimes we have to think about ourselves in life. Happiness is the most important thing xxx

Your story could be mine charlii. Exactly the same, emotional bully, narcissist, jealous, always calling me fat, telling me James would find someone better and leave.
I beat myself up enough without having her to do it for me. I figured if I knew her and she wasn't my mum, would I give her the time of day? Definitely not! So why should she be able to treat me like that because she is my mum. I used to think I missed her, but I miss the ideaof having a mum, not my mum.

Anne, its all about self preservation :) x

Absolutely essential to put yourself first ladies! 

And Christ if my mum was as horrid then I'd be cutting her out too! 

I did have a massive fall out with my mum when I was about 19-20, didn't speak to her for over 2years. But, we managed to patch things up. To be honest it wasn't the fact that my mum was just a horrible piece of work that we fell out so that's probably why we are ok now. 

I'll adopt all of you and be a surrogate mum haha! 

X x x

Some mothers just don't have a maternal bone in their bodies. My mother was one of them.. Always overly critical and as teenagers (my sister and I) were constantly told whenever anyone dare suggested we were pretty that we weren't a patch on her when she was young. We lived a life in her shadow and nothing we did was right. We brought ourselves up with me being the older having to take care of my younger sister. Over the years I just acepted her for what she was. I was away from her, I had my own little family and she could criticise all she liked - 'I' was and still am happy and that was something she could never take away from me or spoil. 

But a year ago the sadistic part of my mother that we all knew about but never spoke of reared its head. I'd rather not go into too much detail because it's far too embarrassing. But what I will say is that whilst I lay dying, fighting for life she attacked my family to herald herself a martyr. I'd learned to flick a switch off in my head over the years to her abuse toward me, it just went right over my head...but my family.....you don't mess with my family and far too much has been said (on their side) to ever make any attempt of a relationship again. 

In her claims for my welfare. Not once since Ive been discharged as an inpatient has she ever asked how I am. 

When I look back, she was always nothing but a big headache. Now she's out of my life I feel like a dark clouds been lifted - She disgusts me.

Definitely agree with that, I of quite a few woman who are just not maternal at all and I really do wonder why they had children in the first place?! But, hey, that's their choice and business, not mine! 

Wowee, she sounds a right peach cookie!!!!

I think my problem is I expect too much of people. Because I consider myself a nice person, I imagine that everyone else is the same. Saddens me when people are just simply a**holes!

Their loss though ladies, everyone on here seems lovely to me! 

x x x

They are all lovely here 

My mother only did one good thing for me that I will thank her for eternally and that's in making 'me' the best mother I could possiblybe. I always said growing up I would never be like her when I had kids and I reap the rewards of that every single day whilst my mother....she's living a very lonely life. 

Ain't Karma a bitch    Xx

COOKIE wrote:

My mother only did one good thing for me that I will thank her for eternally and that's in making 'me' the best mother I could possiblybe. I always said growing up I would never be like her when I had kids and I reap the rewards of that every single day whilst my mother....she's living a very lonely life. 

Ain't Karma a bitch    Xx

Exactly the same here. I was always told that I would understand when I had my own kids. The first time I held my firstborn daughter, I remember looking at her and wondering how any mother can say those things. It made me step even further away from her than ever.
If we were in touch and she knew I had my boobs done she would either 1) tell me how amazing hers were and that she didn't need it (even tho I know she has always wanted it)
2) go and get hers done, but bigger lol

I also feel relief that she isn't in my life. She is poison and I wouldn't want her treating my daughters the way she has me x

My mum is the type of person to come out with some of these funny comments... Only time will tell :)

I'm really lucky to have a good relationship with my mum and dad.. It wasn't always like that though. When I was 13-14 I had a very bad relationship with my dad.. Luckily we've worked through it and come out the other end :) xx

Oddly enough to was always me and dad at loggerheads in my teens, but since leaving home I've forged much better relationships with him and my brother and sister. 

My mom stopped being my mom a long long time ago, she wanted to be my mate, so I had very little support during my teens and pretty much got away with murder as long I said where I was and when I was coming home. Never mind if that included illegally drinking in the pub then staying over at my older boyfriends house. The woman threw my bed away the week I moved to uni, so 6m late when I dropped out, I was homeless. 'you can sleep on the couch'. I ended up moving in with my then boyfriend who, 9yrs later I'm married to. So you know, all the crap I've taken, it all happens for a reason and works out in the end. I've learnt that it's not my fault I'm more successful than her (I do have an evil smirk that my house is bigger than hers!)

Lol, you guys are way cheaper than my therapist!!

Charlii wrote:

Lol, you guys are way cheaper than my therapist!!

Exactly what I thought charlii lol
My mum kicked me out at 17 then called the police when I didn't come home after the wknd.....she had turned my room into an office in the mean time!
My brother got similar treatment, he got put in care when her new baby came along (second husband) x