telling new partners about your surgery

by loui1981 13th January 2015, 6:52 am

I've been speak to a very nice man and we are meeting on Thursday. There would be no physical business going on anyway for a whole as I need to feel comfortable with someone first. My question is I look very natural but at a time when you are being honest with each other should I tell him about my augmentation? It's not a casual fling as neither of us are looking for that and are both at a time in our lives where we are looking to settle. Should I keep quiet about it for now?

by Jen23 13th January 2015, 7:53 am

Thats a toughie!
I would personally, I am not ashamed (not saying that you are) to have had surgery, and there is no way I could actually be this size, or shape,with how slim I am and how many children ive breastfed.
I haven't told everybody though, none of my family know but then, with them at least, I feel its on a need to know basis and its none of their business.
I think its u to you. It depends if its a big deal to you really. Not telling is not lieing, so when you are sleeping together, if he notices (he is a man so maybe not lol) and asks you could just be honest then.
Sorry, im probably not helping x

by Mammamia 13th January 2015, 8:11 am

It's a personal thing. My boobs are personal to me and therefore I would tell anyone I was happy to share my boobs with. Hence I wouldn't say anything until such time that you're close enough to feel comfortable about taking your clothes off! But go with your instinct. You'll know when it's right.

by anneritchley 13th January 2015, 8:26 am

Im with Jen and mammamia on this one. It's a personnel choice. If you think it's time to say something then say it. I don't suppose he will be bothered. If you feel as though it's right to say something before it's gets to the point of taking clothes off then do that. He won't think any less of you . Xxx

by camilla85 13th January 2015, 9:42 am

Agree with ladies above hun, in fact I work with girl who had her first BA when she was 18 and some time after she met someone...To cut lobg story short after about 9 months since their relationship started he pitched up and asked her if that's true that she had a boob job as he hasnt noticed himself for months and she didnt bother telling him either lol
She said to me they looked so natural etc he didnt have a clue lol

by **COOKIE** 13th January 2015, 9:55 am

Wouod you consider telling a new man in your life if you had surgery to remove your bunions?

I'm sure you wouldn't feel the need at all, so why tell them about your boobs?

You don't owe it to anybody, not even a partner to have to yell them at all if you don't want to.

This surgery is no different than any surgery and unless a guy actually asked me if I'd had my boobs 'augmented' I'm with Camillas friend and I'd keep my mouth shut.

Your boobs are as real as any other woman's, yes they've had a little help, but if you don't have to tell them because as you say they are so natural, why stress over it?

I'd personally just go with the flow and if the question came up - I'd deal with it then, because if he's someone you care enough to have sex with, if he does ask the question you should then both be comfortable enough to discuss like two adults sharing any 'pillow talk' xx

by Boobies2be 13th January 2015, 10:22 am

I agree with all of the above. No two pairs of boobs are the same anyway, so unless he actually comes out and asks you, then you don't need to tell him. x

by Lauramumof3 13th January 2015, 12:10 pm

Don't tell him, if you wouldn't normally discuss your boobs pre op with a guy then you shouldn't feel you have to post op, could be fun to see if he ever notices ;)

For now enjoy getting to know each other. It's not like you've had a sex change so it's not that much of a big issue well Atleast for so early on. When it gets to a point you feel you may be moving more towards a physical relationship you could perhaps tell him.

At the end of the day though it's up to you. If you'd rather he knew then go for it ;) if he's any kind of real guy he won't be bothered anyway as I'm guessing he's not dating you just for your boobs. You're amazing and that's all that he prob cares about hope I've made sense

Xx

by ACKUGA28 13th January 2015, 2:05 pm

Hi ya,

I echo all what the ladies have said above,
If he doesn't ask you, then don't tell him, but it's completely up to you Hun, it's what you feel comfortable with. Xxx

by kezjb 13th January 2015, 7:54 pm

I think I'd be inclined to say nothing unless the conversation steers itself that way, of if he asked.
I wouldn't hide it but wouldn't feed the need to go out my way to tell them :)

by Princess_x 14th January 2015, 1:22 pm

I wouldn't come out with it this soon, but in time I would. My boyfriend of 3 months already knew about mine as it was blatantly obvious from nights out pictures on Facebook lol x

by loui1981 16th January 2015, 6:14 am

Well I didn't tell him but we did have a perfect date. Plenty of gentle kissing but no wandering hands hehe. I think I will play it by ear x

by sarahlou222 16th January 2015, 6:23 am

Aww that's fantastic :) you'll have to keep is updated!
I'm so glad it went well for you! Xx

by Jen23 16th January 2015, 7:04 am

Aaw, thats lovely :) I bet yr on cloud 9 x

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