Vanity or need?

What's your reason for you having your BA? 

Was it sheer vanity? Or was it a need inside you that pushed you forward to do this?

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When I had my first BA, it was honestly out of need. I'd had a lumpectomy on both boobs and also Breast fed two children so my boobs were pretty much a hot mess. 

I learned to live with them until my children were grown. We just couldn't have afforded for me to have the surgery back then (24 years ago) there was a recession on and ,things were pretty hard for so many people back then. But we struggled through and things got better. We had saving in the bank and my kids were old enough for me to tell them why, although when I started to tell them they run a mile with their fingers in their ears not wanting to know 

So as soon as the opportunity came for me, I jumped at it. 

surgery number 2. I had a rupture so needed that too

The scar revisions...well, I suppose that could be seen as vanity. I am a vain person and I'm not ashamed to admit that. So I strived for perfection in my boobs and when I got it. I didn't want it. I have fab boobs that a younger woman would LOVE! They're pert, nipples perfectly central and they sit basically out of my bra as they do in it lol. And that's 4 years after surgery! 

My last surgery (with implants) well, having CC plus a seroma in my left Breast, that's definitely a need. I could just have the left Breast sorted and an implant thrown in and they'd look exactly as they do. But vanity again calls me lol. I don't want my boobs rounded, I don't want my nipples centred, I don't want them this big, I want them more natural and befitting of a woman my age. 

So yeah, I'm a vain bugger lol, but there's been a lot of need in my journey to get to where I am now. Xx

Mines were kind off for need as I didn't have anything in the boobs department after being miserable in my own body for years I decided to take the plunge & went for it at the ripe old age of 46! My only regret is having not done it sooner. XXX

I think mine was a bit of both, before I had my kids I loved the idea of huge , pert , solid , fake boobs! I loved katie prices boobs! I had a consultation and was advised to have my children first. Had 2 kids, breast fed both and the boobs went south! They didn't look awful tho, however I still loved the whole big fake boob look, I love towie, love there boobs! We was in a position to be able to afford it, so I went for it!
I'm mega happy with my boobs, they only thing that worried me was things going wrong, and really I was doing it just because, not because I 'needed' it. Made me feel a bit guilty. My hubby reminded me of how I don't really do anything for 'me' and it's about time I put myself first in a way xx

Mine was both...I felt like I NEEDED them to stop the lack of them taking over my life, but if it wasn't for vanity, I would have just accepted that this was my lot.  I'm not a vain person in the slightest, but I do think it's important that we feel good about ourselves.

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Its so interesting reading your accounts girls :)
Mine were a bit of both, I guess. Here I shall admit something I havnt on here so far.
We had our 3 girls and I went for a consultation,I was 23. Too many young children to have done it at that time. 4 years later we decided to have another baby, we struggled to conceive and had IVF, it worked but sadly I suffered a silent miscarriage which was only picked up on aroutine scan later. After everything I went through with IVF, including 2 GA's in under 6weeks, I decided that I would not put myself thru that willingly again.
After losing weight I kept my (deflated) 32c bust. It was Only when I started working out that the boobs went.
My husband convinced me that I had given everything to our children, including my boobs, and as we knew having any more would never be an option, I should have them now rather than be miserable for the 10 year time frame I had set myself.
Im glad he did convince me :) Im happy I did it, and finally understand how it feels to be a woman....even if I have had my ups and downs with them the last couple of days x

Jan, thats so sad :(  So glad to hear you have a wonderful family though, and a very supportive family.  He's a wise man :) x

Aghhhh I swear I'm intent on changing your name to Jan!!! xx

Bless you Jen xx

Thanks girls :) isn't crazy how sometimes u don't realise you feel a certain way until you write it x

For you Jen. :hugme:It takes one heck of a strong woman to have gone through all that. Xx

Thanks cookie :) that means a lot. I couldn't have done it without my hubby, he really is the best and im very lucky to have him....in fact, we are lucky to have each other ;) x x

He sounds wonderful Jen. You're both so lucky to have found each other.  Xx

I wouldn't say it was vanity or need, I feel like those two words are to strongly opposed. I didn't need boobs to continue, and I don't feel it was a vanity thing...it was more a want of them in order to make myself feel like a woman. I wanted to have those curves, to make those clothes look good on me, and I wanted to stop looking at myself in the mirror and seeing a pre-pubescent boys body. Id gone that long without them, and I think I probably could have lived with it if I really thought about it...I just didn't want to.

Ditto! It wasn't vanity and I didn't want them to be noticeable to others (although clearly it was to look better!) but at the same time it wasn't a need either, just a nice to have! Don't get me wrong I'd always hated my boobs and thought about a ba but never seriously, but then thought one day there was nothing stopping me and it was about time I did something for myself!

I felt it was a need. I was deeply unhappy with mine, I cried about them so much over the years and felt inferior as a woman.

I'd feel intimidated by woman with bigger boobs as though they were better than me. It sounds mad I know but it really affected me.

I guess for me it was vanity. I never had boobs even when I was a big girl! I lost 8 stone 5 years ago and I wanted boobs before then but even more so after losing the weight. Ive liked having curves alhough always thrived for a smaller body! After having a year of so many sudden and tragic deaths it really opened my eyes to see that life can be so short and you really have to do what you want and what makes you happy so I though f**k it! Im going to finally do it. Now I not only like my curves, I LOVE them! I feel like a woman now and love my wide hips, thunder thighs and mainly, my new boobies!! x

For me it was a need.
The many, many nights and days crying and begging and praying that I would have breasts of a lady.
My ex partner (from age 13 to age 21) use to tell me I wasn't a real woman as I had boobs of a adolescent.
It has affected my mental health considerably over the years. It's only gone and taken me 18 years (approx) to finally make it happen.
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I needed them probably out of vanity. Some women are content to write off heir boobs after breastfeeding two children but I hated mine. I knew after stopping breastfeeding my daughter they would dissappear and almost over night they were gone. They went from full to empty wrinkled droopy sacs. Like deflated balloons. I wasnt in a happy relationship and dating for me was horrible as I found it hard to be confident in myself. I think if I'm honest I was unhappy with my life as I'd come out of a marriage and struggling as a working single mum and was looking for something to blame and saw my boobs as one thing I could change. So now I'm ok with my breasts although I'm having revision so they are still not great. It hasn't given me the happiness I was lookin for though.

There's some really personal stuff in these posts girls and I just wanted to thank you all for opening up. 

It's good for us all to read what goes through another's mind when deciding to have a Breast Augmentation, it's especially good for those who may be lurking out there wondering if this is the right decision, possibly 'needing' the surgery but not feeling brave enough to go ahead, or just simply doing this for sheer vanity and thinking they may have to justify that, when of course we don't. 

Threes so much I feel so many will be able to relate to in these posts and I know for some it's taken a lot of guts to post what they have. 

I LOVE you Breast Buddies and the support it offers and how honest you have all been. 

i have to admit , mine is a bit of both, mostly NEED.
used to get called rotten things when i was abit younger things like- amber vest chest, amber2 backs .
just dont feel womanly i feel like a bloke. will all be over soon cant wait xx

A bit of both in my case I think.Main reason is to correct asymmetry and I do not like my size either.

Mine is both, vanity and need. 

I would love them to look nice again after getting really bad rippling about 3 months after starting breastfeeding, and need because it would do wonders for my self confidence and happiness, and after the breastfeeding I am pretty sure they have ruptured because there was so much pressure with breast pumps, really hungry baby, they cannot have survived intact! 

I hate that other people make you feel guilty for having cosmetic surgery, or not being a 'good mum' especially when you have had a child without knowing the story behind it. 

It's hard enough having the confidence to go ahead with surgery when you have had complications without other people making you feel guilty for going ahead. 

But this forum has been amazing, the other women are so supportive and it's given me the peace of mind to know I am doing the right thing.